It's isn't really too importrant in the scope of things, but here's what's up: I get scared to go to parties/clubs if no one I know is going. i.e. I'll be there "alone".
2006-07-21 16:31:33 · 24 answers · asked by sdv2390 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I used to be that way. As a result, I never went out unless I was invited somewhere.
However, one night I was feeling particularly attractive and wanted to go to a club. I got all fixed up and just went by myself. And I had THEEE best time! You can come and go as you please. You can talk to anyone you want. You dont have to worry about the other person and what they want to do. And each time I went alone I had a much better time and talked to WAY more people than I ever did when I went out with someone! Think about it, would you be more likely to initiate a conversation with someone who was with a bunch of friends surrounding them or someone who happened to be standing alone?
The thing is, no one knows you are there alone. There are people all over the place that arent with someone either at that moment or at all. If you were there with a friend and that friend went to the restroom or was otherwise busy doing something else, you wouldnt feel as insecure as you would if you were there unaccompanied. So, dont worry about it. Just go, walk around, have a drink and enjoy the environment. The more you go out by yourself the easier it gets!
2006-07-21 16:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by jenniferaboston 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a pill for everything these days, there's probably even a pill for people who need pills. But anyway, what you're describing is NOT a social disorder at all...unless you're a guest on Oprah, then it's an "issue." In all honesty though, what you're describing is what is commonly called shyness, and the best way to get over it is to think of new situations like that as a chance to MAKE NEW friends, rather than constantly depend on the ones who aren't always available.
2006-07-21 23:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by chipchinka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be normal fear or it could be a social phobia. Only a doctor could diagnose it for sure. If it is a social phobia you can work out of it by going to the places you are afraid to go to with some friends close by and they only leave you alone for a few minutes and then increase you time alone each time. It could help. I hope it is just a normal self prservation fear that you should keep at least a little.
2006-07-21 23:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a disorder, it's normal. No one wants to go to a strange place where they know no one.
It is not a social disorder until it effects the normal aspects of your life negatively. Like you don't want to see anyone, even your friends, and you lock yourself in your house. Then it is a problem.
Just find a friend to go with you, if you can't don't go. There is nothing wrong with you.
Don't take any pills for it. They don't work and will make you feel ill. The doctors just want to sucker you into buying them so they make money.
2006-07-21 23:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by charice266 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a degree this is a social disorder. I am in my thirties and I still have trouble meeting people in public at events such as parties and clubs. The best thing to do if you want to attend these things is go and slowly work up the nerve to talk to other people.
2006-07-21 23:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or, maybe you're shy.
You can overcome it by convincing yourself that mostly everyone else at the party/club is thinking more about themselves than they will ever think about you. What I mean is that everyone is worried about how they look and how they sound and really worried about what people are thinking about them.
Everyone is so worried about being judged negatively by other people that they judge themselves harshly. Way more harshly than other people would. Whenever you are out, remember that there is always a good amount of people there who are totally faking it. Pretending to be confident and comfortable. The more you tell yourself to relax and enjoy yourself, the more comfortable you will become.
2006-07-21 23:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by kp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a normal reaction by many people, lots of people wouldn't want to show up at a party by themselves especially since there is gonna be absolutely nobody they know at the party, so who are they going to converse with while everybody has someone to talk to? I have the same exact problem, when I come to problems like this I usually call up a friend and have them meet me there, or if I see someone by themselves as well I walk up to them and start picking up a conversation. Don't be shy =).
2006-07-21 23:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's called being insecure. You're afraid of what people are going to think of you if you go alone, like that you're a loser or have no friends. Just be yourself, socialize, and don't worry about what other people will think of you. I meet more people when I go to clubs or bars alone then if I go with friends, and I can come and go whenever I want.
2006-07-21 23:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by Stranger in a Strangeland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a social disorder. Alot of times it's easier to go to clubs with friends. It's called being shy :P
2006-07-21 23:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by effing.rawr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a social disorder. It is a normal reaction by most people. We all have that desire/need to be in a comfort zone and going into a place where you know no one takes you outside that comfort level.
2006-07-21 23:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by GOUTVOLS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋