Can your boyfriend or husband discipline your kids?

Question

i know its a touchy subject and it is for me because so many children get mistreated and abused these days but is it ok for your boyfriend or husband to discipline your kids that you had from previous relationships? is it acceptable for them to yell or spank your children?

Answer 1

it would depend on the man....that's it! and it is not acceptable for them to yell, and as far as spanking goes, i will be the one to handle that situation! you are right, it is a touchy subject and one that should be discussed with any guy you are thinking about having a relationship with, might as well lay the cards on the table. there again, it really depends on the man, does he balance any discipline with an equal amount of love and attention? if you are thinking about having a relationship, the man must be able to have some say-so in the day to day living and raising of the children, but these are issues best decided beforehand, trying to alleviate problems in the future as much as possible. cause it's sometimes difficult even on a good day so you must prepare for the bad days! it takes alot of teamwork between the mom and the boyfriend or husband. however, it can be done if there is enough love and maturity in the relationship. good question!

Answer 2

If you are married or the boyfriend is steady and been around a while, yes. If it is going to be serious then you kinds have to learn that you partner is also in charge, I don't think that a boyfriend of only a few weeks should be to involved is some cases they can help. Spanking on the butt is not a bad thing. There is a differance between that and beating a kid. Just make sure that the punishment fits the crime. You don't want to spank a small child for spilling a drink but you would if they hit or do something really bad. Those parents who never disicipline thier children and then wonder why they are always in trouble just make me mad.

Answer 3

I think that your husband, and boyfriend( If he lives in the home) Have the right to discipline your children. Spanking however is a very touchy subject. And probably should only be done by the parent if necessary. And yelling at children very rarely works. And is usually not a good form of punishment.

Answer 4

In my oppinion it depends on the individual. You must monitor the situation. Some men exept your kids as theres and will do the right thing. If you are to make it as a family you should let him have control as well so that the kids will learn to respect him. However I do not beleive any children should be yelled at. Also be careful because alot of men have a hard time with another mans child. It is like a pride thing. So watch your husband or boyfreind. Determine what kind of father he is. Do not ever sell your children for love.

Answer 5

depends on the situation, if they want to play the part of the otha parent n do it in accordance of the household rules (which should be gone ova with all the adults n children so that everyone knows the reporcusions of doing wrong). then yes, if the kids have an active absent parent then the step parent should have set guidelines of respectability that the children should follow when it comes to the step parent, all the rules either way should be drawn out n gone ova with all the ppl involved as to let everyone know what the rules will be ahead of time. as long as they are followed then thats what should be followed that way when they pop off n say well u aint my daddy then it can be said that no i am not but i am the active adult figure in ur life in this household n the agreed upon rules will be followed in this house. this will keep order yet let the child know that they cant get away with something jsut bc the otha person isnt their biological parent but at the same time that otha person is the responcible active care giver in that household.

Answer 6

It depends on how the mother and the birth father feels about it.

I would never let ANYONE lay a finger on my children (if I had any), not even myself. Children are children, they don't know any better. If it was my new husband, of course he can discipline my children, he should know them well enough if I'm marrying him. For a boyfriend, it's a little different because I'd allow him to give advice but he would not be able to yell at them. Who is he to yell at them? He's just a boyfriend.

Answer 7

Boyfriend, NO! They do not have any lasting connection to the kids and should not be in a place of authority. If you have remarried then a step parent can discipline, but only after a real relationship has been formed between them and the kids

Answer 8

This is a decision that only you can make. I'm sorry but if it were me I would have to say NO. I am the only one who disciplines my children. However if you are married, and the children are from another man, then "YES" your husband has the right to discipline the children as it is his home and life as well as yours. If he is raising the children then he has a right. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

It depends. If we have been dating for a long time I will let him handle it in an appropriate way as a father would but I wouldn't let him fully take the discipline because he is not the father. (If he's a boyfriend) if it's been a little bit since y'all were dating I'd say no.

Answer 10

Why shouldn't they. If they are a part of a loving caring family, the children need to resapect that person. Lets face it it is hard for any person to take on the responability of someone elses children, and it would make it harder if the children dont show respect.