my lil one will almost be four when i give birth to my son.i would love to have her in the room when he comes but do u think she is too young?i will have my husband ,my mother and his mother in the room also.what do you think,would love to hearwhat u think.thanks guys!!
2006-07-21 14:13:06 · 16 answers · asked by lovedove662000 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you prepare her for what will be happening then I say it will be a great experience for her and she will love telling people that she was there when her baby brother was being born. Just make sure you have someone there who can take her to the side or even out of the room if she gets too overwhelmed that it is necessary. So many people leave their children out of their birthing and I think they really miss out. If I have another baby, I will definately have my daughter in the room and involved.
2006-07-21 14:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Meg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too young!
It could be too hard on her to see you in pain, and she might blame the baby. It also might scare her - all the blood, etc. Have her come in after you and the baby are cleaned up a bit.
If you want her to experience the miracle of birth, start with puppies or kittens. You should be able to find a video of that.
2006-07-21 21:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by curiouschick18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough call. One on hand it is a beautiful experience, but the reality is very bloody & usually painful (at least it was for me). Maybe you could start with a video and gauge her reaction. I would not want all of those people in my room. To me it's a boundary issue. You have a husband, why do you want your mother & mother in law in there too?
2006-07-21 21:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Incongruous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that many parents have had this age and younger in the delivery room. I personally didn't want my son seeing my you-know-what. But if you choose to have her there, make sure that there is someone there just for her. That way if it turns out to be a bad idea, that person can take her out and keep her entertained while you give birth.
2006-07-21 21:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably be a great experince for her and a head start maybe on "the birds and the bees" it's up to you but next year when she starts school remember she might get some of her classmates points of view on "the birds and the bees" don't want her to get the wrong impression.Plus she'll probably feel special if she is included.
2006-07-21 23:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think your daughter is too young. She may not be able to fully understand what is happening and no child wants to see their parent in pain (especially is she's not sure why you are in pain).
Good luck with your decision and congrats on your new baby boy! Have a safe & easy delivery!
2006-07-21 21:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Curious Mind wants to know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its totally up to you but I wouldn't Just being inthe hospital is scary enough for a little one but to be in a room with mommy screaming and in pain. not to mention it could be in the middle of the night. If the time is right have her wait with a friend or relative out in the waiting area and bring her in as soon as you are cleaned up.
2006-07-21 21:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by mikesalleykat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who had a home birth and their daughter was there, she was only 3. It didn't bother her a bit and she was excited to be involved. I am curious how you would prepare a child for that though as I am expecting a baby and my daughter will be 4. She probably wont be there though.
2006-07-21 21:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by lovekitty_ca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't .She see you in all that pain and then the baby comes out . It may cause her to hate the baby . I would have her there. but not in the room . Then right after the baby is born bring her in to see her new baby.
2006-07-21 21:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by diamondblue382000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt have my kids in with me with my last baby.....My oldest was 4 too...I think that it might be a good experience for her, but she might not get over seeing mommy going through pain....its really your decision. Good Luck...congrats on the baby
2006-07-21 21:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋