OK, I know it sounds like a common sense question but I honestly don't know. This guy is friends with my "friend with benefits" and the whole time that I've known him, he has always flirted with me and said little sweet things to me. Well, about a month ago, my "friend with benefits" comes out of no where, while we are still messing around, and tells me that he is getting married! The whole time he was telling me he didn't want a girlfriend and when he was ready for one I would be the girl he chose, but obviously that didn't happen. But now, his friend is really trying to talk to me on a personal level, even in front of my old "friend with benefits". If he just started this after me and his friend stopped messing around, I would think its just about sex, but he has always acted this way, but this is the first time he has ever came out and asked me to call him. What should I do, and keep in mind this is not a revenge kind of thing, he really is a cool guy, just want some opinions!
2006-07-21 13:17:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me clarify with some names because a lot of people are confused. Guy "A" was my friends with benefits, and guy "B" is his friend. Guy "A" is the one that's getting married and played me shady, but guy "B" has always showed interest in me but he knew I was "friends" with guy "A" so he never really overstepped his boundaries by really pursuing me. But now, since guy "A" played me, guy "B" is showing interest without holding back, so should I give guy "B" a chance. If u want, try to read the question over again and see if it makes sense now. SORRY GUYS!
2006-07-21 13:52:35 · update #1
Did I understand your questiion? Was this guy with with your friend with benefits, then he was with you as "friends with benefits", and now he is marrying someone else. Of course he's calling you only for sex! It's up to you, if you want to see him for the same reason, for sex, go for it. I personally don't like casual sex, I have to really care for someone, and know that person cares for me too. But, I am older, and things seem tohave changed in the sex department. I still believe there is nothing good that can come of casual sex. Try a new hobby!
2006-07-21 13:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by ginger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea it's so true that "friend with benefits" is only for sex only. Some guys might claim that "I only make love with women i love". Well, there are tons ways to show love instead of having sex only, such as spending time together, movie, dinner, or just hanging around u know. if u indicate this friend as a "friend with benefits" then u should give urself a note at first that u won't be serious about this guy. Now u r feeling sad over this issue that he is getting marry with sumone else. showing that he did not love u at all n u ain't his first choice. sorry to say that but I've experienced that n i know the feeling and the result after all. girl try hard to forget him n u will surely find someone who loves u n worth to have your love. then sex will be one activity for u guys
2006-07-21 13:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by kalam_mak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gleeps, first of all I am glad you are no longer with your "friend" I feel so sorry for whoever he is marrying.
Second of all....go out with this new guy, have a cup of coffee, and talk. Feel him out as to why is suddenly acting interested.
Might be he has admired you for a long time, but didn't want to cheat with his friend's companion. In that case he might be worth getting to know. If he just wants to take up where his "friend" left off, I advise you to run for the hills and don't look back.
Whatever you do though, take things slow. You have been hurt and thus you need to look after yourself for a bit.
Hugs.
2006-07-21 13:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by Matilda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rattling, you're a actual chum. Too bypass by using all that drama. certainly, in case you care regarding the dude and desire to proceed the friendship attempt to take a seat down and down and confer with him first. greater advantageous to sparkling the air. regardless of if, be careful because of the fact in case you already see a predictable trend there's a competent danger that he hasn't replaced and likely will never exchange except something drastic occurs.
2017-01-03 04:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, "Friends with Benefits" is ALL about the sex!!
2006-07-21 13:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO
2006-07-21 13:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋