Well my son is kind of a trouble maker and he is to rebellious for his age, i feel like its my fault because in a way i do give my daughter a little more attention because she is a baby, my son be telling me that i love her more than him because i always have her i try to explain to him that she is smaller than him and needs attention and i need to make sure she is not putting stuff in her mouth, but anyways how can i make my son understand that i ddo love him and that she is just a baby.????
2006-07-21 10:59:04 · 13 answers · asked by LADY J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is just jealous of all the attention that your daughter is getting, you need to make time to spend with just your son, leave your daughter with a sitter and take him out and do things that he likes, he just needs to know that you are willing to make special time for him to. Kids need individual attention no matter how old they are.
2006-07-21 11:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a special day of the week when you do something with only your son, find a babysitter for your daughter. Your son is crying out to you for attention. Also a neat idea is to give him a box (a shoe box) with a hole it the top, let him decorate it any way he likes, and let him use it as a suggestion box of places he would like to go or things he would like to see. Also he can have a small journal where he can write notes to mom about his feelings (but you must be sure to read it). GOOD LUCK! and have fun!
2006-07-21 19:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by chulita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They key to this situation is to make special time just for you and your son to spend together. He will be much more receptive to understanding his little sisters needs if he feels important to you and to her also. If possible spend 1 hour every day where it is just you and him doing special things together. If that isn't possible try to arrange for you two to spend 1 day a week or even half a day each week doing something special together with out the baby. Also start giving him responsibility in terms of helping out with the baby. He needs to form a big brother attachment to her in order to learn to put her needs before his own.
2006-07-21 18:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the oldest of four children, I can tell you this is perfectly normal. We told our parents the same things when we were little. One thing I do with my five children to help break that feeling is that we have special time just for them one at a time. Every time I leave "alone" one gets to go with me. Or if we can't get away from the other children, they choose dinner or the movie... Be creative so that he knows he is just as special as his sister. I have my older ones help out with the little ones once and a while so they understand how much work is required and it isn't that I want to spend more time with the babies, I have to spend more time with them.
2006-07-21 18:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by Brooke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's seven-years-old. He has a mind. He has thoughts. He can understand words. Try TELLING him that you love him, but your daughter is just a baby and needs your attention rather than ignoring them both by coming on here and asking us. If he's going to act out, punish him. Simple as that.
2006-07-21 18:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Belie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while she is sleep,take him into a room and talk to him and explain to him,that the little baby needs a little more attention,but at the same time you need to spend more time with him also.talk to him as a 7 year old,not a 5year old,he is getting older every day.
2006-07-24 01:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by mustanggtconv2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him help you take care of the baby. Teach him how to diaper, how to help feed her. Also give him some "alone" time with his sister, while you do a little "housework" put him "in charge" of watching his sister, this will give him a sense of confidence plus teach him responsibility and boost his self esteem. Don't forget to praise him for the few minutes he watches her.
2006-07-21 18:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, either have super nanny come over because she does know the solution to problems like these or sit with your children like when he is doing homework..... do it with him so that he does not feel left out. and while you do that, have you baby in like a high chair at the table so that you are with your son, spending time with him, and watching your baby so she does not get into things. and good luck, because i know that is not very easy.
2006-07-21 18:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by brittany s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, that he's the reason why mommy and daddy fight. And that you had the new baby for two reasons 1, to trick daddy into staying, and 2 you wanted to have at least one child you could be proud of.
2006-07-21 18:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by steveed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes acting very natural, maybe when baby is down for a nap you can do something special with him. when baby is awake ask him to help you with things involving her. let him feel like hes the big boy and that you need is help; that should make him feel important, make sure you praise him for his help
2006-07-21 18:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋