what do I do the make him sleep through the night in his crib. I tried different methods but no results, he still wake up at night, cries scream doesn't want to go back to his bed I am so tired I put him in my bed he feels back to sleep if not he will vomit and cries his lung.
I have other children 5 and 3y.
pls help
2006-07-21 10:33:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well for one.. if you already have children you should train them to sleep on there own.. you must take control of the situation.. you already have a 5 and 3 yr old and then this lil 16 month and now you are pregnant.. you seem as if you are creating more than you can handle.
Its very important for a parent to take charge because you are responsible for the way your kids turn out.
Act now!!!
2006-07-21 10:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by PG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have your hands full! I would definitely start a routine with your little boy right away - which will help him regulate his hours better. If you can keep a schedule and get him up in the morning at the same time, have breakfast, playtime, a nap(when you can also rest) and then some sort of physical activity that will burn up some of his energy it might help-such as riding a toddler bike, or taking him to the park to swing and play.
Then make sure he gets plenty to eat at dinner, right before bath time, which should help him relax. After that, you could read him a story or encourage him to play quietly. If a warm bath, and quiet time doesn't work, there's always the old reliable method - I'd put my little ones in the car and go for a drive at night until they fell asleep. Then we'd carry them into the house and tuck them into bed where they would sleep soundly through the night.
I know you're tired, but you need to break the habit of letting him sleep with you before the new baby arrives. Is he still using a bottle or is he breast-fed? You could try giving him some water in a bottle to help him get to sleep. If he still screams and you put him in your bed, then it will reinforce that you will give in to him if he screams long enough. As long as he doesn't have a medical problem or isn't hungry, it won't hurt if you let him cry himself to sleep. You may want to keep checking on him, but whatever you do, don't give in!
2006-07-21 10:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very hard but what you need to do is teach him that he won't get a response at night. Don't go into him at all. Even if it takes 15 minutes or more don't give up and go in because as soon as you do that he will know as long as he carries on, you will eventually cave it.
It will take an iron will to do this but once you start, stick to it. It is the only way to get any sleep. If he cries so hard he makes himself vomit... clean it up in the morning. I know it sounds heartless but it's the only way for you all to get a good nights sleep.
2006-07-21 10:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by dashabout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I'd also say let him cry it out. He can't get to sleep because he feels you need to be there for him to fall asleep, but he needs to learn to sleep on his own, especially now that you have a new baby coming very soon. It's like what I saw on Supernanny... you just have to give tough love. He can't cry and whine forever. Eventually he'll give up, get tired, and fall asleep. The first time you leave him in his room though, be sure to bend down to his level, look him firmly in the eyes, make sure he's looking at you, and tell him that he's a big boy now, and he needs to learn to sleep on his own, and that he's making you very unhappy by keeping you awake. Tell him that he has to sleep on his own, and that if he tries to cry, you will not come to him. And you gotta keep your word and don't give in no matter how sad it makes you. Some kids need tough love, and in the end it will work to a mutual happiness.
2006-07-21 10:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16 months it is very normal for the baby,which he still is,to want to be near you. why not build his confidence by letting him feel at ease . Read to him at night next to you and let him fall asleep next to you. Then take him to his bed so he can wake up there.
Every individual is different and he may be developing in such a way to have night terrors or nightmares. he needs you to feel confidant.To feel safe is the only way to be a confidant child.
2006-07-21 12:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont agree with that tough love crap!!!
If he needs you then he needs you. Our daugher has slept with us since she was born and now she's three. My husband and all his brothers were in their parents bed too. I think it brings families closer and keeps kids feeling secure. Dont make him feel like he's out because there's a new baby. There is no reason he has to sleep alone. Fanatic people get on my nerves, I would NEVER just let my daughter "just cry it out" (unless it was just a temper tantrum). Just hold him and rock him if thats what he needs. Dont let people tell you other wise. He's still a baby too. Babys need love and snuggles. Dont ever leave him to be scared in the dark all by himself crying.
2006-07-21 10:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try putting his crib in your room when he cries show him attention but don't take him out of his bed (just a thought)maybe he will get used to being in his crib he probably feels lonely
2006-07-21 10:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by inluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep trying to him back in his bed but just remember that he might be a bit clingy because Ur pregnant-so at the moment if he wants to sleep with u just let him give him as much attention as u can because when the other baby comes u wont be able to
2006-07-22 12:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to put my daughter i nthe pack & play next to my bed and once she'd fall asleep i'd put her in her bed and then she'd stay there if she woke up she couldn't get out but i'd tell her i'm right here and she'd go back to sleep .... maybe she can sleep with your 5 year old for a few days she probably just wants the comfort of another body
2006-07-21 10:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by manda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just WOULD not give in and put him in my bed.
Let him scream the house down if he must, but do not give in to him. He wont come to any harm by just screaming his lungs off. If he gets sick, clean him up, dont make a fuss, and put him back in his own bed
You should watch "house of little terrors" or "supernanny" they have fantastic methods for such little terrors..
You poor thing. good luck with it, and good luck with new baby x
2006-07-21 10:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by super_star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋