My wife thinks it is ok to say suggestive things to our guy friends. She calls it flirting but I feel it is more like talking dirty. For example one guy said his leg hurt. She thought it was funny to offer to "rub" it for him. This is on the tame side of her comments. I feel disrespected when she does this. I have told her how I feel but she continues to do it. I am wrong? How should I handle this?
2006-07-21 09:57:54 · 26 answers · asked by littledude29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yup she needs to be put in her place.
2006-07-21 09:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by slickwilj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You see she has a habit of expressing her anger and hostility toward you and some things you do, through flirtation with other men. Evidence: She knows it hurts but keeps doing it.
Unless and until she becomes less passive-aggressive, not much will change.
If you insist on staying with her, you can try this each time it happens again: As she jokes and talks dirty to some guy, start laughing with her and say: "Sorry, my wife is in the habit of acting like a low-life slutt". Then when she gets shocked and negative, you can tell her it was all in fun, just like her behavior.
Or you can flirt outrageously with one of her friends or someone. Maybe that'll wake her up. I personally wouldn't trust someone like that with my feelings or with men. It'd a deal-breaker for me.
2006-07-21 17:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by Rewsna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be giving you a hint that she wants to go outside the coop. Maybe she wants to swing, you know swingers? You should be open and up front with her and ask her why does she do this, what is the real reason behind it cause it does sound like more then just fliriting and if you are married why would she have the need to flirt? Be prepared for the answer cause it may not be something you want to hear.
2006-07-21 17:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by musicisme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, this was a poor example of a sexual talk. I think, a hurt leg is little more than a medical problem which could be made feel better with massage(Massage is very different from sex). but if your wife does use sexual talk to your friends this is humiliating and disrespectful to you. This should NEVER be done ever, ever!
2006-07-21 17:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. It is definitely inconsiderate of her. There is a line where it could be viewed as just you being uptight or else her being inappropriate. Reading your question it definitely feels like it's the latter. Keep talking to her and if it continues you should consider seeking counselling together as there may be larger issues going on. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-07-21 17:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by paddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong. Its absolutely normal.
You are just a little possesive and love your wife too much. Tell her you dont like such perverted talks as it shows to other people that your "love life" is not so good. Only people who are seeking a better love life talk dirty.
by the way talking dirty may be OK..but enacting it really bad. She should know that.
2006-07-21 17:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have already talked to her about it and explained how disrespected you feel, then I say start treating HER friends the same way, and the hotter the friend the better. She won't like that much at all and then maybe she will full realize what she is doing to you.
2006-07-21 17:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have every right to be upset and maybe you should really sit her down again and tell her how it makes you feel and that she really needs to stop i mean she married you not them it is not right for her to be flirting as she puts it with all these other men that is not fair to you. And if that dont work try giving her an ultimatum or do the same with some of your female friends and show her how it makes you feel.
2006-07-21 17:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a point but I don't know how you can convince her. She doesn't sound interested in your feelings or how this hurts you. You could sit her down, when she's not doing it, and explain it to her and ask her if she would try to remember how much it hurts you. (I say "try" because it sounds like a habit and in the moment she might forget that she's trying to stop.) That's the best I can suggest, but if you've already told her and she keeps doing it, I don't know a way to convince her. It should be important to stop because it's important to you.
2006-07-21 17:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u should, the way to handle this is that u should try rubbing one of ur or her female leg and if she gets mad then remind her of what she did.
2006-07-21 17:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by Ava H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u have reason to b. If it continues, u might want to go get professional help. I saw a couple with the same problem on the dr. phill show.
2006-07-21 17:01:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋