They would rather me be in an unhappy relationship with females instead of my friend whom I really care about, and cares about me too (same gender). Why can they not accept the fact I do not like females that way, and leave me alone....?
2006-07-21 10:44:36 · 27 answers · asked by Padraig 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think they are required to not approve of same sex relationships. My mom still has issues with me. Some of my older GLBT friends say it took their parents at least a year (and about a dozen emotions) to accept them. Give them time.
2006-07-21 10:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by michellesm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough, there's no reason you should spend your life unhappy, there's just the one for sure. You'll be unhappy, your pretend wife will be unhappy, if you have kids, it won't be good for them either (not because you're gay, but because of the unhappy household). You can't live for your family, hopefully they will learn to accept the real you. Don't know where you live, but I hope it's someplace where you can be yourself. Good luck to you, I know it's a rough time, I've been there myself - my parents were and are ashamed of me (even though I'm a good guy and responsible citizen, and a kind, talented person), but I'm happy. If they can't deal with it it's their issue.
2006-07-21 10:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure why families are like that. Although Im in a hetrosexual relationship I have a friend whos son is gay and she is totally accepting of it.
Maybe they just need time to adjust. Try sitting them down and talking to them and explaining exactly how you feel. Explain that its making you miserable and that they are pressuring you into being someone you arent.
Best wishes xxx
2006-07-21 10:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't really want you to be miserable, they are just having a hard time accepting you for what you are. They probably find it hard to understand homosexuality and so fear it.
But it's your life and you only get one chance at it so stick to your guns - don't even THINK about resigning yourself to be some kind of gay martyr/victim - remember you'd only make a victim out of the poor girl you had to pretend to love too...!
2006-07-21 11:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by charleymac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they come from an older generation so don't understand gay relationships. Its especially hard for narrow minded fathers to understand 'where they went wrong.' Tell them that you simply don't like women and if they have a problem with you being gay maybe go to meetings with them that educate on gay feelings. They need to understand that this is NORMAL and nobodies fault. They have been conditioned to think it is wrong, its been made legal for a reason!
2006-07-21 10:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having looked at the other questions you have asked tonight, I am wondering if you are just coming to terms with your sexuality yourself. If you need to ask the type of questions you asked before this one, then I wonder how long your family have had to get used to this idea. Also I wonder if you are ready to really fall out with your family over this. I dont think you should ignore your feelings for your friend but i think you should slow yourself down a little. I also wonder how old you are. Go with your feelings but go slow and go with respect to your family and your friend and yourself.
2006-07-21 11:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they arfe afraid of change how old r u , if your 20 do what u need to do and they should come around . they were happy when they got marries so you have to be happy to. ask them if there parents told them they couln,t see each other what would they doooooooo, iam sure they would do what they wanted . but oin good taste always tell your parents u loveeeeeeeee them . and that you need to be happy to . use different wording when talking use words they are not use to you saying they will listen better to you, if your not 14 15 16 years old . good luck life is short injoy your happyness.
2006-07-21 10:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by marleneshieldsc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told your parents what you just stated? If not, sounds like you need a little heart to heart with them. Just be patient with them. It is sometimes difficult for people to accept your situation. I'm straight but have many gay friends. Maybe you can turn to your friends for support. Good luck!
2006-07-21 10:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by BRITCOURT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your parents think they know what is best for you. They are not listening to you because they think that they can change your mind. They think if they ignore your desires then it will just go away. People hate what they don't understand. They fear what they don't know. I hope someday you and your parents can work this out. They may never agree with your life style but hopefully one day they can accept it and you for who you are. My brother was in your shoes once but my parents finally realized they wanted him to be happy. Good luck to you.
2006-07-21 10:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by dirtydiana24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes it is just really hard for parents to except when they find out that there child is gay, it is not what the saw when they were thinking of your future when you were a child. I know that it is hard for them to except but you need to do what makes you happy and if they cant except it then maybe you need to distance yourself from them for awhile and let them know that you love them but if they cant except and love you the way you are then you need to be away from them for awhile and hopefully they will realize that you being gay really isn't that big of a deal. I have children myself and in there futures I see them being with someone of the opposite sex but I will say this right now that first and for most I want them to be happy and if it turns out they one of them is gay then so be it, they are still my children and I will love them no matter what. Good luck to you!
2006-07-21 10:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋