Ok my moms b/f seriously is a loser he has been in jail alot of times , he has no licence, always getting drunk with his friends, and doesnt take care of my sister or his daughter ever im serious he just takes her for 5 mins a day, he smokes by the baby and is a total jerk to everyone. He calls my mom names the worst ever. I dont know i cant stand this anymore. Everyone can see what kind of loser he is but her. What can i do to make her see that. I mean seriously isnt that emotional/verbal abuse and it can lead to physical. HELP!?!?!?!
2006-07-21 13:56:48 · 16 answers · asked by summergirl10171 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow u guys are awesome..yea i hope she realizes on her own cuz i know i cant do nothin trust me i tried...I mean i ended up in the institution cuz of him cuz he was driving me insane with his language and name calling and my mom did stick up for him so i had to back myself up and stand up for myself and when i did i got torn by not just him but her.
2006-07-21 14:06:48 · update #1
Honey, she KNOWS...she's living it too...but for some reason she's so desperate to have a man around, that she's allowing this one to stay...talk to her about why she is allowing someone like this in her life, when she could do so much better even on her own...
Let her know you care...but realize it's her choice...however if he's ever a threat or danger to any of you kids, then get the law involved...take it seriously, even if Mom won't...
Good luck...take care of you...
2006-07-21 14:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sorry to say this but there's really nothing you can do. I mean your mom's a grown woman who IS going to make her own decisions. And from experience in my family, it might take a while. I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but if it ever get's REALLY out of hand, call the cops, don't hesitate. There's babies in there that should be the first priority. But try sitting her down and having a true heart to heart talk with her about the motional impact it's having on your life, her's and your siblings. As well as how it will effect their decisions in relationships in the future. Chances are they will fall for the same kind of man. That's not good. Good luck with your situation.
2006-07-21 14:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for your mother. She must have very low self-esteem to put up with a loser like that. Verbal abuse is abuse. If she won't go to counseling, why don't you go and see what you can do to help her? Ask you family physician to be directed to help for her. If you do these things, at least it would be a start in the right direction.
2006-07-21 14:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear what you are going through. My hubby's mom is in the same boat. You can't make them see it, they just have to see it for themselves one day. Your mom fell in love with him, no matter what he does wrong, see will always stick up for him and make excuses. I hate to say it, but he probably will get physical before she can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Have you talked to your mom? Does she know you feel this way? Tell her that you are afraid of what he might do to her,you, and your siblings. Tell her you love her and just want her to be happy. Ask her if she seen you with a guy just like him, would she want that for you? You will be in my prayers.
2006-07-21 14:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eventually ur mom will wake up out of the phase she is going through but until then she will allow the emotional or verbal abuse bcause she is blinded by love. but 4 u, u need to sit down and let her know how u feel about her man and what he's doing to her is tearing u up in the inside.
2006-07-21 14:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by michelle r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't -- love is blind. The more you oppose her boyfriend, the more firm she will hold on. What you CAN do is watch out for your sister. If she is being neglected, or worse, abused . . if she's in a dangerous situation, report it to the authorities. Maybe your mother will wake up and smell the coffee.
2006-07-21 14:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know this is a very good question. You see I have 3 children and they are married to or live with losers. Try to tell them and they will not hear a word I say.
2006-07-21 14:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your mom must really be in his trap and how old are you and one day he might rape one of you either the baby or you or your sister she needs to get out if she thinks he is going to change then she is really wrong well super chick wrote a song about that called bowling ball you should go buy their cd beauty from pain and go to bowling ball and let her listen to it it might nock some since in her i dont know what to do!!
2006-07-21 14:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by Vanah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you've been actual it appeared like he did not appreciate you so that you probably did the right aspect yet now i imagine you want to ensure out what form of man or woman you want to be with and then attempt to stumble on someone that has those features and someone who honestly respects you too.
2016-11-25 00:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that u'll take u and ur sisters and leave if he doesnt. f she chooses him take ur siblings and leave 2 either a friends or 2 a family members that will be willing 2 help u out! good luck!!
2006-07-21 14:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋