What is the best way to control Feelings such as: Hurt, Angry and Jealous?

Question

So they do not cause problems in your life?

Answer 1

The best way I've found to deal with feelings of all sorts is through a process called cognitive behavior therapy. All it means is basically thought control. You basically reprogram your mind to think through things with logic and positivity. Read more in Dr. David Burns' book: "The Feeling Good Handbook" available in many bookstores and online for $14.00 to $20.00.

Answer 2

Okay, that's hard for any of us, but please realize that your feelings don't just get beamed into you from the great beyond; feelings grow on what you think about, and what you choose to allow your mind to dwell on. Make sure you're not wasting your time, energy and emotions on negative thoughts.
Jealousy, for one, grows on your imagination and insecurity. Try to remind yourself that you are unique, and if you cannot be confident that your loved one feels that way and is committed to your relationship, then ask yourself why you even want to continue the relationship. Be your own best friend.
Anger happens to all of us, be careful not to do anything while you are still steaming, give yourself some time and distance to calm down so that you can think things through...because words and deeds inflicted in anger can damage permanently. Then do face the issue and seek a resolution fair to both of you. Real friends will want that, too.
Feeling hurt usually happens to me when I am actually angry but don't feel empowered to say so. I have to think about whether or not the hurt was intentionally inflicted; and decide whether I can rise above the mud or need to re-educate the mud thrower....


final thought-
We can only change our own behavior; and none of us can change the past

Answer 3

I try to always communicate when I'm feeling hurt, angry or jealous. I'm pretty good with the hurt and anger, I blow things of pretty easily. I don't take things personally and I like to have a positive and happy attitude. I like to laugh a lot and just enjoy life.

It's the jealousy that gets me all the time. When I love, I love passionately, and sometimes that means I can get very jealous.

Answer 4

Try this...it works for me.

Whenever something arises that may cause me to ruin my day, I pay a total stranger a compliment. It could anything from 'thank you, sir' to holding a door to agreeing to something that other person remarks about, "Those Yankees need to improve their pitching if they are going to get into the playoffs". Tell whoever it is they are "100% right" even if you are a Mets fan.

Paying someone else a compliment can brighten your day. When you get home, entertain yourself with some cappuccino, ice cream or tend to your favorite hobby-stamps, coins, gardening, etc.

In essence, you are throwing a party for yourself and having a blast without that other person who is trying to ruin your day or credit card that needs a minimum payment due.

The more angry or hurt you become the more depth and credibility you give to that negative feeling. You are a very important person. There is only one of you, so celebrate...It works for me and to hell with who likes you, hurts you or tries to make you jealous.

You are living the greatest adventure mankind has ever known-life...Enjoy it.

Answer 5

There may be a program out there that you could attend. I know that in NA and AA there is HALT and H is for hunger; A is for anger; L is for lonely and T is for tired and if we feel this way call someone or attend a meeting. Do you have a problem already. Do you have a good friend you could confide in? Exercise is good and meditating and yoga. Feelings are hard to cover and control. You need someone to reach out to help you.

Answer 6

You touched a nerve along with his memory of his mom and he reacted badly. shop the bat and forget it. He could ask for it later. If no longer, you have a lovey memory for your self. huge brothers could be such bores in specific situations. i'm guessing you in all probability constantly had this form of relationship besides.

Answer 7

The best way is to keep reminding yourself that you do not hurt another person by hating them or being angry with them. Your bad feelings hurt only you. If somebody has been cruel to you, do not give them the satisfaction of making you unhappy. Don't let them have your mind and your soul.

Answer 8

Prayer

Answer 9

I think that an outlet is what you need. I can't tell you what that is because I dont' know. I've been trying to find an outlet for my own hurt and anger for years. I now have a partner that doesnt' fight so I can't get it out that way. And now its eating me up inside making me sick.. i can't wait to read other people's answers.

Answer 10

I totally wish I knew. Sometimes when I feel especially bad I exercise. For some reason that helps. I hate exercising, but I hate feeling crummy even more.