My boyfriend has a daughter by his ex-girlfriend and she is probably pregnant with his second child. He says that he loves his daughter more than anything else. But I think he still has feelings for his ex and his ex is very cantankerous towards me in layman's terms she hates me. I feel like I'm never going to be his 1# girl even if we get very serious. What should I do?
2006-07-21 16:07:46 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you think that then step away. Most of the time. Our first thoughts is the right one. About what is going on.
2006-07-21 16:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldnt you hate your boyfriend's new girlfriend especially if you were a mother of one of his child and still carrying his other child?
You are right in that you may never be his number one girl because he has already told you that he loves his daughter most in the world.
Then the question is... CAN YOU ACCEPT IT?
If you can accept being second best, then you can continue with h him and try to live happily ever after.
If you cant, then go find someone who CAN treat you as his number 1.
I understand exactly how you feel cos my ex boyfriend had 7 children from his ex wives. I didn't have to be number one but I needed to be top 3. Since he couldnt do that for me, i left him.
I am now happily married to someone who loves me alot and treats me as the number one girl in his life. As for my ex, we are still great friends. Many times, I think I would end up hating him and seperating on a sour note if I had not left him then. ;)
It is a tough decision. But you can do it and you will survive! All the best!
2006-07-21 16:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly in my view i changed into those days interior of a similar challenge. unwell tell my tale and also you'll figureit out. there is not any experience in dictating to a grown female. I met a guy who suggested he had an ex that changed into pregnant such as his toddler. we went on some dates. he suggested he felt fairly strongly about me and changed into questioning if i'd be his female friend. i determined no longer to enable his previous blunders jeapordize what cud be an fantastically good courting. we were jointly for 9 months. the toddler is now about quite below a twelve months old. He supplies his toddler each and every of the interest and continuously reported the difficulty he changed into having such as his toddler momma. then about a month in the past i'm getting a decision from his gf of three years and counting aka the toddler momma interrogating me. i call him asking him what the deal changed into, his reply, f*** all yall. Sounds to me like he fell into his own capture.dont make a similar mistake i made yet at the same time no longer all men are alike.
2016-11-25 01:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there done that if he still talks about the b***h then he may have feelings for her. Don't end up with the short end of the stick. Do what right for you girl? But if he has a good relationship with his daughter then don't knock that because you don't find to many men like that. He may be the only one out there cause I'm still wondering when my baby daddy will step up to the plate
2006-07-21 16:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by dontknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have the two of you been together? If she's pregnant again with his baby, then it's going to be even more drama. You either accept the fact that he's got two kids with her and try to get along with them for his sake or you can stop the relationship and move on. She's just mad because he's not with her anymore and she's taking it out on you. If you haven't invested alot of time into him, it might be best to leave now before it gets serious, if that's your decision.
2006-07-21 16:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard one, i had that experience before he said that all he had in common with his baby momma was the baby all i can say to you is follow your instincts. what are they telling u, your instincts are rarely wrong. my instincts told me he was still seeing her. so one night after a movie with a girlfriend i kept calling him he would never answer, so my instincts said go over to his baby mom's house, he was there i did not go in or start trouble i gave him the benefit of a doubt. so i left a note saying "give me a call when u get the message"he had a right to be there, and i didn't know how long he was there . however, he did not get the message til the next day. i know that's my story and IRS could be different. all i know is follow Ur instincts and don't make excuses for the obvious
good luck!
2006-07-21 16:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, since they have a child together, this woman and this child will be part of your life too, if you stay with him.
Second of all, if you believe he cheated on you and it resulted in a 2nd child, you should leave. Cheaters continue to cheat. (Was he cheating on her with you?)
Third, those kids are probably always going to come before you. And she may always want him back. There isn't much chance you will make it to #1, at least not in the next 18 - 25 years.
Three strikes - you should be outta there!
PS - just looked at your profile... You are 15! You have so many years ahead of you.... RUN NOW!!!!!!!!
2006-07-21 16:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by curiouschick18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bro is going threw this situation, i hate to say ull never be #1 in his life his daughter will be but the ex deal shell always be there tryin to start drama ALWAYS!! cause they either want money, say hes not spendin enough time with the kids or sthing just for her to be and probely tryin to get hooked back up my bro's ex has ran off every single girl adn its crazy its not fair its like she dotn want him but no1 else can either unless no1 wants her at the time she can have bo's but he cant have any female friends etc if he was serious enough to have 1 kid and 1 on the way he must care for her and is he maybe on the rebound from her with her being possibly pg again must not been to long ago that he was with her if u really care dont leave him cause thats probely what she wants so she can get back with him most moms want there babies daddy back in there lives and she wont be happy till ur out and shell only do the next and next like this till no1 wants to be with him
"hang in there"
2006-07-21 16:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by gloworm760 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my o' my. i just can't get over that you think this guy you call your boyfriend is serious about you, for one thing and he get that plus he get treated good by you. for your boyfriend to get his ex pregnant again, i would say he's got the best of both worlds and yes is still loves his ex or he wouldn't be doing this to you.your guy is to busy enjoying the sex and you know i didn't say making love for you can only make love when you are both in love with each other. i have been married for 28 years now. and there was all kinds of guys saying to me that they love me and that so i would do it with them. but my dad told me what the diffrent that any one can have sex but not everyone can make love.and guess what i waited till i loved the guy which took 2 years to get to really know my husband and fall in love with him and he was willing to wait till i was sure that i love him.as my dad would say, its the women that choose the guy and not the other way around like most guys like you to think you are lucky to be with them .WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!. no other women can come in between you and your men if he truely loves you. so i'm so sorry, you are better that this guy is willing to give you and you deserve better than that. your boyfriend as you call him only deserves his ex and you will nevr ever get them apart if they have kids together. find a good guy that has no kids or a ex that he want or so says he wants to move on. good luck my dear and remember you deserves real love not someone alses seconds. good luck. and i hope i help alittle.just remember it"s us girls that pick them ok.
2006-07-21 16:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Linda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this but, keep your guards up. When it all balls down a man is going to luv his baby mama. This woman is going to do whatever it takes to make your life a living H***. If I were you, I would not get to involve. If you are not really involved with yet you need not to get involve. Trust me, I know you are going to be crying everyday because he will be spending more time with her when the baby arrives.
2006-07-21 16:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋