My parents treat me very badly. I've always wanted out of this house and now that i am 16 i think it is my time to do so. I don't have much money but i am willing to work hard in seeing that i am free from my parents. I cannot take it in this house much longer and i will do all that i can to get out. There has been numerious times where i have been through physical and emotional abuse and i am done with it. Can someone give me advise on how to get out?
2006-07-21 16:24:59 · 10 answers · asked by ---><33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm in new york and i;ve tried talking to someone about it. that only gets the pain out for that day. i want out of this house forever. i want to live on my own away from my parents/
2006-07-21 16:42:06 · update #1
The emancipation laws vary from state to state. In Texas, if you're 16, you have to already be living away from your parents/guardians and be able to prove to a judge that you can support yourself financially. If you're 17, you just have to prove to a judge that you can support yourself financially.
You can find out the name of the government department that deals with child and family issues by calling your local police department (NOT 911). The name is different depending on the state (ours is called "Child and Family Protective Services). Then call that agency and tell them what's going on in your household OR simply ask them how a minor becomes emancipated in your state. If you tell them what's going on in your household, they may remove you from the household while they do an investigation. If they remove you, you'll probably live in a housing facility for troubled teens until the investigation is complete. At the end of the investigation, the agency will decide a course of action which may include helping you become emancipated.
If you don't want to stir up an investigation of your family, I suggest that you call the agency and ask them how to become emancipated and not tell them anything about your particular situation. Of course, you might also want to consider other minors living in the household (if any) - if they're being abused as well, an investigation would help get them away from your parents too. Just something to think about.
I just saw that you said you live in New York. Unfortunately, New York doesn't have an emancipation status. I'm not quite sure what that means. http://www.jlc.org/index.php/factsheets/emancipationus#n
Here's the site to find your local Office of Children and Family Services: http://www.ocfs.state.ny.us/main/localdss.asp
2006-07-21 16:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by TrippingJudy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been or is truly being abused then you should contact your local law enforcement ageny or child protective services. When I say truly abused I mean If you're being smacked around and not punished for the sake of discipline,( because your parents have the right to discipline you), then that is the route to take. In order to get emancipated then you need to go to the court house talk with the juvenile clerk and advise her that you want to start proceeding for EMANCIPATION. She will ask you if you have a job? Do you have a place to stay (one where you pay rent and definitely not one with a boyfriend). If you have all of these things then you will more than likely get your wish, but first, I want you to sit down and think about this because your parents are the most important people that you will ever have in your life. If you are really being abused then proceed. The reason I keep stressing this is because I have had so many children ask the same question and they really weren't abused they just wanted out so they could live with the boyfriend or his family because their parents would not let them do what they wanted to do. But remember once you you're emancipated there is no turning back. There is no such thing as being unemancipated. Once you go to court and tell your parents that you don't need them, they no longer have the obligation to be there for you at any time for any thing. You are considered to be your own person. Think about it long and hard before you make your decision. If your parents are truly as bad as you say then go for it. If they aren't then go to them and talk to them be open and honest maybe the three of you can come to a good solution. Talk to your parents as much as you can and always let them know that you love them. I am much older than you I talked to my mom everyday and there are still things that I wish I could tell her and she has been dead for a short time. Cherish those moments if they are good ones. If not call for help. God bless you.
2006-07-21 17:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by simplyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look into the state laws for your state. There is a law in GA that lets you move from your parents house at 17 but you have to stay in state. They are normally hidden but there. Also have you thought about going to the cops it's a quick fix but you would get put into a home until you do turn of age or they might be able to help you with emancipation. It is a hard road once traveled though sweetie. I hope and pray your not doing it for the wrong reasons. If there is abouse though there are places to help you. Use the net to find em or tell your counsoler at school .
2006-07-21 16:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Dreamy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every state has it's own laws regarding emancipation of minors. Contact legal aid office in your city (most have sliding fee scale based on your income) to have your question answered by a lawyer. Additionally, you could contact the local child protection agency which could also answer your question and if needed, provide you with protection from abuse. best wishes...
2006-07-21 16:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ivy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What state are you in? There may be resources specific to your state that you can find on the Web. Or call the courts?
One thing to do is to get a job and start earning money. I think one of the criteria is to be self-supporting financially.
Sorry I don't have more specific advice. Good luck, and be strong!
2006-07-21 16:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are phsycially abused call social services and report the abuse.
Normally to be emancipated.
you will hire an attorney to sue for it in court, you will have to prove you have a job and the money to provide for your living expenses away from your home.
and you will have to provide proof of a reason you need to be out of the home
2006-07-21 16:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your local legal aid or public defender... they can explain all about emancipation to you... and can help you if thats the route you wish to go... look in your phone book under city or government for public defender...
also most family law attorneys will give you a free consultation, and they or thier assistants would be happy to talk with you over the phone (some of them) just look for family law attorneys in the yellow pages...
2006-07-21 16:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by Resasour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been physically abused by your parents, contact family services in your county. They'll help you. good luck.
2006-07-21 16:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any relatives that you can stay with temporarily???? If so, ask them if you can stay with them until all of this gets sorted out........I don't know why some parents (and I am one) feel that abuse is the answer..........I feel for you, dearheart!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-21 16:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of these may help you out:
http://www.adultchildren.org/
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
http://www.codependents.org/
2006-07-21 19:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋