How to play hard to get?

Question

This girl I like is playin hard to get, so how do get an advantage here because if I do it. She will probably think, he has not called and that I am not interested.. Help me out here. She will not return anything I do for a day or even 2 days and I do the same. It's driving me up the wall. How do play hard to get?

Answer 1

It's going to be tough to carry on a relationship if you are both playing hard to get! If you really want to play that way, either don't answer her call when she finally does call you or answer it and tell her that you are doing something with your friends and will have to call her back.

Playing hard to get all the time is over-rated. Why not just let her know that you like her and that you'd like to talk to her more often. The key is that you don't give up your life by structuring your entire day around her. Don't give up a day with your friends because you are waiting for her to call.

She will respect you as long as you don't give up your life and take on all of her idea and opinions. Don't be afraid to be yourself and to express your own opinions about things. She likes the person she met, not the one that she is going to try to mold you into.

Believe me, all girls will try to change you. The secret to keeping her interest is that you continue to be your own person. It will drive her crazy that she can't get you to change. She'll keep you around as her "project" for months or years to come!

Answer 2

Hopefully, you speak better than you write. It could be - and you may want to sit down for this - she's just not interested.

Ask her out for a midweek lunch date and don't make any moves or be flirty - just be casual. You'll be able to tell from that if she is genuinely interested and worthy of an evening date (midweek). If she wants a weekend date (at first), if you want to "play hard to get", tell her your weekend is already full - maybe next weekend.

My best advice - is DON't play hard to get. If you like her, and you think she's playing games with you, you may make more headway with some sincerity than participating in the 'game.' Tell her you like her and you'd like to go out.