I always see shows and stuff where the dad kisses his daughter, etc. I rarely hug my dad. I don't want to hurt his feelings either by not having him walk me down the aisle.
2006-07-21 15:53:29 · 32 answers · asked by beautiful_dancing_belle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I should clarify that he's my step-dad who adopted me at the age of 14. He's been in my life since I was 5.
2006-07-21 16:12:57 · update #1
so get da person u see or feel is ur father figure to walk u down da asile
2006-07-21 15:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by powderjusblazin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hope you realize if you don't have your dad walk you down the aisle, and choose someone else instead, he will be very, VERY hurt, and it could possibly seriously damage your relationship with him. Even if you aren't that close, use this as an opportunity to strengthen those ties with him. After all, he is your father, he's probably sacrificed alot for you during your life. Whatever problems you 2 have really need to be put aside right now.
Speaking from personal experience, growing up I didn't have that great of a relationship with my dad either, but as we've matured (both of us) I realize what a wonderful man he really is. I could not have pictured my wedding day without him.
Good luck. I hope you really think about your decision.
2006-07-21 16:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a brother ask him to walk you down instead. Why be a hypocrite?!? You'll just hurt your dad more if you have him walk you down the aisle knowing you don't really care for that in the first place. Make your day special and not make it uncomfortable for you or your dad and everyone else around you. Good luck!
2006-07-21 15:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way about my (biological) father for quite some time. He has not been a father to me since I have become an adult but....he was a Very good father to me when I was a child. We still have a relationship and we are working on making it better.
I felt he's my Dad, he was my Dad when I was a child and thats what mattered most. So he is walking me down the aisle.
As long as your stepdad was "Dad" to you growing up, you should give him the honor of walking you down.
2006-07-22 05:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being asked to hug him, you're being asked to allow him to walk you down the aisle. You need not be especially close to do him this honor. You might find that doing so brings you a bit closer, or you might not. Is it worth a try? Think about it. Marriage is supposed to be a one-time thing, forever and forever. Might you come to regret, in later years, not following tradition? How would you explain that to your own daughter? How would you feel should your own daugter reject your husband when it comes her turn to march down that aisle? I think, unless he has a history of severely abusing you, that you should offer him the opportunity - and do it nicely. How long does it take to get from one end of the aisle to the other - thirty seconds? Forty-five seconds? A minute at most? Remember, once you're down tha t aisle, papa hands you off and steps back once the officiating person (pastor, justice, or whomever) asks "Who gives this woman in marriage?" Papa says "I do", places your hand in your groom's hand, steps back, turns and goes to his seat. You mean to tell me you can't deal with that? If not, one could legitimately wonder how you'll deal with the stresses of married life, or whether you're truly even ready for it. Once married, kiddo, you're stuck with this guy every dawn day. And he with you - you will have moments when you'd like to rip hubby's head off. If you can't handle the stress of a minute's walk - or less - down the aisle with papa, how do you expect to deal with the stress when you could strangle hubby? And you will have those moments - every marriage does. It is YOUR wedding, and it is up to you to decide - but don't decide out of spite or peevishness. That'd ruin what should be the happiest day of your life.
2006-07-21 16:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can the two of you work on building a bond --- start by doing something together ---talk, bring out all those old baby pictures and take a trip or two down memory lane....You can't feel close to someone if you make no efforts to spend time together --- make it a habit to hug your dad --- I have seen the most tears shed at funerals where the parent and child were estranged --- all those" I should have made an effort" --- wasted .... plan something soon to do with him even if it takes family counseling.....
2006-07-21 16:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, is he helping with paying for the wedding? If he is, you should probably suck it up and let him. After all, if he's been in your life this long and went ahead and adopted you at 14, he is who everyone knows as your dad. This may be a case of "I'm really not her dad and she knows it" and asking him to do this may be a major turning point in your relationship. If he's not helping with the expenses, I'd talk to your mom and see what she says. She'll know how he's feeling and how he will react.
2006-07-22 02:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case, it is the other way around. I'm close with my dad (but he's happy at rest). well..I suggest you tell him how you feel. your dad will sure understand it. But you see, wedding is such an important event not only for you couples but also to your parents who brought you here in this world.Walking the bride down the aisle..with ypur dad symbolizes a thing..that is he is presenting you in this world and now giving you to your groom to take care of you. Hope this helps. God bless and best wishes/ :0
2006-07-21 16:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by justurangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess what you dont have to have your dad walk you down the aisle you can have your mom if you are not close to your dad or even your step dad but have your dad in your wedding some how or some way but he dont have to be the one to walk you down the aisle.
when i get married in OCt i am not letting anyone walk me down the aisle i am going to do it my self. my dad died when i was 12 and my mom is in new york and their is no one better to do it so i am goign to do it
GOOD LUCK and have a great wedding DAY
2006-07-21 15:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by suepooh23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still your dad. Unless you and he have a really bad relationship for some reason, I'd say go ahead and have him walk you down the aisle. It'll be a special moment for you both.
2006-07-21 15:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a brother, uncle, close guy friend? Perhaps you could have one of them escort you down the aisle. My younger brother is giving me away. My biological dad is unable to attend my wedding (he didn't attend my first wedding either). My step-father will of course be present (but he gave me away when I got married the first time). Initially, both dads were supposed to be present and I didn't want to chose between both of them so I decided to have my brother do it. I explained to all three that I loved them all very much and I didn't want to upset either of them and that I had this strong feeling to have my brother be the one to give me away as it just feels so right and would mean so much to me. They all understood and that was that. :) Good Luck!
2006-07-23 08:11:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋