she is my little girl and she wants a BIG part of the wedding and i am have trouble finding her something to do in the wedding she dont want to be do little girl things. So what do i do?
2006-07-21 16:03:48 · 35 answers · asked by suepooh23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i have talked to her about being a flower girl and she told me she wants to walk in right before i do. she wants to be a bridesmaid. I told that flower girl is a BIG part of the wedding and she dont want that she wants to be a bridesmaid.
2006-07-21 16:15:57 · update #1
one i am not letting my little girl take over the wedding she ask me if she could have a big part of the wedding and i told her yes and i dont see how that is letting her take over. I love my little girl and i want to to be happy at the wedding so that she dont cry and make me up set. i guess most of your dont have kids but oh well i know what is best for my family
2006-07-22 03:48:41 · update #2
i am about to get married and my daughter is going to be the main attraction in my wedding. i am going to have all eyes on her standing right beside her mom and she is only 5.
2006-07-21 16:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by C 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well, this is your and your fiance's wedding, so you need to do what the three of you think is the best. I think that it is a wonderful idea to have her be a bridesmaid, or you could have her be the miniature bride, and then she would be able to wear a dress that would almost match yours.
When I got married my 3 year old was the flower girl, and she loved it.
We also had an ID bracelet made for her with her name on the front of it, and then the date of the wedding on the back. After my husband and I lit the unity candle, we both walked over to her and put it on her, so she new that she too was also a part of us, and that she was also included in our lives.
2006-07-21 16:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by rabika97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding. Do what you want. My suggestion. She might like it. Have her a mini bride. Get her a little groom to walk down the ile. I seen it done in a wedding it was really cute. Specially if you can find a dress that kinda matches yours. I think that would be a big role for her to play. Just a suggestion. But I see nothing wrong with her being a bridesmaid either. Good luck with everything.
2006-07-21 16:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not silly to have her as a bridesmaid - but you could do it as a jr. bridesmaid. You see she is too little to be a bridesmaid, but she could also be the flower girl - point out to her that she has the most important job of all - she gets to lead the women down the aisle. She spreads the flowers for you. She is the first one that everyone gets to see (this appealed to my niece) when the wedding starts. If you point out that flower girls are also big girls then she might want to do it. If she thinks only little girls are flower girls she will not. I had a 4 yr old and 5 yr old flower girls. A friend of mine her flower girl was 7 yrs old. She also had her sister (who was much younger than her) as a jr bridesmaid. But if you point out all the things she gets to do as flower girl she might want that role instead. Or she could just give you away - to your fiance.
2006-07-21 16:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really inappropriate for her to be a bridesmaid at 4, but if you want to do it, by all means, it's your wedding and do it. But it would probably be more appropriate if she was the flower girl. Let her pick out her dress, since the flower girl wears something different from bridesmaids anyway, usually white or another pastel.
Good luck!
2006-07-21 16:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your wedding... if you want her to be your bridesmaid, then she should be. If you don't want her to be your bridesmaid, she is a 4 year old child and you can't tell her no. Don't worry about what other people are going to say, this is your day. You can make her a junior bridesmaid... make it a big deal for her. Or, have her be the ring girl. I know lil boys usually do that... but that could be a good job for her.
2006-07-21 16:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a wedding ceremony. The focus is supposed to be on the bride and groom saying their vows. All witnesses, including the bridal party, are supposed to be secondary. I don't like it when adults let children take center stage at weddings. It is fine to let your little girl participate as a flower girl, but let her part stay small. Get her a really pretty dress, put flowers in her hair, but once she walks down the aisle, she can stand at the side with other attendants and watch as you and your man say your vows to each other. If you make her the center of attention, you diminish your future husband and his importance to you. Let your daughter see what marriage means and how important it is to make commitments.
2006-07-21 16:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she wants to be part of the wedding - she really wants to be junior bride, doesn't she?
It is up to you, but if it was me, I'd let her be junior bride. I would let her walk all by herself down the aisle ahead of me and I would have her stand next to the Bridesmaids - in fact you could call her the super maiden of honor and still allow your friend to be the Maid of honor.
You need that maid of honor to be someone you can rely on to get stuff done. There are so many details - you can't give up that spot - so make a special one just for your little girl.
Peace!
2006-07-21 17:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if its silly but shes just too young to be your bridesmaid and she's your daughter. She should really be the flower girl. Why not portray that job as a big girl job and make her want it without pushing it on her ? I mean she's 4. It cant be too hard to "fool" her.
2006-07-21 16:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say go for it ....if its what you really want it would be nice, sweet and adorable
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(i know she doesn't want to be a flower girl but i have an idea so try to hear me out lol) i know a flower girl is suppose to walk in first but how about she walk in right before you as a flower girl like your grand entrance?(so that way she can walk right before you and still have a BIG part) i don't see anything wrong with that i think that would also be nice, sweet and adorable also something different and since it would be different than normal i think it would be special too!:)
i know she doesn't want to be one but if you want to try this out .... you should try to telling her about it.
But if she still wants to be a bridesmaid and she still wont settle for a grand entrance flower girl for you to walk down the ails...when i so go for it if you want to :)
Good Luck :)
Hope everything works out! :)
Congrats have an AMAZING wedding! :)
2006-07-21 16:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by BL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a special day for you and your husband, not your daughters. I can gurantee she will be fussy and rather unplesant when she realizes she is not the star. She is FOUR, you are the mother, take control! Maybe you could make her a special angel to bless the wedding. She could wear a white dress with feather wings and a floral wreath around her head and of course a sparkley wand. Don't diminish the importance of the ceremony just to appease your daughter.
2006-07-21 18:23:03 · answer #11 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋