I am 25 and still live at home. I am sort of dating a guy who lives about 60 miles away and I care for him. But all I do is go to work and come home. And I LIKE that...I cannot wait to get home at the end of the day. I don't really like to go alot of places or do things I just like to be home. I desperately want to meet someone and start a family but I just can't motivate myself to get out and try. Plus I live in a small town so its the same guys all the time! What can I do?
2006-07-21 10:02:54 · 33 answers · asked by CherryCola 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, the absolute BEST thing you could do right now would be to move out of your parents house and that town. This will force you to get out on your own and take care of things yourself instead of falling back on what's comfortable.
This is your life...you don't get a redo button. Get out and LIVE! Experience things. Drink too much. Do impulsive stuff like take off on a road trip on a moments notice. Live life!
2006-07-21 10:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, there is nothing wrong with you. Some of us prefer to be home versus other places. I'm a home body, and I'm not ashamed to admit it. If I go on vacation, I start to miss home after only a week. I am concerned that you still live at home. I think you do need to make some changes in your life if your ever going to meet someone and have a family. The first is that you need a home of your own. By doing that you will be making a big change in your life that will open things up for you gradually. Obviously your on the internet so living in a small town doesn't preclude you from finding someone. Just don't rush things, and don't change who you are.
2006-07-21 10:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you do need to get out of your parents home and on your own. when you have reached your limit and are tired of seeing the same ol guys over and over, that right there will be your motivation for getting out and meeting some new people. it just seems as though you are not totally tired of it yet because you are still in the same situation. well sweetie, you can't be in a bad or unhappy situation and just sit and complain about it without doing something to change the situation. start looking to move into some other cities and towns where there are alot of people which will lessen the chance of you running into the same people all the time like you do in the small town you live in now. wake up and recognize that you deserve better for yourself and that should be all the motivation you need.
2006-07-21 10:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by queenreignsupreem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No theres nothing wrong with you! I like to go out every now and then but truth be told some of the most fun i've had is spent at home just with some mates. If you want to meet a guy then you have 3 choices:
1. Go out and find one
2. Ask a friend to be set up
3. Use a dating service or find someone on the internet.
The dating game isn't pretty but if you don't play it then your bound to lose
2006-07-21 10:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a medical standpoint I certainly think there is nothing wrong with you. It's caused primarily by your present environment.
I myself was in a similar situation myself even though I lived in New York City with my parents.
I was in my late 20's and had a job that entailed travel to various vendors. Every place I visited had a "match maker" working there that tried to get me a date. The only problem was that most of the ones they tried to date me with were what I called "has beens".
Has been married, now divorced and have kids. Didn't interest me!!
Then one place I met this girl. We went out for dinner. Got acquainted and got to know each other over a period of time.
We even lived together before tying the knot for about six months.
We knew we were meant for each other. We still are after 44 years.
I feel that when Mr. Right comes along - - Blammm - - You will know it. I was 29, she 32 and I wish that every marriage culminates as good as ours does. Hang in there sweetie!
2006-07-21 10:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by frank b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this...why is it you're shackling yourself to this area? Can you afford to live on your own? Would you consider moving to a more populated area? Sometimes, we all need our space and alone time. Tonight, I'll be going straight home from work and I'm plopping on my couch and watching movies that I want to watch. That's my thing, but I still get out there and socialize. You're 25 and that's too young to live like a recluse. You don't have to be Miss Party-pants but you owe it to yourself to go have a good time, be it taking part in hobbies and activities that you enjoy or grabbing a bite to eat with one of your friends. Maybe your problem is that you're not being motivated to do more with your life. Find something that inspires you and go for it. I hope that helps.
2006-07-21 10:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with the fact that u live home but u need to get out and experience life not just work and home, there are so many wonderful things to do that u can never be bored. and think about how nice it would be to go home to someone u love and that loves you and u guys can go on trips together and how fun that would be, that should be motivation enough just the tought of having someone there that u can go on trips with, thats what i love the most about relationships that u can pick up and go on road trips and have lots of fun good luck and i hope you find that one person u can be happy with and experience all the wonderful things life has to offer :)
2006-07-21 10:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not wrong with you. Culture and environment are external factors that you can't definitely control. I also grew up in a small town and i never really went out with someone within the same community. But since you're 25 and working, i would suggest that you take moving out to a bigger community a consideration. I did that and met a lot of people and finally met a boyfriend who then turned out to be my husband.
Good luck!
2006-07-21 10:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are 10 simple steps!
1. Move out
2. Take some responsibility
3. Lose weight
4. Get a make over
5. Go to a bar
6. Have a one-night stand
7. Feel hung-over in the morning
8. Sleep the next week
9. Go to happy hour one night
10. Meet a guy!
Is that really so hard? Stop being lazy!
2006-07-21 10:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I have a boyfriend who lives 60 miles away from me too. When I see him on most Saturdays, I am just not in the mood to do too much. I work full time and have two sons. I am divorced. I think if we were closer it would work out better.
2006-07-21 10:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by jene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋