My BF of 4 years used me for money, left me for another & gave me engagement ring/took back. how do i revenge?

Question

do u know how painful it is to be living a lie for 4 years be fake proposed 2 with an engagement ring/promise of love marriage 4 ever all the while he is just using me for my money & stole 4 years of my life . i wish i were fricken dead it hurts so much. i hate him so much i wish he were dead too

Answer 1

a .45 Caliber and a shovel will do the job. No seriously though, He is a loser.. Find a real man. What would of happened if you would of married and had children and he did this. It hurts for a while but move on quickly and don't let losers contol your emotions. There are GOOD men out there.

Answer 2

Ok first of all....Don't EVER wish you were dead because of a guy. Especially a guy you want to get revenge on. Here is one my friend did...Her and her boyfriend worked for the same hotel and were away for training when he broke up. Anyway, she changed rooms to be right next to him, met a stranger in the bar and screwed him with her balcony curtains wide opened. He smoked and it was a non smoking floor so he had to go out there and see. Try something like that.

Answer 3

I know this sounds cliche, but to get revenge is to move on....
I was in your situation before, and I was with a girl who used me for money.
there are always nasty ways, make out with his best friend or spread rumors about his small ......., and how much of a smooch he is etc...but you are better than that
Think about it, the best way is to get this guy out of ur life...never talk to him again, because he will always find a way to come back, use u a bit again, then leave again.
u r a nice and giving person. shame on him for taking ur generousity ,giving character ,nice personality and using it the wrong way.
You are better off without him. Use this opprotunity to spend your money on yourself, pamper yourself, get in shape, go out and experience the exciting life as a single person.there is nothing wrong with being single....Travel, I know that you are used to the habit of a relationship, and you've been disoriented and shaken up by what he has done. but this is your chance to improve yourself in so many ways.
There is so much out there to do...have some fun....most important is make a list of things you like to do, write them down and plan your weeks ahead of time so you don't have time where you are alone and think about this relationship...never look back, it slows you down

Answer 4

do you really think the new girlfriend he has won't be treated the same way?you will have your revenge when it is made known that he has done it again and again. here in australia we have a newspaper column where people can write in and complain about people like him . you don't mention any names but usually the message gets through from people who recognise the circumstances . the column is called ''buckets and boquets . if your paper doesn't have such a column , write to the editor and ask if you can put a letter in the paper . you might like to put ''buckets'' of horse dung to the fellow who used his girlfriend ,took back the engagement ring and got another girlfriend who is possibly wearing a second hand ring .

Answer 5

I married someone and you would not believe how badly he screwed me over. Within about 1 month, he quit his job. He disappeared for days on end and told me I would have to pay all of the bills because he didn't have a job. He left me a huge pile of bills and his parents set him up a bedroom in their house so he could spend Christmas morning with them and leave me and my son at home with no family, no nothing. When I was in so much debt, I had my car re-possessed, I decided I had enough. I was so ashamed of how badly I was treated. I could go on and on. I ended up paying thousands of dollars in debt to save what was left of my credit rating and moved home with my dad to get back on top of things financially.
I saved myself by just moving away from him and I swear when I left, I left everything behind except what I could fit into a van. I left most of my furniture and took everything I could of my sons because I felt like I messed up so bad. I even had to go out to a department store to buy some clothes because I left most of what I had to wear behind. Just pack your things and move away. You would be surprised at how much it relieves your mind just to be out of the environment you are in. Make some new friends and meet some new people and move on. After a year or 2, the urge to get revenge lessens. I still have my moments, but life and time changes things. These things too shall pass.

Answer 6

The best revenge is SUCCESS!! If you go all crazy on him, it will just make it look like you are desperate... completely cut ties and don't contact him at all... and he will be very curious why. TRUST me!! It was the hardest thing I ever did, not contacting him and completely leaving it alone... but when I bumped into him a year later... he was SO SORRY for everything he had ever done, and hated himself for losing me!

Answer 7

Don't say you wish he was dead, when you say things like that your only cursing yourself. You poor thing. I cant imagine how you feel. There is a little word called karma. He'll get what he deserve in the end.

Answer 8

hes an *** yes, but have the satisfaction that your a bigger person. Lose all contact with him and forget him. Getting revenge is low and childish no matter how much he used you.

Answer 9

wow...omg...im soo sorry...i think youd be more mature if u didnt get revenge...ud also b a stronger person...just try and 4get about him and move on...i know this is probely wont help b/c i dont know what it feels like but i hope u can get over him--i hope u find the right man

Answer 10

Sue him for the money and go on with your life.
Revenge isn't all that it's cracked up to be.