im 14, i "did it" once now im pregnant, i CANNOT tell my mom. I cant afford to have an abortion and i cant afford to run away and keep it. The dad of the baby knows but he wuz just like " not my problem u said u were on the pill"
Is there a way i can give myself a miscarrige??? my sisters friend did it in a way that it wouldnt hurt her. and i dont care if i dont have children again cuz i dont want to.
2006-07-21 14:48:42 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
This is quite the ploy for attention. As your previous post says you did not have sex. Grow up and stop waisting peoples time.
2006-07-21 15:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to your mom or another trusted adult - don't attempt to give yourself an abortion - you can always have this child and either do the responsible thing and raise your child (the father would have to help atleast financially) or you could have this baby and give it up for adoption to a couple out there who really want children but for some reason are unable to do so.
If you weren't ready to deal with possibly getting pregnant you shouldn't have been having sex in the first place.
2006-07-21 14:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Angelina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're looking for a way to induce a miscarriage, but I don't think that's such a good idea. Not everyone will be able to do it without harming themselves. Also, it's very painful.
You mentioned that you can't afford an abortion. There are funds out there that can help you pay for it. If you have a Planned Parenthood near you, they will be able to work with you on a payment plan. If you want to go this route, leave a message on this community on LiveJournal and they will be able to help you out:
http://community.livejournal.com/countercrisis/profile
2006-07-21 14:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by penpallermel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this difficulty has struck you at such a pivotal age. But before you do something you may regret you have to think of the right thing to do, which is probably not the easy thing to do. I personally don't believe in abortion but you have to do what you think is right for everyone; you, your mom, your unborn kid, your family, the idiot who impregnated you. And everyone would suffer if you killed yourself trying to abort your baby at home.
So I think that you should find a family to raise your kid after giving birth. I am not sure what you mean when you say you can't tell your mother, if she is abusive then you should go to a relative and have your baby there.
But going through this difficult time you need to search your self and think of the right thing to do for you.
2006-07-21 15:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Victoria W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. first calm down ok?
2nd, if you don't want to tell your parents, have your sister, friend, or an adult driver drive you to plan parenthood.
Plan parenthood can help you, they have this new method, if you are pregnant, they give you some sort of medice to kill the fetus..but it has to be within the 3 weeks you found out about the pregnancy. No belly, no nothing. so relax, running away would not solve anything. The best advice I can tell you is talk to mom, and have her take you to Plan parenthood, everything will be ok, Its not abortion aka killing a child yet, because it hasn't evolved yet. So don't freak out, take a breath of air, and go as soon as possible, and dump that dumbazz bf of yours, and start practicing safe sex!
xoxo
2006-07-21 14:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by SuperGirls™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear you silly girl...........but im not going to lecture you on that, you must be going through mental hell.
Forget about miscarrage for now, you might end up hurting yourself in the process, as for not wanting children in the future, chances are when your older and in love your ideas may well change.
Think for a second, is there anyone you can trust and speak to about this in confidence?, a teacher, an auntie?, family doctor?, are you absoluetly sure you are pregnant?, have you taken a test and had it confirmed or just missed a period?
2006-07-21 18:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by stefjeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely looking at this in the wrong way.
Please involve your family.
You are of course underage so you need some type of adult advice, cause it seems like you are not thinking clearly.
Contacting a local hotline will not hurt either.
In my opinion, trying to have a miscarriage isn't healthy cause "what works for one person doesn't always work for another". Even if you do not want to have any children in the near future, you may still put your body in GREAT danger.
Ignore the father of the child, cause it seems that he is not understanding and not willing to be of any help in this important situation.
2006-07-21 16:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by Toya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, pregnant while on birth control, I guess you're not the first. Sex at 14, what the heck are you thinking? You need to go to your mom and face up to things. If you are GROWN UP enough to be so intimate with a guy and abuse your body, you are GROWN UP enough to face the consequences. Go to your mom, get medical care, give the child up for adoption. If at 14, you seriously never want to have children, you should not be having sex again ever. You need to get some education and quickly.
2006-07-22 10:23:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dedicate one day to make a plan. Remember you have nine months to think this through. You also have a lot of options. You absolutely must tell your mother, she'll probably be pissed, but it sounds like she's all you have. You might want to practice how you want to tell her with a good friend or councilor.
Also, if you give yourself a miscarriage your ability to have children will not be the only thing a risk. You might give yourself a permeate urinary problem.
2006-07-21 15:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how do you know you are pregnant?? Did you see a Doctor? If yes, discuss your feelings with your Doctor, maybe he can guide you in the right direction.
Second, DO tell your Mother, after all, you got yourself into the situation, have the courage to take responsibility for your action.
Sooner or later she will find out anyway.
And last....don't be stupid and experience with "home remedies"...you can't be that desperate to risk your own life.
2006-07-21 14:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by pro_and_contra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do realize that you are talking about a living being growing inside of you, right? If you were old enough to have sex, then you are old enough to at least give this child life and then put him/her up for adoption! You are talking about a baby! Don't do anything to cause you to misscarry, talk to your school nurse and tell her about it, then ask her if she would help you to tell your mom. Everything will work out the best way possible. Please don't do anything to enable yourself to ever have children. That would be a mistake that later in life you would really regret!
2006-07-21 14:56:20 · answer #11 · answered by tricksy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋