Well my last relationship really damaged me I go on dates but I become so board,?

Question

Well my last relationship really damaged me I go on dates but I become so board, I go clubbing but I miss the last one, I ve become so cold its not even funny ,any suggestion.

Answer 1

Your last reLAtionship didn't damage you; YOU damaged you. You are only damaged if you allow yourself to be. Instead of looking at yourself as damaged; look on the experience as a lessn so that you'll be wiser next time. This whole life is school. Every experience, a lesson. If you don't find out what the lesson to learn was this time; you will keep repeating the experience until you learn the lesson. You're unsatisfied and bored because God is trying to get your attention. The way to get the attention of a donkey is to hit him over the head with a 2 x 4. This is God's way of getting our attention.

There are two kinds of tests in life. The ones we bring on ourselves through disobedience (or ignorance) of the laws of God; and, the ones God gives us to help us grow and become spiritually strong. If your "relationship" (today's "acceptable, polite, but nevertheless, illegal"word for "shacking up") was sexual, you've broken (perhaps out of ignorance, rather than intention) the law of God which says we must be chaste (pure) until marriage. If you don't pay up front (by being chaste), you pay after the fact (through suffering). But, we pay, either way. Better to pay by waiting, than by suffering.

This life is a game; and God has provided us, from age to age, the game plan (the Sacred Texts of the major world religions). If we choose to ignore the rules--we pay. Simple as that. If we get with the program, life becomes heavenly. It's our choice. We're not automatons. A man never looks up 'til he's flat on his back. One day you will have suffered enough, and be ready to play the game by the rules provided--and win!

I've been there--cold, hard and bitter. I was so hard, relationships would leave me cracked. I never thought I would become soft, warm, and flexible again. But, I did. Stuff didn't crack me anymore. Just bounced right off of me!

What you experienced wasn't love; it was possessiveness; because when you truly love someone, you prefer their happiness (even, though, with someone else) to your own. That's true love. When you can learn that kind of love, you'll attract to you (you won't have to go looking), your true love--your b'sherit. (See Phantom of the Opera)

Get serious about life. Don't go looking for your other half. Find out who YOU are; focus on improving No. 1. Before long, you will attract to you the best one for you.

You attract to you what you are. If what you attracted wasn't right for you, maybe it's because you weren't right for her. Get yourself right, and the right one will appear. You'll attract your b'sherit (Hebrew for "destined one").

You are in my prayers, brother. (You're probably old enough to be my grandson. You're still in my prayers.)

Answer 2

Everyone has been through some kind of relationshiip turmoil. I know I have. (of course in their own way) People have been cheated on, physical abused, mentally and emotional abused, sexually, I mean there are tons of reasons why everyone should just be bitter and cold, but thats up to you to live the way you want too. People end up cold and bitter because they feel sorry for themselves, they would rather feel the pain then just be happy, get some help, talk with friends or shrinks, move on, ask your self something, would you want to be with that person or someone like that person who hurt you ever again? If the answer is no, then it was their loss, people who hurt others have been hurt themselves. Everyone misses at one point in their heart their 1st true, real love. Not the guys or girls who you were blinded by,, but the geniune love. Just forget, if you cant, do what i do, block it out, you might not have any memories - long term, but who cares, something will jog the memory some day and you will feel great that at least you were able to fall in love when there are so many people out there who don't know what love is.

Answer 3

Your last relationship "really damaged you". Come on guy, buck up a little. Stop the pink pantie party and be a man. Everyone has had relationships that ended badly and stuff. But you pick it (the relationship) up, carry it with you. Develop some character from it, learn from it.

Answer 4

Well, go back and think about what you base your relationship on. Look for a girls personality and attitude before her looks, that will help you out pick a good person. And as long as you are faithful mature and honest people will always last in a relationship.

Answer 5

Find some hobbies and get so wrapped up in them that girls express interest in you because of your passion for it.

I'm in the same boat as you, but I've been here for over 3 years now, and I still haven't opened up again. I used to be romantic but I don't think anyone's worth what I went through.

I'm sorry for your loss, but feel your pain. Don't resort to alcohol.... it made me gain 10 lbs. Laaaaaaaame.

Answer 6

u prolly dont want to have another damageing relationship to yr record, so yr holding yrself back, and stopping yrself from having fun, find sumone thts really fun and u have a lot in common with, once u find them, u shood work on yr confidence, cuz tht was damaged also, ull lose those feelings in no time with confidence and a greaat partner

Answer 7

Why did your other relationship end. Either go back to her or get over it. Don't be bored, have fun. Live a little. Do it.

Answer 8

just because of 1 member of the opposite sex(did you wrong dont mean everyone will you need to relaxe and open up to a close friend and just take it very slow start off as friends if its there you will definitly know it

Answer 9

Hey, you can't get hurt if you don't take emotional risks, but you can't feel if you don't let someone in. Take your time, it's OK to be cautious, but not letting someone hurt you is also not letting someone love you.
It's not easy, Sorry.

Answer 10

Get ahold of your ex, and tell him you need some lovin'. Tell him that you love him like a fat kid loves cake. Tell him you NEED a love and some nookie too!