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at camp.. we had this oppurtunity to be "buddies" with high school students who had some conditions (retardation, autism, etc) and i think.. no one signed up for that. personally, i just cant handle that kind of stuff. but why are ppl so afraid, or .. weirded out to be with them? and i thought about it a second time.. maybe it would be a new experience for me. how is it like?

2006-07-21 14:22:13 · 15 answers · asked by strictly_maggie 3 in Health Mental Health

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My brother is mentally and physically handicapped. He is 22 but acts much younger and I myself am 13. He doesn't understand everything in the world but I love him to death! Some people just assume that if someone acts or thinks different, they are like defects that they shouldn't have contact with. Some people think they will "catch" whatever it is. I say you should DEFINITELY sign up if you ever can. It's fun to hang out with kids who have different abillities and disabilities. And when you make them smile or laugh, it's priceless. Make them feel not so rejected by society. Get to know them, I have met so many handicapped kids who are so much fun to be around. Don't be turned off by odd sounds or actions they might make. In their case it's normal and most of the time they mean no harm and don't want to scare you. Many of them will remember you if you ever see them again in the future, all they want is to be cared about. And with a little help from you they can acheive ANYTHING.

2006-07-21 17:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 4 · 3 0

Maggie, I can tell you firsthand there is nothing as rewarding as loving and caring for mentally challenging children or adults. Although my experience is mostly with the young, I know why they call them special. They can love unconditionally, and are friendly most of the time. They can teach you to live, every moment is special for them. Some of these children tend to flip out at times, but I can see some things may be frustrating for them. They most of all need Love and Stability. There are group homes sponsored by the governmment,I believe they are the best. They have 4 children per house and three adult caregivers. The problem I have is with the government shutting these homes down for misallocating funds, and in such a way as to tramatize these children. The accountant should spend years in jail, if it was up to me I'd give him the death penalty, for taking from these children loving and caring homes.
Why punish the kids? Why not have government accountants in
these group homes? One accountant screws up and and the children and staff pay, so do their parents. This happened in a town in Pitttsburgh Pennsylvania. I personally spent every holiday with them after they had dinner at the home with their families. I can't get over the cruelty shown here. I don't think I ever will. My tears will forever flow for these children that the world deems a nuisance and threat, but I will always love them, and keep them in my prayers always. Maggie if you still have the chance take it, I know it will be one of the the best learning experiences of your life. *Joan

2006-07-21 15:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I am a teacher, and we now have inclusion in our classrooms in Florida, meaning ALL children, no matter how smart, challenged, or whatever end up in the same class. I didn't major in special education and I was worried how I would handle severly retarded children and such. I have found it really enriched my life. They teach me more about life sometimes than I teach them, I think. Yes, I understand being "weirded " out, but just talk to them, and take cues from how they are acting and how the adults interact with them. I have a personal child with mild autism at home, and it hurts me to know that one day he may have difficulty coping with high school. Hopefully he ends up with a buddy willing to understand he is really just a person. GOOD LUCK, you can do this!!!!

2006-07-21 14:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by crazymomma 4 · 0 0

I've never really been around kids with disabilities like this, but my mom is disabled. She's not really any different than anyone else. She craves the same things we all do, love, affection, devotion, friends, family. Unfortunately there are people out there who feel that people with disabilities aren't really people at all. Some people are cruel to them and treat them like they aren't even human. But mostly this is out of fear, I think. People are afraid of things they don't understand.

I think you should go for it. There's nothing to be afraid of, honestly. All they want is to be treated like a regular kid. It would definitely be beneficial to the person you;d be buddies with, but it could also be beneficial for you. sometimes people with disabilities like these can see the world in a way that most other people can't, you might just learn something from them while they're learning from you.
Whatever you decide to do, have fun with it :)

2006-07-21 14:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 1 · 0 0

There was an article in People Magazine a couple of months ago about a similar program. Students were linked with other students with autism and acted as a mentor.
The girl, 15, mentored a boy with autism, 13. She did it for an "easy A" but found that she learned as much from the boy as he learned from her. She helped him focus in class, socialize with other children, and build social skills and he taught her about humanity.
I'm searching for the full article, but I can only find some summaries.

2006-07-21 14:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by psychgrad 7 · 0 0

I have an 11 year old daughter and she is autistic. She is nonverbal and we are just now working very well with potty training. Mentally, she is 2 years old. She and my 2 year old son are my life. (My son has no mental disability).

A lot of people can't handle what they don't understand. The way I like to think about it is that my daughter may not be normal but neither am I.

Working with a child with a mental and/or physical disability is the hardest job you will EVER LOVE.

2006-07-21 14:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by thisisraya 3 · 0 0

My sons have received PT, OT, SLP, ECE in reality all facilities for the reason that very youthful. I continuously factor it out. If people go with to be in denial and opt to do a disservice to the youngster it is on them, yet some only are not conscious. that is ashame that youthful ones wade through because the be certain would not get them screened for free early intervention facilities. I surely were touched by using this for my section. My sister has a 33 month old that I surely have time-honored to be autistic spectrum for the reason that 18 months. My sister refused to get her screened, even even as at 2 her pediatrician stated she is autistic. She changed into only screened and could be attending a similar preschool interior a similar class getting a similar facilities that my son (similar age, similar autistic diagnosis) receives. when I tell someone, I tell them about my own journey. I say autism without preserving the "A" word. Echolalia (mimmicking), receptive language postpone (expertise of speech), undesirable eyecontact, would not factor, would not wave, undesirable interest, social communication affliction etc. you could say some thing like you comprehend i comprehend of someone or noted a software the position youthful ones that were a lot like yours were getting facilities for speech, OT, ECE and that is free. have you ever although about getting him screened? i'd if she were my youngster. Or are you in touch about the childs progression? even although my kinfolk thinks that i imagine each man or woman is autistic I nonetheless factor it out, i'm the single with the understanding base. that is taken into account necessary to no longer be like, See that toe walking, it is an illustration of autism. people truly don't love that.

2016-10-15 01:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by weatherford 4 · 0 0

At first it is really hard to adjust.. but it is really rewarding, because some of the conditions make them act like little lost children trapped in adult bodies. Giving an hour to them, an hour of friendship.. may be the only friendship these kids know. Just because they are different doesn't mean that you can not enjoy them for what they are. Try it out.. and see.. it's so hard to describe what it is like to know that you have everything in the world, and these guys have so little, yet they are happy....

2006-07-21 14:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by PreviouslyChap 6 · 0 0

Yes it is a wonderful experience and feeling when you know that in one way or another you have and can make any disabled/ mentally or physically person. I am disabled myself (physically) and knowing that a few years ago i took my disability to work and knew what it was like to the others helped me reallies that they are no different than you or I. I love working with anyone that has a disability and helping them gives me the high I love to feel.

2006-07-22 11:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by zando321 1 · 0 0

I think it's heartbreaking, seeing how a human body could be so mutilated. Also, I don't have the patience to try and understand their speech. When my Grandma had brain cancer, I couldn't help but hold back the tears. One time she said, "The candy bar bus is coming tomorrow." I asked my mom what to say and my mom told me to ask what flavor it was. I did, and she said, "We won't know until it gets here." Some people, like my mom, are better at talking to those kinds of people than others. I don't know if you are, but I would definately give it a try. I hope that helps.

2006-07-21 14:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Not Dave 2 · 0 0

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