I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now, and he wants to have sex, we're only 14, and I'm first of all scared of sex, but I dont know how to say no to him, what should I do, and if I decide to have sex what should i do to protect myself?
2006-07-21 12:31:50 · 23 answers · asked by kirane0212 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just say no and find another boyfriend. you are to young...
2006-07-21 12:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by Guzzy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you are 14 and u shouldn't rush anything that u don't want to. just tell him the truth that u are not ready for this. if he loves u he won't push u into something u not ready. when u decide that u are ready u will know but if i was u i would wait u want to make your first time special. you are so young live life a little bit hang out with friends you shouldn't be stress out about sex believe u will have more boyfriends. maybe u should talk to your family about this. good luck in whatever u decide.
2006-07-21 20:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by olive_olive_72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young to do so. There shouldn't be a problem for you to say no. If this guy likes/loves you, he should respect your decision. Tell you how the whole idea makes you feel. If he gets mad/breaks up with you, forget about him and move on. This shows you that he only wanted your body and not your heart. But if you agree to do it, use a condom. He can use one, too (male of course). You should get some counseling for this big step. You can go to one of those clinics where they tell you about the precautions about having sex. Just make sure both of you are clean and ready for it. Be careful and protect yourself. Personally, I think you should wait when you get a bit older. Your too young. Both of you should have fun in other ways. Sex is not the only source of fun. There are greater things that you both can do that brings happiness in life. Take care of yourself. Listen to your heart. If you choose not to do so, it doesn't make you any less of a lady. All what your asking is for some respect fort your decision. In his part, he should support you. Like I said before, if you plan to do it, be protected. Good luck and take good care!
2006-07-21 19:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is are you ready? Nobody cares what he wants. I was there before, and I was 15 years old. I was dating a boy and he said he loved me and I was still a virgin so one day I gave it up and later on he cheated on me. So just because you think a boy is with you for so long doesn't mean anything. He could have been with somebody else gettin' some and just waiting for you to give it up. Be smart sweetie. IF you do fall for it then just make sure he doesn't have any STD's and you use protection
2006-07-21 19:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by prettymommie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no to him..tell him you aren't ready for sex, and that you want to wait until you are older. If he can't accept that, he isn't worth having as a boyfriend, because he doesn't respect you...or love you.
Giving in will not make things better, it'll just give you a bad reputation.
When you get a little older, talk to your mom, get on the pill, that'll help with the pregnancy issue. Once you do start having sex...NEVER have sex without a condom..even if you are on the pill. STD's, gential warts, herpes, HIV/aids...any of them can be a result of unprotected sex. Until you are married, use a condom...for your own safety. Lots of guys will try and talk you into letting them have sex without a condom..cause they 'don't like them'. Tell them too bad, no condom, no sex. Stand your ground.
2006-07-21 19:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! I'm sure you don't want to be a young single mother right? You have your whole life ahead of you sex should be the last thing on your mind, sometimes it can ruin you teen years. There is also to many diseases out there to play around with! But no one can make up your mind for you, make sure you get on some birth control and use a sponge an make sure he wears a rain coat! My advise is for you to save yourself for someone you truly love.
2006-07-21 19:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by h0w U liK3 m3 n0w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt do it if you are at all feeling pressured. 14 is young. I did it when I was 14 and I felt really cheap afterward. Then didnt do it again till i was 19 and it was really special then. Also My sister in law is 15 she is friends with a girl who is 14 and pregnant and my motherin law who is an OG/GYN sees that same girl at her medical office. That girl is throwing away 4 years of fun (highschool) to take care of a baby that she is going to have.
2006-07-21 19:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, if you feel you are being pressured forget about it you are still very young and your virginity should be something very precious that you should only give up when you are ready and you feel comfortable sit him down and tell him how you feel about the situation and that you fee your still not ready if he still insist maybe hes not right for you. but if you decide to do so use protection and be vary careful alot of things can happen like getting pregnant I'm sure neither one of you is ready for that much responsibility take it from me i had my first baby at 15 and its been real difficult i mean what can two 15 year old kids do to take care of a baby we barely know how to take care of ourselves
2006-07-21 19:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just say no! You are only 14. Tell him you are waiting for ____________. Like, you could wait until you graduate from high school, or wait until you are married (which I highly suggest). If he loves you, he will want what's best for you and he will wait. If he doesn't love you, then he will pressure you, and you should dump him ASAP. He's not worth it.
If you decide to have sex, talk to your mom about going to a gynecologist. They will be able to give you birth control and your mom can talk to you about condoms. If you aren't ready to talk to your mom about this, then you aren't ready to have sex.
2006-07-21 19:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by Amber E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its certainly not the right time to have sex at this stage but I guess guys will be guys. Your boy friend will emotionally black mail you to have sex with him. If you decide to have it, make sure you dont get pregnant, tell him to use a condom.
2006-07-21 19:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by Camellias 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are too young to have sex.and u said it urself ur scared to do it anyway...I had sex way too early and i regret it...I'm not trying to make this decision for u but i thing this is a big step and ur only 14...Think about it... "Do I really love this guy to give myself to him???...If you want to wait and do it later he should understand, ya knoe??
2006-07-21 19:42:02 · answer #11 · answered by brittspreppie504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋