okay, he has no relation to me other then he is my biological uncles, exwife's, stepson, and my biological cousins stepbrother. he is two years older then me and my cousin, him, and i went to the ocean this week and he said he really likes me and wants to spend more time with me and he tryed to kiss me but i kind of felt wierd about it but i really like him alot and would love to be able to date him its just the morals of the matter that im debating about. i love my cousin so much and i so don't want him to get upset about me dating his older stepbrother so fare he hasn't had a problem with us but im scared to tell him and get a reaction i don't want!!!!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO??????
2006-07-21 15:27:58 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what should i do about my cousin an dhow should i break it to my cousin and my family i cant' hide our relationship form them can i or rather should i?????
2006-07-21 15:30:50 · update #1
Yes it is okay to date your cousin's step brother, because as you have pointed out this is not a blood relation to you. Also, you stated that you are interested in him. So go out have some fun.
2006-07-21 15:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you say no, he'll probably want an explaination, so make sure that you know what your going to say. Personally I think it would be weird, because I am really close with my family, and even if he's my cousin's stepbrother, I know deep down I would always feel like he's family...thats not right in my books. If you like him, just hang out with him, and grow a friendship, they always last longer than boyfriends most times anyways, right? All that really matters sweetie is that you are happy, if that means dating him, go for it! As for your cousin, it doesn't really matter what he thinks, does it? If you are honestly happy, he should be too! Its rare that you find someone that you love, so go for it!
2006-07-21 15:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand about the worry of morals. But exactly WHO'S morals?
Obviously they aren't YOUR or HIS morals, right?
Understand this, the REASON why breeding (having children) within the family is immoral is due to GENETICS.
When two people with too close of a bloodline breed there can be abnormalities in the children. Poisons & radiation do much the same.
THAT is the reason against having sex within the family, it's called "inbreeding".
You and he do not have a similar bloodline, right? That's WHY THEY DO BLOODTESTS BEFORE ISSUING MARRIAGE CERTIFICATES.
If so then it is NOT inbreeding and therefore NOT IMMORAL!
So, if anyone gives you a look or comment, just fill in the information that they're missing. Because they obviously don't know what they're talking about.
(You can do more reasearch on inbreeding to really have your guns loaded to defend yourself from self-riteous idiots.)
2006-07-21 16:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by John C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This gets a little weird when it breaks up. Think about the future weddings, etc. However, if it's the real thing, don't deny yourself because he's the non-blood relation of your cousin. If you're going to go out, keep it quiet until you see how things go. Once you know it's serious, talk to your cuz and tell him what's going on.
Be pretty sure it's gonna be serious before you go for it. Otherwise, your setting yourself up for a lot of awkward moments later on. Ya know what I mean? You must or you wouldn't be asking.
2006-07-21 15:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your biological cousin you love his stepbrother with a vow that you don't mind fall in love. He has to know or he won't speak to you if he found out by himself. So you have to tell reason what and why you like about his stepbrother and it's possible you can be together.
well, that's my solution.
2006-07-21 15:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by Eve W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin's feelings aside, this other person is not related to you. If you really like each other, and, if you know him well enough (not some kind of weirdo?) that you feel comfortable with moving towards a relationship, then, by all means. You can deal with your cousin's reaction if and when it occurs. It may not.
2006-07-21 15:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by virgoascendant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is perfectly okay for you to date your cousin's stepbrother. He has no blood relation to you. Talk to your parents first and tell them what you want to do in case the rest of the family has anything to say about it. They can help support your decision.
2006-07-21 15:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, probably not (depending on the state and how close of a cousin that person is). Biologically, there is no problem because he is not a blood relative. Morally, who knows. Personally, I don't see a problem with it because he is so far removed from you and isn't a blood relative. However, it might cause problems with your family, depending on the structure.
2006-07-21 15:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by The B Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you want him before he turns into your cousin's stepbrother, then it is going to probably be ok. even although the completed kinfolk received't like it, it will be extraordinary for both one in all you to act in detail round them. My acceptable suggestion isn't subsequently far him, and the sentiments will bypass away ultimately.
2016-10-15 01:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by sandeep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is okay, but if you are really worried about you cousin's feeling go ahead and ask him if you feel comfortable asking. I understand how it could be awkward for him, but he may have no problem with it. If you do end up dating this guy don't get mushy or physical around your cuz (especially if he says that it is awkward for him). Be respectfull with you cousins wishes, but don't let him decide your choices.
2006-07-21 15:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Independent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋