my no self esteem will come through and i wont be able to be myself..or i'll be to nervous. or ill pick myself apart untill i feel unbelievable, like crap, like nothing. can anybody help? in order to maybe help me with this question, you might wanna scim through my other questions to see what issues im dealin with, i wont say them all again, cheers
2006-07-21 10:15:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
by the way folks iam a male..thanks
2006-07-21 10:49:19 · update #1
o.k. flash i did my research, i knew you were a male, but thanks for spelling it out for the others.....1) you have a date, be happy
2) stop beating yourself up over things that have not happened yet. 3) be yourself, you r worth knowing. 4) see a doctor for your depression issues. meds can help. 5) just because you r paranoid doen't mean they aren't watching. 6) lighten up a little, being so criticle of yourself only propetuates your negitive feelings. 7) force yourself to smile, even fake smiles release chemicals to your brain that make you happy. Good luck, enjoy your date, get to know her and don't focus so much on yourself.
2006-07-21 11:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by who be boo? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. The key to a success date is to be yourself. It is nerve wrecking at any level when you have low self esteem or when you are just nervous. Take a deep breath, start slowly, and let your natural juices flow. Maintain eye contact. Ask questions that you want to know and respond to questions honestly. The key to communication is to be open and honest about what you want and what you are really looking for. To deal with your low self esteem issues you must look within yourself. Know that you are beautiful and deserve the best man possible who will ove you for you and treat you with respect and be honest with you. Make a note everyday to tell yourself that you are beautiful. If you think that your hair is a mess, try out a new style. If you like make-up put on a little to bring out your natural tone. I would suggest that you wear something that is comfortable and that brings out the real you. Don't try to hard to please your date. Remember that you are someone and you are worth waiting for. If a person really likes you then he or she will wait untill you are ready, that's where respect comes in. Try these things and see how you can start to realize that you are awesome. Also try new things and don't be embarassed to make mistakes. Mistakes happen in life, just laugh, regroup, and move on. God Bless you and your family.
2006-07-21 17:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by sencious20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me you need to look into the mirror and say to yourself..My goodness what a beautiful person I am and then tell yourself how much you love yourself..U know if you love yourself you can do anything that crosses your path so hold your head up and be proud of who u are and make the best of everything and stop worrying about the small things and things will get better for you,be postive and you go girl..
2006-07-21 17:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut Yourself some SLACK ! Just go to cnvc.org to get a clue; your basic needs are the same as everyone elses...
HINT - people love to give their opinions - that's how you get to know each other...give your opinions.....Notice things around you like "wow, isn't that a great sunset ? Did you see that show? How'd you like it?"
Be honest, say, " Wow, I feel nervous..How do you feel?"
skip the drugs; your date will know if your loaded; that shows no self-repect..
2006-07-21 17:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by bjoybeads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a large Bandaid on your face.
Put your left wrist in an Ace bandage
Put your right arm in a sling.
Swear you were attacked by Ninja's and robbed of all your money.
If your date buys it you'll get a Free meal, a Free Movie, and Great Sympathy Sex.!!
2006-07-21 17:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by echiasso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your other questions I suggest you talk to someone and skip this date. You can't date anyone untill you clear up your own issues. You may run the perfect girl away with your issues.
You need to be able to love yourself before you can love someone else.
2006-07-21 17:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by PG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoever it is ur going on a date with they obviously like u already cos they asked u out!! just consider that while ur sat there, dont worry about it take ur time and try and think b4 u speak that way u can control what ur saying.
U shouldnt worry so much, a lot of ppl feel like this and u sound lovly on ur profile
2006-07-21 17:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by laydee_t_xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going with a friend and her/his boy/girlfriend, like a double date, go soemwhere where you are comfortable, try a movie then afterwards talk about the movie at a fast food place or something, list everything good about yourself before you go out. Wear something comfortable.
2006-07-21 17:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by angel_day16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude first of all if you feel like crap you shouldn't be going on a date. you'll make the other person nervous. focus on your self first. check out more-selfesteem.com.
2006-07-21 18:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were such an awful person you wouldn't have a date!!!!don't base your worth on a date...you give your power away doing that....just talk,yes talk,if you are hard on yourself you enable everybody to be.you are a great, obviously caring person,what more could anyone ask for,a rich pompus ***?not any singles i know.....just relax and be the great you
2006-07-21 17:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋