when we fight (like we are now) I always feel like I don't want to be with him for the rest of my life anyway. But when we aren't fighting, Ifeel like I am a better person with him. I am only 21. Do I need to get rid of him?
2006-07-21 09:58:07 · 14 answers · asked by morgan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're only 21 and you've been with him for 4 years, so that means you started going together when you were 17. That's young, and it's quite natural where you're at now to want to see what else is out there. I think that's where all this might be coming from. A break might do you two some good. You may find he is the right one, you may not, but if you settle for the only thing you've ever known when you seem to crave more, you'll only run into problems down the road with him. Your 20's are a journey of learning and growing and finding out who YOU are. Good luck!
2006-07-21 10:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first what are the fights about? Stupid stuff like he watches to much sports. Medium stuff like he watches to many bikinis or Big stuff like "ow please stop hitting me"? And yes I figure it was his fault you are in a fight because well I am a man and the sooner we learn its always our fault, the easier life is.
Secondly, who takes the longest to get over the fights? This is an important one, because (im gunna let you in on a little secret) we dont stop arguing because we see it your way, we stop arguing so that we can get back to getting some. Do you try to remedy the fight because you cant stand being angry at someone you love anymore? Does he always have to come begging for forgiveness? Or did you have previous plans and you have to stop fighting or you cant go out Saturday night?
Lastly, how good are the good times? What I mean by this is when you're not fighting is it unbelievable how lucky you are to be with this man, that you have gotten to spend the last 4 years sharing your heart and your life with this amazing soul, or is it countdown to the next fight?
Answer those three questions honestly and you will have your answer.
2006-07-21 17:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by peardietz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if the fight you're having is a commonplace thing. Do you fight more than you get along? Are there other people you find yourself equally attracted to? Do you regularly think about dating other people? Do you feel like you're missing out on anything by only dating him? What kind of man is he? Is he someone you'd want to grow old with? Is he someone you can depend on, no matter what? Is he someone who would love you and stand by you, regardless of your appearance, physical health, money problems? You need to ask yourself if you think there's someone out there who is a better match for you. I've only dated my hubby. We've been together since I was 17 and I started wondering around your age if I should move on, but I asked myself the above questions and it made my decision to stay with him easy. Hope they help you make your choice.
2006-07-21 17:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im gonna wait for the answers cuz i feel the same. Last fight was in the middle of a parking lot at 6:00 pm, and we were so loud, people called police. When im mad i ask myself if this is what i really want for the rest of my life or what.
2006-07-21 17:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by spoiled_noche 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. You should always be honest, that's what makes a healthy relationship. If you fight alot, he isn't worth your time. A fight every once in awhile is good 4 the relationship. Look deep down inside. Think about it..... Does he love you enough to understand how you feel????????
2006-07-21 17:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by Fook Yu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nooooo Arguing is a good thing in a relationship. keep that in mind. But if you are fighting (yelling and screaming) well that is not healthy. Try communicating on a more mature level Raise the bar to maturity.
2006-07-21 17:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by christsluv4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, but only because if you split from him i think you will both find your true feelings. Either you will miss is each and get back together and decide to resolve your problems or you will decide you are better off.
2006-07-21 17:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should NEVER have to feel that you are a better person just because of someone else being in your life -
you are responsible for you - you can be ads good as you want to be no matter who is in your life -
maybe he is a good match for you, but you need to be secure in yourself first -
2006-07-21 17:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by alesda maderi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone feels mad and angry when they are fighting, but if you feel like you don't want to be with him b/c of fighting with eachother, you need to talk to eachother and see why you are fighting so much. i suggest councilling
2006-07-21 17:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by plastik_persephone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's entirely a personal decision on your part. No one else can answer it.
2006-07-21 17:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋