m husband is telling me that our kids will choose their religion and path when. they grow up I am telling him that they need religion training and principals right now. I believe in god and prayers.
what should I do ?
does anyone faces these parenting problem before.
help pls.
thanks
2006-07-21 10:27:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Listen to your husband. The truth, the real truth, the kind of truth you can pick up and hit people with is not religion. Certainly not Christian, if you're Muslim or Muslim if you're Christian or either if you're Jewish. Stick to the real world for lessons in morality and conscience. Don't pollute the sensibilties of a child with an insubstantial conjectural truth that is absolutely wrong in the professed opinions of any but the particular version of the particular religion that is to hand in your particular part of the world at this particular time. The chances of it being right in any sense of the word are extremely remote.
2006-07-21 10:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Frog Five 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I am in a similar situation, i only became interested in a relationship with God after i was married to my husband, who does not believe.
At first he did not want the children to have anything to do with it, but he mellowed after a while, he see's the way the children are developing and realises that a relationship with God is acceptable. My children have very strong morals instilled into them, they are caring, thoughtful, obedient and loving individuals. The way i see it is that my husband is the head of the famiuly and it is his responsibility to teach the children about God, but if he does not do this, then i need to ensure that they will learn. The chances of your children having a relationship with God when they are grown, if you do not teach them about it, must be quite slim?
It will be tough, and you will find it hard and you must respect your Husband of course, but really they need to have God in their lives.
Try to reason with your Husband and remind him of the benefits your Children would gain from Bible based principles, such as no sex before marriage, no lies, you know what i mean. But most important thing of all,you need to keep praying about this -trust in God.
Your Husband will always be free to tell the children his beliefs also, and at the end of the day, no matter how much you pray with them or take them to Church they will still decide for themselves later wont they?
Your Husband may be able to insist that you do not take them to church etc, but he can never stop you from talking to the children can he? And really if you do the best that you can, one day when they say, mum/dad i do/do not want to go to Church it WILL be there choice, but at least you can say you did your best!
I hope thing s work out for you all.
2006-07-22 11:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by BRICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a non believer and found this very difficult, i am Roman Catholic and i believe in God, like any other person i pray etc., The best way i dealt with this situation was to say i was going to have my daughter baptised. His reply was when anything to do with religion i could deal with as he had no interest whatsoever. I never talk with him on religion and i carry on teaching my child what i believe to be the correct way. When she is old enough if she chooses this was not the path or direction for her i will accept that. Your in a difficult situation but it depends on how ur relationship and understanding with ur husand is on this delicate issue. I wish you luck and please god u fine a solution ...Best Wishes
2006-07-22 19:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a difficult one, but form a personal choice I think that if the child knows now about religion, when they gets older they can either stay with it or reject it. If he gets to teen status it is not considered "cool" to go to church etc. If they has some knowledge before the age of fashion etc, then even if they didn't go for a few years or so, they will still know that the path is there is they want to return
2006-07-22 13:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by biker550_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, children when they grow up will decide on what path to take as we all do. Teaching them morals and principals helps them to make better informed decisions. Taking them along to Childrens Church or reading bible stories is a GREAT way to teach them principals and ideals. When they get to the stage of not wanting to go they'll soon let you know. It's also a great way for kids to meet other kids and for mums to be with other mums. I personally can't see how teaching them something positive and good could be seen to be bad.
2006-07-21 17:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well neither my husband or myself are too religious. We both believe in God but he was raised Christian and i was raised Catholic. We are currently pregnant with our first and I'm sure this will be a problem. I figure, since I'm more into religion then him, our kids will be catholic.
In the case where one parent doesn't believe, then the other should be free to teach the child their religion. You two have to compromise.
2006-07-21 17:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by s_sill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st, why did you even get married knowing that you was religous and he wasn't? Didn't you foresee that this would eventually cause trouble in the future? Besides when his *** is as at work whats to stop you from teaching them religion? And how can they make a choice when they are grown seeing as how they will be raised without religion and therefore probably not believe it then
2006-07-21 17:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them chose their own path.
Get them baptised but don't force religion on them. I'm sure you husband would attend a christening wouldnt he? Then just take it from there. They are only babies. Kids need love and play , religion makes no sense to anyone under age 6 anyway.
2006-07-21 17:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by super_star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband and I were in the same boat. I am christian, he is pagan. We made a simple agreement that the kids would go to church with me when I went, and if he decided to practise his religion, as long as it was appropriate and safe, the kids could go with him if he wanted. We would not trash either religion, just teach them about them, explain to them that it is what we believe, even if other people don't believe the same thing, and when they are mature enough, they could decide if they wanted to continue going to services with either of us and pick a religion, or they could continue going with both of us.
2006-07-21 18:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by sweets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but i think your husband is right you cant force religion on a child thay will learn it themselves , me and my husband have two different religions and although he is catholic he dont go to church he dont pray and i dont think he belives in god , but yet when are son was to be christened he wanted him christened a catholic , sorry bollocks to that my son will learn what he needs to no there is no way that i will have him brought up by kneeling at the end of the bed praying to god . you need to come to some sort of arrangement with your husband over this fair enought its what you belive in but your husband might not . sorry if that sounds a bit nasty but ive seen my friends taking there children to church every sunday and there not even 1 yet , i sat let the child make up there own minds when there old enough if thay wont to go thay will go if thay dont then thay dont it wont make them a bad person after all
2006-07-21 17:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by fafandloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋