Ok see my parents don't know that I am dating this guy and the reason they don't know is because I can't tell them because they won't lt me have one. He isn't like gay or psycho he is just a normal person like 1 year older than me and we go to the same school and church and stuff. So please answer my question honestly what yoou would do. Thanks for your answers!
2006-07-21 11:19:39 · 18 answers · asked by Niki R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a parent I have to say, tell your parents who you are dating. Invite him to your house for dinner and let your parents get to know him so they can see what a nice young man he is. Or at least invite him over to watch a DVD with you. My kids always knew that I was a lot more receptive to their friends if I met them and I was also a lot more trusting of my kids when they kept the doors to communication open between us. If you feel that you need to hide your boyfriend from your parents then you know he is not acceptable to them. Be honest, and be fair to the young man - introduce him to your parents. If your young man attends the same church as your family that is a plus. Perhaps your parents know his family already. They will be more receptive to the entire idea of you dating if you are mature enough to not hide things from them. Good luck!
2006-07-21 11:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by dddanse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think you should tell them, because sooner or later they will find out and they'll be mad that you didn't tell them. If your guy is a nice dude then they should understand. Sure they might not be comfortable with you dating someone a little older than you, but if they realy do love you they would let you spread your wings a little bit. Just ask your parents if you could talk with them and calmly let them know who he is what he looks like how old he is and how you truely feel for him, and apologize for hiding this from them, and try to setup a date when your parents can meet him so they really know what he's like. (sound very mature when you have this conversation with them)
2006-07-21 11:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can understand about the dating thing. My parents didnt want me to date either. Casually invite him and his family to dinner after church or something. Letting your parents know you like someone is really hard and trust me I know. I wasn't aloud to date unless I had friends with us at first, and at 16 I could finally date. Are you good in school? Do you show responsibility? Tell your parents that. Good luck!!!! The first step is to talk about it and if you go to the same church more likely your parents know each other and it may not be as big as an issue as you thought since you both have the same religion
2006-07-21 11:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by kimber69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's definitely a tough one. As someone who grew up under a strict parent, I sympathize. The truth is hun, you're parents are more understanding then you think.
My advice: Tell them. You don't have to wait until the right moment. I suggest you pull your parents to the side one day and just let them know that you have feelings for a certain someone. You guys have been talking, and he feels the same for you. He would love to have their approval to date you and it's important to you that they know and approve of you dating. Trust me, your parents will respect you more for doing things the right way. It's when you continue to hide things from them that you justify them being cautious in the first place. Be honest and open, let them know you have nothing to hide. Hope all goes well, darling!
Best Wishes!
2006-07-21 11:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by PseudoQuasiX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are less than 18 you should tell your parents. Do not assume that just because they are older they know nothing about life and relationships.
Perhaps you are the one that could gain some insight from their experience.
2006-07-21 11:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them - they only act weird because they worry about you. They have to accept that you grow up, and you have to go through that at some point, so why not be honest from the beginning?
2006-07-21 11:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by clara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to them at first and see what they say about you dating this guy. If you are of age to have a boyfriend and he's nice like you say they are they may agree to let you date him....But you should talk to them about this before you get in trouble.
2006-07-21 11:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are hiding it from your parents, they will eventually find out and the outcome will be worse than if you simply say Mom and dad I want to date this guy because hes nice and respectful blah blah whatever crap you need to say.
2006-07-21 11:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell them. Safety reasons. Not only tell them, it's better to introduce the guy to them so they won't have suspicions of what kind of guy you are going out with.
2006-07-21 11:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by enigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same situation with my dad, (my mom is more open minded), and i know just what you mean you cant bring just anyone for your parents to meet! but if you know this person well, and your happy and he respects you most likely you'll be fine.
2006-07-21 11:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by CALI GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋