We've never had a problem at bedtime before! For the last two weeks she crys and screams that she doesn't want to go to bed. Her bed time hasn't changed, and we read her book before bed as always, but as soon as the book is over the trouble starts. She has a night time lamp, so it's not the dark. I can't figure it out!
I don't want to yell... and I can't give her a time out because time outs are in her bedroom. (she goes in there to sit until she feels that she can cooperate, and that has always worked out well)
Suggestions? Any would be helpful. Thanks!
2006-07-21 10:54:57 · 9 answers · asked by brigids_mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hi... She hasn't had afternoon naps since she was 2. And she is pretty active. I know she's tired at bedtime, she acts it.
My biggest problem with her bedtime temper tantrums is her 1 1/2 year old brother goes to bed an hour before her and is trying to sleep. :o(
2006-07-21 11:08:22 · update #1
I personally like the supernanny way of doing this. She suggests put them in their bed, give them a kiss and a hug and say goodnight. If they get up put them right back in bed and say "It's bedtime" and walk away. The third time just put them in bed and say nothing and do that everytime until she finally exhausts herself and falls asleep.
2006-07-21 10:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are always trying to find a way around their parents authority!! Stand firm in what you say. If it is time for bed than tell her to go to bed. When she starts with the fits, then let her fit in bed and walk away. If she gets up make her go back, then walk away. Don't stay in there with her because if you do she has won and it will be a every night ordeal. Trust me I have been there.
2006-07-23 07:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by MATTHEW M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest moving her time outs to a different location. The bedroom should only be for sleeping. She might think she is in trouble when its time for bed since her time outs are in there. I would also recommend letter her throw her fits at night. Leave her in her room and walk away. She might just be testing her boundaries right now too. Good luck with it!
2006-07-21 11:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by akosmacek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 12:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a number of things...easiest...she is testing the rules.
Have you talked to her about it? My son complained a about the man in the wall. He had paneling and suddenly saw a face in it. SHe might just be having an irrational fear. I was lucky, we had a dog and I told him no one could hurt him because the dog would not anyone hurt him. That helped.
Talk to her, explain the rules and maybe try withholding a favorite tv show or something if she gives you a hard time going to bed.
Also, is she active during the day or a couch potato? Make sure that she gets plenty of activity during the day.
2006-07-21 11:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just trying to assert herself. I am a child development grad student and let me assure you, your little girl is very normal! Kids realize at this age that they can control the outcome of some events by asserting themselves in ways that makes parents cave in. Just stick it out. Sit her on the bed and tell her that it is her choice to throw a fit. Within a few weeks (or sooner) the drama of it all will get boring for her. If you don't flip out, she'll figure out that she is not going to get her way. Make sure that you give her opportunities to assert herself, though. For instance, if you are going to make her breakfast, give her some choices. By allowing her to feel that she has the power to make decisions in other situations, she'll eventually feel satisfied. You may even want to develop a reward system. For my daughter, she would pick out a movie that she really wanted. We would make a chart on the wall and she would have to sleep in her bed on time every night in order to get a star. We started small-- 5 nights for a small toy--- and worked our way up to 20 nights for a DVD. Just remember--- you'll get through it! Every stage has their challenges, but they have their rewards too. :)
2006-07-21 11:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking her to draw a picture of what is bothering her at bedtime. Children always know what's wrong with them, but never have the words for it. Her picture may help you figure out what's wrong with her.
2006-07-21 10:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is taking naps in the afternoon, try cutting those out and she will be happy to go to bed at bedtime.
2006-07-21 10:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by donna m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray?
Seriously tho, even tho its hard, this will pass. And, unfortunately, its normal.
For my son, we had to explain to him that this was bedtime, and he WAS going to go to bed. And then, we put him to bed. After he realized he wasnt going to get his way by kicking and screaming (figuratively and literally) he did settle down.
it will take time. I'm sorry, wish I could be more hopeful for you.
2006-07-21 11:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by D'oh! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋