I try my best to make my mother proud of me. I never get detention, i get good grades, i do wat she tells me to do. Yet when she makes me mad, i automatcaly speak up, and say wat's on my mind. She embarsses me in public. She always gets mad at someone she doesn't even know. She mean and doesn't care about wat i have to say. i tell her wat i want to do in life, and she thinks of it as a joke. Why does she do this to me, Last night, i cried myslef to sleep buz i didn't know wat to do. tears r running down my face as i'm typeing this. i thought of killing myself. someone plz help me. wat should i do???
2006-07-21 16:00:32 · 12 answers · asked by japanese_dreamer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like your mother has some issues of her own and she is taking them out on you. I don't know your situation but maybe she doesn't realize she is being mean. Just do the best you can and don't argue or talk back. This will be very difficult but it will get easier and easier and it will help you to handle others in your life as you grow older.
Don't ever think about killing yourself. People will never understand and you certainly don't want them to think your crazy. Some day this will all be over and you will feel so silly remembering you were entertaining such thoughts. Take care and good luck.
2006-07-21 16:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jill P 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I was in your situation years ago, but I never spoke up. Luckily I had a few role models to look up to so that there would be someone there to keep me from thinking "fatal thoughts." So, in high school, I made the "plan." I planned to do as well in school as I could, get as much scholarships as I could, go to college far away, and not come back after graduation. And that's exactly what I did. I see her on my own terms. And, when she starts on me today, I simply leave or hang up on her. My life turned out so well and it could have easily ended. Don't give up hope! You can do it, too. I will pray for you. Hugs over the net.
2006-07-21 23:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow....honey, I went through the EXACT SAME THING with my mother growing up. I never gave her trouble, I never talked back to her, I was an honor student, and I never did drugs/smoked/drank or had sex out of respect for her and fear for what she might have done. I got 2nd place in a city wide gymnastics competition in the 6th grade, and she scoffed because it wasn't 1st place (she didn't even go to the meet). She laughed when I told her I was playing the guitar in a recital also in the 6th grade (she joked that it was going to be a cardboard guitar w/yarn strings). She didn't go to not one of my volleyball games in high school (I lettered too). She didn't buy me prom or senior pictures. She didn't even go to my wedding because she said her "mouth was hurting".
I am 35 years old and still to this day I've never drank/smoke/done drugs. I lost my virginity at 19 AFTER I graduated from high school, because I could NEVER have told her that I messed up and got pregnant. I even got married before having children.
Baby, from my experience, this is what I can tell you. You can NEVER change your mother. She has her own issues and inner demons to deal with, and doesn't for the life of her know how to care for you. My mom gave me a half attempt of an apology for our defunct relationship about 2 years ago....2 years ago. And, she still treats me like her stepchild.
You just continue to be the best and brightest you can be. You prove her wrong, and grow up to be a productive, level headed individual. And when you become a mother yourself, promise yourself and your children that you will always, always, always be there for them. Do not let that woman break your spirit....that will only let her win. Do NOT let that happen.
2006-07-22 00:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. I am assuming you are the daughter of a Japanese immigrant in the US or some other western society. This is a difficult situation. Hang in there. You have additional burdens that normal adolescents go through. Try to understand your mom's point of view. She really wants what is best for you. She just doesn't know how to express it approrpiately.
Been there, done that. You will get through it and someday understand.
2006-07-21 23:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by dimples 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parents have to many issues to pay attention,and they end up taking out their stress on their children or loved ones.If you have a way of speaking your mind maybe this makes her angry.Instead of telling her,go to your room scream into yopur pillow count to ten,then you can calmly talk to her about what is bothering you.You are very bright,you know better than to think of suicide.Put a smile on and you will overcome this.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-22 10:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is going to "fix" your mom! But you can get the best grades, get a scholarship and go to college and make a fabulous living and be happy. Make a goal and stick to it. You must have something to look forward to!!!! God Bless and talk to a teacher or friend to get some of your stress out!!!!!!
2006-07-21 23:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont even think about killing ur self!!! well i almost had da same thing happen to me my mom even lock me out of my house and im 15....i was crying so much i was out side for 2hrs..and i graved me cell and i called my sister and she lives 3hrs away from me and i was telling her da same thing that i wanted to kill my self but she told me i was stupid...,shes just trying to get on ur nerves dont let her get 2 u i get good grade to and she dosent care and if i get a boyfriend shes always saying ur never happy ... this and da but i em happy wit da person so dont do eny thing stupid and u can e-mail me if u feel like dis again ok...
2006-07-21 23:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by private_senorita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a teen once and I thought the world was against me,but I made it! just like we all do(mabe some don't) but you will ! ! !
Hard to believe but the feelings you have will pass, they're just hormones that you can't control. Hang in there! LIFE IS GOOD!
Keep God in your heart!
2006-07-21 23:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by ~Shy~Girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry to hear that about you and your mothers relationship but keep doing as you are in school , try to be the best you can now always beleive in yourself because in the near future you be happy that you stuck it out , best of luck to you
2006-07-22 00:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry you feel that way. and your mom is stuck on her self. you should talk to your friends or talk to someone at school, like your teacher, councilor. just don't kill you self its not. that bad, things will get better for you. just don't give up. try and sit down with your mom. and try talking with her again. good luck
2006-07-21 23:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋