ok well I wanna know if anyone else's mom is like this or if its just me and what i can do about it. ok well my mom yells at me for everything if i leave something on the floor in my room she yells at me and makes me stop everything and go pick it up or if i leave the lights on she yells at me and makes me pay her everytime i leave the on my accident. Also, whenever say my stomach hurts and i tell her or something she says well my legs hurt but i don't go around crying about it do i and she gets all mad at me. she always yells for stupid things and she says that i don't listen to her but i am listening to her its just hard to remember sometimes what im supposed to do or if there is one little thing on the floor... does anyone else's parents yell at them for stupid reasons like that and if so how do you deal with it?
2006-07-21 15:52:52 · 12 answers · asked by I_Love_You_13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow, you must be my sister because your mom sounds a lot like mine. When I was growing up, my mom found nearly everything to yell about. I’d have to shut the widows before she came home so my friends wouldn’t hear her. She would do things like wake me up in the middle of the night to do something that I had forgotten. It is like you can win or ever be right. There were too many rules to remember that I was bound to forget something. It drove me crazy.
She was like that because she was miserable with her life. Your mother probably has some issues that she is not dealing with that she is taking out on you. If you can seek comfort and understanding with a trusted family member, do so.
I survived it all in one piece. I am now 32 and have a great relationship with my mother. She still fusses every now and then but not nearly as much as before. She even apologized for all of the yelling that she did in the past. There is hope.
There were times when I was filled with hate towards her because of how she treated us kids. Just remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel. After you graduate from high school, you have to get out of the house. The best thing would be to go away to college. You will definitely need this break from her to find yourself. What happens when you have a mom like this is that you may grow insecure, have low self esteem, and feel like you can never do anything right. You just have to remember that you are a good person in spite of you mother making you feel like you need to be perfect. You don’t need to be perfect and you will never be perfect; no one is. Just hang in there and remember that things can change and you will be out soon. Keep looking towards the future. Good luck, sister. :-)
2006-07-21 16:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by truly 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Guess Your not exactly getting the answers You were hoping for. Looks like mostly Parents. When I ask questions, I get mostly youngsters. Your Mom loves You, She is busy, She is tired, just ask Her what You can do to make Her life a little easier, more likely than not, if You are sincere, She will do the same for You. I am sure that if You counted all that She does for You, there is as much good as bad. Your at a tender age, and yelling at You isn't good for Your heart or Your self esteem. If Your Mom has good in Her, she loves You beyond all comprehension. Think of it this way, if Someone really said something hurtful about Your Mom, would You stand up for Her, and defend Her? If the answer is Yes, then You two just need to sit down and talk things through. A young man asked a question once about why does He still miss His Mother as much now, as He did when He lost Her at one year of age. If You get a chance, please click on My name, and find His question, and read My answer. You will also see how much He would love to have His Mom with Him now.
Best Wishes, and God Bless
2006-07-21 23:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Muffin Ann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a parent and I yell too. Here's why. I clean the whole house except for my son's room. When I ask him 5 times to clean it and it's still not clean, I yell at him. My electricity bill was $600, so yes, I would yell if he left lights on unnecessarily. If he says he's hurting, I usually check it out. Yes, sometimes my body hurts as well. I work full time, clean hosue, do laundry, cook, shop, and take care of my husband and son. So, make life a litter easier on your mom. Just pick up what you've left, be a good kid and just realize that life does not always revolve around our children.
2006-07-21 22:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm sure your mom doesn't yell at you ALL the time, I'm sure you're exaggerating a bit there. But she may yell too much, I know I do. Parents are human beings too, and we get upset, and we say and do things that we later regret. We probably do this the most with our kids because we love them so darned much, and want so much for them. We're trying to teach them responsibility in a world where so many people don't value it.
Why don't you try talking to your mom, when neither one of you is upset about anything? That's the key there, you have to do it when you're not upset with her, and she's not upset with you. Tell her how you feel, tell her how her yelling at you makes you feel. My 16 year old daughter did this to me, she came up to me and told me how my yelling at her makes her feel, and we came up with a plan that we can both live with, I've promised to not yell so much, and she's promised to do what I ask her to do the first time I ask her. Will we both live up to this agreement 100%? Heck no, but we're trying. Maybe you and your mom can do this too. Good luck to you!
2006-07-21 23:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Pamela. Think of every little thing that you've asked your Mom to do or that your Mom does every day with no one to constantly remind her to do it. Your getting old enough to be expected to accept a little responsibility around the house and shouldn't have to be told more than once to do something - especially something as simple as picking up your things in your room. Are you abnormal - No. Do other parents have to yell at their kids over the same things - Yes. Talk to your friends. My daughter thought the same thing at your age until she learned that as bad as she thought she had it, some kids had it much worse.
2006-07-21 23:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sonie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it because when your a parent your going to do the same thing. I am a parent and I don't per say yell, I just tell them you drop it-pick it up,you turn it on-turn it off,you dirty it-clean it up and so on. It's part of being a good parent. It may sound petty now but when you have children you will understand!!!!
2006-07-21 22:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably my daughter and you need to get to bed after you clean your room and turn off the bathroom light! It's MY house, if you don't like MY rules then here's a freakin suitcase!
2006-07-21 22:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first. after all this and u have a house to your self..u already have the responibilty of cleaning up and it wont become a pig sty. She isnt trying to be mean.she is trying to teach you...but some things are hard to teach.She loves you i know that .but its hard being a mom
2006-07-21 23:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just called being a Mom....She's trying to give you a lesson on responsibility.
2006-07-21 22:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by msjudy58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you mom is under a lot of stress my mom gets like that some times
2006-07-21 23:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by foxxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋