How do I tell...?

Question

I have a boyfriend, i like him, and he says that he likes me but he always wants me tho give him head, or give him a hand job, or just grab his dick. I don't want to do anything sexual beause i am only 14. He has had sex before...many times actually. he always asks me to come over when his parents are out. I don't know how to tell him that i am not ready for all of that. I also don't know if he likes me or just wants to get with me. How can I tell?

Answer 1

If he's worth being involved with, he will respect your wishes; if not, you're better off without him. Don't ever compromise your self-esteem or values for someone else.

Answer 2

He likes you right now because he thinks he's going to get "some". Once he does he'll be going on to the next girl and you're going to be left feeling sad, used, and confused. Believe me you are nowhere near ready for what IS going to happen if you don't stop seeing him. Start being more grown-up and make a good decision that has nothing to do with him but everything to do with you.

Answer 3

I'm sure he likes you a lot, but not for reasons that are good for you. You're going to face this same issue, just in different forms, in all of your relationships. Where to start?

--a man who loves (or just really likes) you does not want you to do something you're not comfortable with. (Good sex is where both people enjoy it. If one partner isn't happy, it means someone is lousy in bed.) Problem is that you're not dating men yet, you're dating boys, who still have a lot of emotional development in front of them before they'll have the slightest clue how to be with a woman.

--all good relationships involve compromises where both sides work through differences to get their needs met, but care very much that their partner is happy. Doesn't sound like he's too concerned about your needs or level of comfort.

It's not my place to tell someone else when to have sex or not, but if a guy isn't concerned with how you feel about something this important, he's someone you need to stay away from. If he doesn't care about how you feel--how do you know what else he might do? Just a thought.

Answer 4

He is being disrespectful by always asking you to give him head or dick favors. The of loving making should be consentual and not forced. Do don't anything you don't want to do. If you are feeling pressured and you are not ready, let him go. You have plenty of time in your life to have sex and it will mean something to both of you, not jus thim.

Answer 5

Stick to your guns! Don't let someone coerce you into sex if you're not ready! Especially the kind of stuff he's talking about.
If your boyfriend doesn't understand, then forget about him and move on! You're too young to get involved in all that garbage.

Answer 6

well you are too young for allthese sexy things and definitly u dont have afuture with this guy as he is more interested in sex than u.
so be careful
learn to handle such infatuation in life.
If you want to have fun then enjoy time with him or else dump him he is no good .

Answer 7

Umm.. well he sounds pushy to me. You need a guy who respects you. Chances are if that he was really into you, he would bother you about. There are more fish in the sea, and you sound like a nice girl, so you deserve better.

Answer 8

Tell him that you are not ready. If he accepts that and stays your boyfriend, he likes you. If he dumps you than he only wanted you for sex

Answer 9

Tell him you aren't ready.

Dont do anything that you don't want you to. If he pressures you, LEAVE.

You don't deserve someone pressuring you.

Just be upfront and tell him you aren't ready to do things like that until you are comfortable.

Answer 10

Be honest with him. Just say, "Look, this is how it is. I'm not ready. I want to wait. If you can't respect that or deal with that, let me know now."

If he can't deal with it, ditch him. If he loves and respects you, he'll stick to cold showers until you're ready.

Good luck!