i have a girlfriend and i love her more that anything on this planet and i only want her to be happy. she meens the world to me and all i can seem to do i be jealous of every guy who looks at her. every time i see some guy look at her i just wanna crack his head in...... and i think thats tearing our relationship apart. like i said all i want is her to be happy, i meen i havnt seen her all summer and she talkes about this other guy all the time. and when she brings him up i get furious. am i getting to worked up on this or what? and it seems like this guy makes her happier than i do. there always hangin out and i would kill to be that guy for one day. but i am the one dating her....and well thats the only thing thats ever stoped me from hurting someone is because i know it will upset her if i do anything to anyone. so what should i do?
2006-07-21 14:33:19 · 13 answers · asked by thekidwiththeredhair_yay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should talk to her.... don't tell her how obsessed you are with her, just tell her that if it's okay with her, you'd like to spend time with her more often....if she goes for it then just let things roll for a while... if she's still hanging out w/the other guy a lot, then ask her if she thinks of him as more than a friend...if she says no then you just have to trust that she won't betray you... if she says yes, then you can either work through it....or end it.... good luck.
2006-07-21 14:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by bigrac15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is think more about yourself. I am noticing that you say things like "she means the world to me", and "all I want is her to be happy". What about your happiness? Listen, I know it's tough to be in a relationship sometimes, especially a long distance one. What you have to realize is that you are giving way too much energy to something that you have no control over. If your girl decides to see someone else, you can kick and scream but ultimately there is NOTHING you can do about it. Keep your options open, meet new people. Don't put all your eggs in one basket and I don't mean that you have to sleep with other people or anything. Just remember that first you are an individual and your feelings need to come first. If you consider yourself to be a good catch then hey, maybe she is the one who is messing up with you. Start by not responding to her or changing the subject when she mentions the other guy, or if you really want to get her attention tell her about a girl that you met and how cool she is. See what happens then. You may realize that her behavior is something you can't deal with, and if she is always so willing to bring up something that will upset you then obviously she is too self-absorbed to be your woman. I hope this advice helps, just remember not to lose so much of yourself in the process.
2006-07-21 14:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by TiaLee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust, that's the number one thing in a relationship other than respect, and if you do not have trust, you have nothing. If you are always worrying about her cheating, or wanting to date this guy, then maybe she`s not reassuring you that you are the one she wants to be with and that she does love you, and that`s not a good sign. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years 6 months of which we never got to see each other except for MAYBE 1day out of a week, or longer than that...but we did get through it because we reminded each other how much we loved each other, and how we couldn't wait to see one another again. So if you love her and she really loves you everything will work out, and you need to tell her, "it`s either me, or the other." Hope it helps, I tried.
2006-07-21 14:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Cheyenne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like this. Every woman has men looking at them, for what ever reason. What you need to realize is that she is with you. You have her, not them. Don't get jealous, just laugh at the other guys, and think "yeah, thats right, she's mine." Appreciate your girlfriend, and spend more time with her. Suprise her!!! Good luck!!
2006-07-21 14:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by sweetypie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl, let me tell you this: girls like to be reminded that they're cared about, but when you get too clingy, it just annoys us. If you keep it up, you'll end up pushing her farther away. The best thing you can do is be honest with your girlfriend about how you're feeling.
2006-07-21 14:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy she is hanging out with her makes her happier and u r mad cause she isnt hanging out with u then break up with her even though she is the love of ur life and sry if this advice sucks that is all i could think about to type
2006-07-21 14:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Ally. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im sure she doesnt like that. i know i wouldnt. your just overreacting. try to think before you say anything, and put yourself in her shoes...if u were her would u like it if ur bf freaked out everytime you were even friends with someone else? i think you should be telling her this...not us..just sit her down and talk to her//and tell her you cant help it...and you love her so much. that`ll help i promise.
hope i helped =]
2006-07-21 14:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she hanging out with this other guy if she is with you? You need to talk to her and tell her how you feel.Dont smother her though.She may run in the other direction..
2006-07-21 14:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Sandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set more dates for the two of you...unless for the summer she is in another place and the only thing u can do is call......then ur stuck
2006-07-21 14:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by kkk09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that green monster will ruin everything. just trust & try to let her know how you really feel about her. ask her what makes her happy...
2006-07-21 14:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by lauren d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋