My boyfriend and i have been together for five months we both were virgins and have had sex a few times but we dont have it offten because i dont want to.I dont want to because i adont like it sometimes i wish sex never existed, dont get me wrong there has been a couple of time where i enjoyed a lil but not to say oh my god that was awsome. Any way can ai get any advice? Is this normal? Does anyone have similar expiriences?
2006-07-21 10:18:33 · 12 answers · asked by boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im 18 yrs I think my body should be able to handle it
2006-07-21 10:32:26 · update #1
There could be so many reasons as to why your having your particular problem. Depending on how old you are your body just may not be ready. Lubrication I have been told is actually a girl's best friend. Maybe your rushing into it and not giving enough time for your body to accept what it is fixing to receive. In lesser terms "Foreplay". Take your time, don't rush it, and tell Mr. Man to slow his juvenile *** down. Don't be forced into doing something your not ready for.
2006-07-21 10:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by tripping_00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are a teenager, stop having sex. If you are older, than all it is is just practice. But if you are not really enjoying it than don't do it anymore.I was the exact same way, I'm 25 yrs.old & I didn't start enjoying it til about 5 or 6 yrs.ago. You just need to have him or when you meet someone new, who will be patient & ya can both learn something new or try something new.Its all up to you.But first of all, I would say is that you should learn more on masturbation, its really important to women who can please themself before they can be pleased from a man.But don't pressure yourself to do anything.Sex is just sex, its very overrated. don't stress about it,and don't give in to it. plus, ya were both virgins,do some research on the internet about pleasure.what you can use or do, or whatever. of course, this is only if you are like 18 yrs.old or older? if your younger, again, no rushing into that.it'll still be around when you get older.
2006-07-21 10:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by valmoreno20 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women tend to like sex for totally different reasons than men do. Us girls have to have most of our emotional needs met before we feel sexual towards a man. Guys are ready to go all the time because sex just feels different to them. Also, they don't have nearly the things to worry about as does a sexually active woman.
Women pay most of the consequences for being sexually active. They are the receivers. They risk getting pregnant and many say that they are more prone to sexual diseases because of the fact that our organs are internal. In general, girls just have way more worries when it comes to sex. They need to be more careful and that affects the enjoyment level of casual sex for a woman.
Sex gets much better after you get older and after you find the guy that you are truly meant to be with. It will get better for you eventually. Maybe you just started too young.
Perhaps you could talk to your boyfriend and let him know that you still love him, but that you just don't feel right having sex at such a young age. Let him know that there are other ways for you to take care of his sexual needs(if you are comfortable doing that). You can do lots of other things besides penetration and you won't have quite as many worries about pregnancy or disease.
If her truly loves you(and it sounds like he does), he'll understand. Best Wishes, Sweetie.
2006-07-21 10:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by JustLookinAround 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you were both virgins, you've still got to get used to each other's body... the first few times might be painful but you'll notice the gradual change from pain to painful pleasure to just pleasure... Also remember to warm up the car before you drive ;)
2006-07-21 10:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is perfectly normal. Is this something your boyfriend has pressured you into doing? You don't really sound like you are very into it. Sex is something that takes practice. The more you do it the better it feels. But if you don't really want to then don't!!!
2006-07-21 10:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by *Cara* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal as you become more comfortable with yourself your body your partner and the sexual experience in general youll be able to enjoy yourself more. Try to take a human sexuality class. i took one in college and it was extremely informative it will answer so many questions you have and even some you don't know you have....be safe.
2006-07-21 10:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by Kristina T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats why most girls go for older guys. virgins dont know what they are doing. either find an more experienced guy or have the patience to help teach this one. try to get him to do alot of forplay. men and women are different in that men are physical about sex and women are mental. you need more mental stimulation. try to think about your romantic fantasies and try to get you bf to help act them out.
2006-07-21 10:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by llcoolbeans_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a few times before you get good at it. Maybe he's not doing things right.....You cant play pool with a rope.
2006-07-21 10:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by six.pack.abs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When i just started i hated it too, but eventually it gets better. Give it some time
2006-07-21 10:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by slimchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes guys and girls arent compatible sexually, it may have to do with him being to big for you or you not being turned on by 4 play first. try lubrication and having him give you oral pleasure first
2006-07-21 10:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by sexybeeotch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋