Im asking, because as a christian girl. i was thought that i should only date christian guys. I know a couple of cool guys, but none actually serve the lord. Is it a bad idea to get into a relationship when im really religious but the guy isnt at all ?
Im finding it really hard to find teen christian guys. But I know guys who arent religious but are boy friend material.
F.Y.I im 15 turning 16.
2006-07-21 17:05:01 · 41 answers · asked by La Princesa 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sister Christian, The Word of God is saying not to be unequally yoked for a good reason! If you put together an ox and mule together they won't pull together cause one is strong as an Ox and the other one is as stubborn as an a**! They won't pull together as a team the load your carrying! Think what common ground has Light and darkness God & Satan none! You need to wait for that Christian Man who has some of the same convictions as you that way you'll pull together as one team acheiving much for the Lord and and you'll get ahead in life much quicker because your working together in a common thread with Christ being the Main Hub in your relationships! Hope this helps pray God will help you through this time in Jesus Name wait for the Man sold out to Jesus like yourself!
2006-07-21 17:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by Wayne S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spiritual compatibility is very important - whatever that level of spirituality is. In my experience, if I'm dating someone much more or much less spiritual than I am, it doesn't last long.
I'd say go ahead and date a guy if you think he's cool. But be prepared to accept him the way he is, and give him the space to have his own beliefs. Also be prepared that you might find yourself not satisfied with the relationship. I don't think there's anything wrong with just dating casually at your age. 10 years from now, you'll appreciate the experience, and you'll be able to know for yourself how well you can accept a relationship where he's not as spiritual as you are.
In the meantime - you sound pretty religious - ask God (or your angels) to send you a suitable partner. Then put your faith in the fact that your request has been heard.
2006-07-21 17:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by locolady98 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that is an interesting question, and I find most young people, especially those choosing to serve Christ, experiencing this. My first thing would be not to anxious. The word says to be anxious for nothing, but to seek God first. Now if you do that, you know God will never LEAD you to serve someone that is not serving Him. Reason I said LEAD in capital is becuase we should LED by the Spirit. (Galatians 5:16) You should not be uneuqally yoked up wit an unbeliever cuz eventually one will influence the other, and usually we fall away off our lust. Now, second, YOU ONLY 15 GIRL LOL...you got plenty of time. If I was you, I'd be chillin wit some friends or somethin. Never get locked down too early. Also, this gives you time to get closer to God for yourself. Well I hope this helps. Have a blessed day.
2006-07-21 17:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by kellen f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From one christian to another. If you find someone who you want to date and then you happen to fall in love with that person then I don't see anything wrong with it. You know people can change if he can see what God is doing in your life then he might end up a christian. But I don't think pushing your beliefs on anyone is good either. Just tell the guy I am a Christan if you choose to follow my path with the lord great if you don't I understand to because you are your own person. As long as he doesn't sin then I say go for it. You can always talk with your Pastor/Priest/Rabi and see what he says. Just follow your heart and I am sure you have a good head on your shoulders.
2006-07-21 17:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by stacyda20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time you'll change your mind about "religious" and "relationship"..not so much with guys, but God first, remember, Jesus didn't sit with the pharisees.They were very religious, but hard in their hearts.
Its hard though to be around someone you care for and NOT be influenced by their lifestyle. So dating a "not so religious" person may or may not work depending on what you are trying to get out of the relationship and what you are willing to sacrifice. I think you should look at in terms of...his awareness of God and the control He allows God to have in changing his life...for the better.
I would rather date, a man who did not go to church every week but had an awareness for kindness and love, then a man who was so religious that his heart was hardened and had no compassion....not even to the word of God. Unfortunately, its that way alot....
When it comes down to it though, I think you should be deciding on the cleanliness of his heart: the sincerity and compassion, because no matter where he grew up, be it the ghetto or grande rapids, or in church...a man of humility gives the best love.
***PS: God can use YOU to bring someone to HIM****
Love ya momma, hope that helped.
2006-07-21 18:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've tried dating non-religious (I'm a whole lot older), it doesn't usually work out. I've found that the reason is you can't share a huge part of your life with them because they don't really understand it. With that being said though, if a guy is open to religion, he may change and see the light as well. I've not had that experience, but I know others that have; however, it took a long, long time and the guy really respected the woman.
Personally, I won't date outside of my religion anymore. It's just not worth the hassle.
2006-07-21 17:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this stage in the game I see no problems with you dating guys who have a different set of beliefs than you do, because dating is experiementing with how to have a relationship for marriage, and you don't actually think that any guy you date now at your age will be THE ONE! So I think it's okay, but in the long run, when your purpose of dating DOES turn into looking for THE ONE, I think you will be VERY unhappy with going with a guy that isn't religious like you are, when you raise kids you want to make sure that your beliefs are the same or there will be MAJOR fights, not to mention if your parents are religious they might object to any guy you start dating that doesn't have the same beliefs, so if you think this might be an issue you might want to bring it up to them and get their opinion on it as well. I personally am atheist, and would not want to be married to someone who didn't believe pretty close to what I do, it would make things very awkward, in a relationship that is supposed to be VERY close. So on the other end I wouldn't seriously date anyone who was VERY religious. I'm married by the way, and my husband while is not completely atheist is also not religious, so we found a happy medium in just being "nothing" I know it may seem hard for you to find guys with similar beliefs but I think if you compromise your standards just because you are lonely you will end up being unhappy with yourself and you will also find that you are not being true to your beliefs in your religion (please don't think just because I do not believe in God that I think you are stupid for believing, or that I think you SHOULDN'T believe, I respect your decision to follow your heart and your faith, so take that into consideration when you look at my advise and don't dismiss my advise because of my own beliefs, or lack of beliefs in God). I hope you find happiness, with yourself your faith, and with your dating decisions!
2006-07-21 17:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kat__hleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the time in your life when you'll first realize how hypocritical, if not downright mean, that christians can be
either the reaction you get from others when dating a non christian guy, or from the first christian boy who tries to put the moves on you just like any other horny pig would, or maybe just those helpful christians who would like to randomly remind you what a whore you are for having done more than hold hands with a boy
a lot of questions will be raised by yourself, to yourself, and they'll be good ones, that you have to answer...date whoever you want, it'll either make you a stronger christian, or make you rethink how much weight it should have in your life
2006-07-21 17:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by chad l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my many experiences in life I have found that it can be an issue.Currently trying my hand in the game of love with someone who's description of religion is"I believe that there is a higher power but, I dont know that I believe there is a god.I thought it to be ironic that my lasting two relationships were with guys who really didn't worship.That issue became a problem when I started to waiver in my faith.It can tear you apart mentally and physically.I advise you to first be true to yourself.It is obviously an issue with you .Why else would we be having this conversation.In short ..either you have to be willing to have a major issue in your relationship(and at some point it will be).Or you have to stay away from that all together.Reminds me of the old clique" Opposites attract".The ultimate decision is yours
2006-07-21 17:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by faithdestinylove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a person who isn't Christian will not help your walk with Jesus. I think a Christian person should only date other Christians so they can help each other grow in Jesus. A relationship should be there for the two people to praise Jesus because of their special bond.
If you're dating someone who isn't close to Jesus, do you really think they're going to help you get closer or pull you away???
You will find a Christian boy! There are many out there. Also, you can always bring your non-Christian guy friends to church with you, and maybe you can bring them to be Christians, too!: D
2006-07-21 17:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋