My boyfriend likes to show off in front of his friends a lot. When it's just me and him he's loving, sweet talking, kind, warm and gentle, but when he's around his friends and I'm around he curse at me, he doesn't show much affection towards me. I know he's not embarrassed of me but why does he act like this?
2006-07-21 12:45:52 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like your boyfriend has a problem. The need to show off in front of friends indicates he's trying to prove himself to himself, not just to them. You are just another tool in the process. At best, I would tell him, "Either you treat me nice in front of your friends, like you do when we are in private, or I'm out of here." At best, I keep my eyes open. Men who curse their dates/mates in public may some day do worse in private.
2006-07-23 14:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by bookman 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you feel when he treats you like that (in front of his friends)? I am sure it must be very humiliating! You need to break up with this guy; he has NO respect for you. You see when a guy truly likes a girl he is sweet to her at all times and he is proud to have her around when he is with friends. Your boyfriend for some sick reason does not feel this way about you and feels the need to degrade you in public. Don't take this anymore he is being abusive to you! Dump him so you can find a man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated AT ALL TIMES!
2006-07-21 12:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not ok. He is showing his friends that he owns you. Even if that is not the case, that's what he wants everyone to think, and that's not ok. If he really respected you, he would NEVER treat you that way. Plus, if you demand respect from him, then he will respect you more. He may not show it,and he may even break up with you, but boys will know that you are not easy, and that you are a woman,and not some little girl who gets pushed around. Real men are attracted to a confident woman, and will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
2006-07-21 12:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by mandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the problem is two fold:
1.Your boyfriend feels the need to fit in(peer pressure)
2.Your boyfriend does not feel secure enough in the relationship with you.
In any case, I would suggest that you try to talk to your boyfriend when you two are alone and then explain him how this makes you feel. It is pretty likely that you will get a response that lets you know exactly how much you mean to him, and that is what I would base any decision upon.
A lot of guys feel totally insecure in their relationships with girls when they are young, they also still feel the need to fit in with their friends and until they are secure within themselves do these friendships mean a lot more to them then we women ever understand.
2006-07-21 12:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BIG RED FLAG! That shows a lack of respect. That is what the man who beats you at 20 acts like at 17. Demand respect, or be gone. Demand what you deserve. You deserve to not be cursed at, you deserve affection in public.
That is your right as a woman.
Take it.
2006-07-21 12:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A LOT of boys do that. For some reason they don't think their friends will respect them if they don't act like that. You need to talk to him and tell him that it bothers you and if he doesn;t understand or continues acting that way then you should leave him. If he doesn't respect your wishes, then he is not worth your time.
2006-07-21 12:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by chels♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys try to act Macho. My man does the same thing. Around his buddies when you arent there his friends make fun of him for being a softy
2006-07-21 12:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl I had a boy just like this, He fronts n front of his friends to make it seem like he's running the show! Gurl you have to tell him to stop disrespectin you n front of his friends and tell him it hurts me alot to see you doing this...If he doesnt stop you have to let him go ASAP. Good luck chick!
2006-07-21 12:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by brittspreppie504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he values all of his friends opinion of him more than he considers your feelings. I'd give him the "steel curtain" and find someone else. You don't need a possible angry confrontation on your hands and mind! And to answer your first question NO it's NOT ok?
2006-07-21 12:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by anth9931nascar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because's he's insecure and needs to have the approval of his guy pals that's he's the MAN in the relationship. He needs to show he wears the pants and by God, you better know it.
He's a punk. You can do better.
2006-07-21 12:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by MartyR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋