Sinc breastfeeders are better than the rest of us as mothers, what should the rest of us do?

Question

Should we just give our beloved babies to the nearest breastfeeder so that they can be properly nurtured and "bonded", since we can't do it right with our bottles?

Answer 1

breastmilk donation organizations!!! OMG. lol. who would do that? there is nothing wrong with bottle feeding your baby. nothing at all. and for anyone who thinks they are better than you because they breast feed they are stupid.

Answer 2

For the record, I used formula with my kids, but only because I couldn't produce milk, period. It wasn't a matter of not having enough, there wasn't any. BUT, with that said, please read the link below on the actual ingredients in formula, and you'll see why the push is to breastfeed for those that can. Yes, there are nutrients, but there's a lot of other junk that nobody tells us about. If I could, I would breastfeed, but because I can't, they have to have something, otherwise I wouldn't consider putting that stuff in their little bodies. I don't buy the 'bonding' issue, either. That's ridiculous. I think that breastfeeding just makes the MOM feel more bonded to the baby, not the other way around, but I'm not even really sure about that. I can't see me being any more in love with my children had I been able to nurse them. It's just about what's the HEALTHIEST, not who's better then who. I get angry at our society, for not informing us about the dangers of what's there, or better yet, not providing safer alternatives. Anyway, here's the link.
http://www.babyloveproducts.com/neurotoxins.html

Answer 3

Noooooooooo, take the time to work with your "beloved baby", unless you have a medical condition, you should be able to breastfeed. Don't listen to other people's negative feedback (nurses included) about "the baby isn't getting enough milk, your milk isn't strong enough, blah blah blah.

Your comment suggests that you are upset and frustrated. Breastfeeding can be extremely hard at first; painful and frustratiing, but shortly thereafter, it becomes second nature. Like the comment above, it is so much more convienient than bottle feeding.

There is a great book called "So That's What They're For!". Check it out if you still would like to breastfeed.

Answer 4

It isn't that breast feeders are 'better' - but breastfeeding does develop a bond that you can't get with a bottle. And breastmilk is better than any formula on the market. BUT - if you just can't breastfeed, then talk to the doc about the best formulas.

If you're just nervous about breastfeeding, you should talk to someone who's done it. One thing about us breastfeeders that's kept secret - we're just plain lazy. No formula to buy...don't have to mess with a bottle when the baby is screaming...and you're an automatic pacifier if the baby is freaking out. AND...you don't even have to sit up in bed to breastfeed!

Answer 5

Breast feeding, is time consuming, it takes a committment that some women can not give to it, the husband may object, the woman may work, or have an illness that makes it impossible and dangerous to breastfeed or just doesn't produce enough milk.

There are all kinds of mothers and mothering techniques some are bad some or good, which ever way either breastfeed or bottle that helps you be the best mother you can be, is the way you should go.

Answer 6

As a matter of fact there are many woman who used breast milk donation sevices. The milk is screened very well and contains things that you just dont get in formula. That is why some woman, those who adopt newborns for example, choose this option. But breastfeeders dont all feel they are better. There is just more media attention on them.

Answer 7

When the mother bottle feeds the baby she is still bonding with the infant.Dad can even spend special time with the infant. Whether you breastfeed or bottlefeeddoes not make you a better or worse parent., it is the cuddling and touch that create the bond. I always felt they felt comforted when you held them and they could hear your heartbeat.

Answer 8

to the person who said when u breastfeed u develop a bond that u cant get with a bottle.....ur an idiot!!! i did'nt breastfeed my baby and i would bet u a million dollars that the bond i have with my child is just as strong as anyone who breastfed!!! why would u say something that will really hurt and piss off so many women??!! also my daughter is 14 months old and has never had so much as a runny nose,,,and her doctor said she is ahead developementally

Answer 9

OMG...whether or not to brestfeed is a personal choice. If you choose not to, or cant for whatever reasons....that doesn't make you any less of an awesome mom than someone who does breastfeed! Many women because of cultural, religious, personal or medical reasons are awesome moms!!!
As long as your baby has the proper nutrition and lots of love, then you are doing an awesome job!!!
Enjoy your baby, they really do grow up fast!!!

Answer 10

Breastfeed! There are breastmilk donation organizations where you can get milk as well. But don't worry yourself, just because you formula feed does not make you a bad parent. Just research the best formula and go with that.

Answer 11

lol I didn't Breastfeed my son and he has only had 1 ear infection if 18 months.. and i think he got that since he was on a plane.... and we are very "bonded". lol so what is there excuse now? my son is healthy and advanced in most sections. so I think that its stupid, and I am happy with the way bottle feeding turned out for me.