I was just browsing through there because that's where I met him. And I just wondered what if I saw him there again. And sure enough he was. And he was under a different name. He says it's not him, but it's his email address.
2006-07-21 10:23:15 · 37 answers · asked by jene 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's just wrong. Dump him!
2006-07-21 10:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either create a fake profile with a new, free email address and contact him, or have a friend with an account do it. Tell him how hot you think he is. Ask if he has a girlfriend, and wsay that even if he does, you'd still like to meet him for some fun! Then arrange the meeting, and go there yourself to confront him! THEN DUMP HIS LOSER ***!
2006-07-21 10:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw a couple of good suggestions...
Definately get someone else to contact him via match.com and arrange to meet, you go in the other persons place. dont say anything at all. Just look at at him, and look sad. Then turn around, walk off, and dont listen to him when he calls out to you.
He will think about what a jerk he has been. he will think untill he cant think anymore!!!
Dont get histerical.
Im telling you right now... you wont even have to say a word!
it will work its-self out from there. if he is really into you he will do what it takes to make it better. if he's not then it would be a good idea to remind yourself of this as you cut your losses.
while you are in the "you hurt me" mode, dont offer him anything, even if you feel mean, giving in means you're weak and he will carry on with it. Dont be a ***** though or he will justify it in his mind that it was ok coz you're a *****.
Just be happy and dont be emotionally available till he earns it.
Jo
2006-07-23 11:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by miss-pelld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a picture on it? It probably IS him, especailly if its his email address But... I would let it go and see if the personal disappears after a few days or has been changed. He knows hes been caught so he will try to cover it up. Keep checking to see if its still on there. Or reply to it using a different name and see what you can find out. If you can catch him in his lie, Dump him. He is obviously still shopping around..
2006-07-21 10:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were on match. for one of three reasons. 1) You dont trust him, trying to catch him 2) You were looking to find somebody else or 3) You were going to post a profile for yourself.
He was on match for one of two reasons 1) He's not content dating just you or 2) He wanted to see if he was able to get someone else.
Now in explanation two, he wasn't neccesarily going to act on it, but take it from me, once guys get tied down in a relationship, they wanna see if they still got "it". "It" is the ability to obtain new p***y. (Excuse me for being frank)
I realize that what Im saying sounds misogenistic, but Im trying to lay it out for you in the most stripped down way possible.
Here's what you should do... Drop it or Drop him. If you plan on staying with him, dont bring it up again, you are just inviting him to lie, the harder you question, the more he will lie. So if you're interested in catching him, keep up the inquisition, if you're interested in having a meaningful relationship, let him know you love him and trust him, and the only question to ask is if he feels the same towards you.
2006-07-21 10:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by peardietz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You too shouldn't be together because neither one of you should have been there in the first place. If you two were really into each other you both wouldn't be looking around a match making site.
2006-07-21 10:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you remember the old Shaggy song, "It Wasn't Me"? He's playing you. If it's his e-mail address, and if the profile matches what you know of him, it's him. It sounds like his only escape plan is to say, "It wasn't me." But that's a really stupid lie... because a girl would have to be stupid to believe it. Sounds like he's too stupid to be with you, hon.
2006-07-21 10:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by BeenThere69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really only one thing you can do. Break up. He is obviously keeping his options open in case someone better comes along. And who knows if he's actually met someone already. This is one of those things that you just cant overlook.
2006-07-21 10:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two suggestions - move on you can do better OR
give him so much sex he cant get his brain into thinking about other women!!! wear him out silly - make him do it even when he is far too tired to do so
an old guy I work with said his wife does this and he hasnt even had the sexual energy to look at another woman in 30 years!!!!!
2006-07-21 10:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you look for trouble - you find it. Just leave it alone. You're only dating, you're not married. he owes you his honesty, but not necessarily his commitment. However, if he plans to date other women other than you, then he should be honest about it and give you the option to accept or reject the situation. Be blessed.
2006-07-21 10:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by twiigy 4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suspected him to begin with or you wouldn't have checked. And he's dumb enough to look at his OWN email address and tell you that it isn't him. He must THINK you're even dumber. Ditch him.
2006-07-21 10:28:22 · answer #11 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋