I do not like that he does that and he knows. He stopped for a little bit but he continues to do it behind my back. do you think I should leave him or talk to him again about it?
2006-07-21 13:05:59 · 40 answers · asked by lady j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk adult to him online
2006-07-21 13:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is how does it make you feel and does it take away from the quality time you two spend together. Or do you fear that he may find someone in the chat rooms he is sexually attracted to.
You say that you talked to him about it before, he stopped it for a little while and now he does it behind your back, I say talk to him again and find out what is so interesting about what he is doing and what is the persons involved talk about. You may find out that you yourself find the topic or topics of discusson interesting as well.( nothing like finding common ground to share) Remember this, no one person can be everything to their mate. That is why we have friends, old class mates and fond memories of things we have done as individuals that stimulate our own growth. I don't think you should leave him unless there is something bad going on or if you just don't feel you can trust him any more. Defiantely pack you bags if he is obsessed to the point he doesn't respect your feeling and continues to hurt you in that manor. You are only in for more trouble in the future.
2006-07-21 13:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by vinny954u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen if you tell him how you feel about it and he continues to do it then he has no respect for you. He does not Love you the way you Love. No one can give you what they don't need so if you have different needs he will never give you what you need. Protect your heart. Especially if he is doing things behind your back it will just get worse believe me! Everyone deserves to be happy and if he does not make you happy then find someone who does. Know your worth and respect yourself. You teach them how to treat you so if he does these things knowing that it hurts you and you stay with him it's just like saying you have excepted it.
I hope everything works out and good luck!
2006-07-21 13:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him because chatting with live people is cheating. It's like talking over the telephone. Ask yourself this? Would he like it if you do it? If the answer is NO but he thinks ok for him to do it then get to stepping girl. If the answer is YES than that means he wants an open relationship with everybody and that's NASTY!
2006-07-21 13:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is like fun to get away with something. What can he do on a computer. You can't even hear their voice.
If you said a phrono site that's sick.
Just talking to someone, women do it all the time, the girls at school, in the office. Guys don't do that, they have to talk about sports or work or college. If All I ever got to talk to was my boy friend I would hate him. Let him have his fun.
Don't be a control freak
2006-07-21 13:10:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems insensitive to your desires. This takes time away from the two of you as a couple, and proves his untrustworthiness. I think no matter how hard it will be and how many other good qualities he has, this is a big red flag letting you know staying with him will only cause you distress and/or pain in the future.
2006-07-21 13:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether right or wrong, you like it or not, stimulating or no, the fact he is doing it behind your back is the issue. Focus on that. Ones persons Ying is another persons Yang. Live and let live. Sit down and have a heart to heart with him, if he can not be up front...move on.
2006-07-21 13:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by blackwind45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it and see what he enjoys about it. You might also want to see what you can do to spice up your relationship. After all, he should be in the bedroom making passionate love to you rather than chatting to someone over the internet. He mightn't even be chatting with a girl but a guy pretending to be a girl.
2006-07-21 13:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he can't honestly stop for you now, he may do something worse later. Best end it to avoid a heart break later... maybe that will wake him up. IMO, adult chat when you have a gf/wife IS the same as cheating.
2006-07-21 13:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Archer Christifori 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a problem. You need to talk seriously about it, or seek couple counseling. I had some friends that were a couple a few years back. One was a total voyeur and was addicted to going online to sex sites, but then wouldn't touch his partner. They sought counseling and tried and tried, but it ultimately ended. If it's a deep-seated need of his, you may want to seek another boyfriend.
2006-07-21 13:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex did the same thing claiming he was making friends..........thats why he is the ex....couldnt control the temptation to meet some of the ladies....just be careful hun.......and it doesnt matter how much you talk to him about it he wont stop....it can become an addiction...best to let go before you get hurt to bad
2006-07-21 13:08:51 · answer #11 · answered by lori26101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋