ok me and this guy have been together for a month and a half and i really like him and ive seriously became a better person since i've been with him... but he told me the other night on the way home form a baseball game that he loved me and the way he said it i could tell he ment it, it was so sweet so i'm just wonderiong is it to soon for us to be in a serious relationship?
2006-07-21 16:25:48 · 26 answers · asked by UnForGivin Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it suprized me cuz he said it first and when he told me that one night on the way back to takein him home he kissed my forehead and said ' i love you so much' and after he got out of the car i started to cry b/c it was so sweet i know its kinda werid but yeah i really think hes the best guy ive ever been with
2006-07-21 16:39:31 · update #1
If the time feels right to both of you then it's right. The problem is when it's only feeling right for the one who says it first..seemingly not the case for you though.
2006-07-21 16:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no time guidelines for telling someone you love them. Ok, the first date...saying I love you then might come off as a little desperate. At any rate, never say it until you mean it. For you, it might take another few months or another week before you feel that you love him. For him, he might very well feel that he loves you now. Everyone has different criteria for 'love' and for some people saying those words come more easily than they do for others.
Just be 'serious' when it feels right for both of you and don't say I love you until you mean it.
2006-07-21 16:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by Honesty_75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie, You can say it when ever it feels right, just dont say it unless you mean it. Those are very strong words. If you dont feel like its time and he is saying it,make sure you explain that you really care for him but you think it is to soon for u to say the words, so he his not confused and thinks you dont care for him. Some people can know they are in love at first sight,some doesnt know until later Love works in all kinds of ways. You will know when it is the right time, and you wont have to ask if it is right.
Good Luck
2006-07-21 16:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by Karrie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no specific time when you should or should not say "I love you." People should just say those words when you genuinely feel that way about the person you are with. It does not matter if you guys have been together 3 years or 3 weeks.
2006-07-21 16:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends upon your age. If you are over 21, it's not too soon. If you are still in school, take it slowly. Some guys talk a good game and are very convincing. If your guy is sincere and honest, you will know by giving this relationship time...6 months or more.
2006-07-21 16:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with a guy for a month and a half is not too soon to have a serious relationship and to say that you love each other.
I got serious and said I Love You to a guy just a month after dating them.
2006-07-21 16:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really depending on how real you feel about the relationship. There really isn't a limit to when you can say the "L" word, it's just when you think you are really in it. People can accidently say it without knowing if they really do feel it or not, but if you think you're ready to say it, then go for it. It took my boyfriend and I about 6 months to really say it, and we knew it was real because of the glow that we can see in each other's eyes everytime we say it to each other. So as long as you think you can feel butterflies in your stomach and your heart starts to pump faster, you know that you're in love.
2006-07-21 16:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no set time to say you love someone. But you definitly shouldn't say it back just because he said it to you. I know its tough to not feel the need to say it back. Being told that that your loved kinda puts you on the spot because you feel obligated to respond in kind, like when you sneeze and somone says bless you and you say either "thanks" or "excuse me". I think i told my fiancee i love her about 4 or 6 months in. But you know what? Saying you love somone and actually loving them are two different things. I didnt really know what it meant to love her until a few years later. And it took alot of putting her needs before mine. Learning to trust, and accepting her , all of her what she is, not what i wanted her to be. And i can tell you more about love until im blue in the face but you can only truly learn throught time and experience.
Oh BTW, if he follows "i love you" with "do you wanna sleep with me?" then he's full of ****. Good Luck.
2006-07-21 16:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by southca49er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 weeks
2006-07-21 16:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by tyty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Timing isn't always the best way to decide whether you love someone or not.It's how you feel.If you love him, tell him, if you know you do.Don't just say it because he did and you don't know what to say.It may feel too soon, but if you feel in your heart that you do, or might fall for this guy, don't let the timing get in the way.(But there is always the "best" time to say "I love you!")
2006-07-21 16:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Tearz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋