Man, when you are a guy and you are hanging your head at the end of the bar, expect NO women to give you attention. But if you see a woman hanging her head at the end of the bar, expecy 5 guys to rush over there with their weiners hanging out vying to get her attention. Haha. I just can't figure it out.
2006-07-21 09:55:57 · 36 answers · asked by bootstrap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
typo- *expect, NOT expecy
2006-07-21 09:58:32 · update #1
I wouldn't say desperate is necessarily the same thing as weak.
2006-07-21 10:03:24 · update #2
That's why it's called a damsel in distress. Men like feeling like they are the womans savior. Women like to be saved and rescued by a strong man that can take care of her. Women don't want a man that's broken down sitting at the end of a bar drowning his sorrows.
2006-07-21 10:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by The Hit Man 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
because it's a cheap shot at catching a woman who obviously is at her most vunerable. Being the more emotional of the sexes guys figure they can worm their way into her panties by cooing and oohing and clucking their tounges at what an SOB the guy is (if she's having man problems) and basically playing on their feelings.
Its cheap, its underhanded and it's taking advantage of a situation for your own sexual gains. Women on the other hand may feel the same way towards a guy but men should be in more control and not snivel at a bar in the hopes they'll get laid. A bar is no place to look for sympathy by either sex.
2006-07-21 10:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God has placed in men the innate desire to protect and provide for women and children. It is a natural response.
On the other hand, women have in them an innate need for security, and it's hard to feel secure with a guy who has no confidence or is down in the dumps.
This is not to say that females don't care. If you have a wife or girlfriend, or there is a girl who already likes you, she will become very nurturing and become close to you even if you are down, and she will want to help you.
But a bar is were women go to find a man, it's the cattle auction. You don't go to a cattle auction and say, "I'll take that one in the corner all curled up like its about to die", do you?
SUCCESS!
2006-07-21 10:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
*Boys like it, not men--Because they can take the woman for granted, easily, faster, with little effort on their part because she is so eager.
Women, on the other hand, are not interested in desparate men because there's little for them to take advantage of- unless he's rich- (I DONT do this).
Women also want to be taken care of, rather than have to tend to a man. It's the opposite of what women seek, so, they are in a sense "repelled" by it.
Men love easy prey.
Women love good hunters! It makes them feel special to be wooed and courted intently and impressivley; if he's "just desparate" then he's not seeing her as who she is but as a female in HIS company.
We all want something out of a date/interest, so we do whatever gives the most reward...
Go the in-between way. Dont be overly aggressive, or overly self-contained. Perhaps standing alone gives a message you are not interested, or 'taken', so how/why would a woman appraoch a man (or in the first place, anyway?)
2006-07-21 10:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Yentl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men see an easy "mark". Many men have a need to "fix" everything that comes their way. Most women want to be taken care of - not the other way around. Women respond to confidence and strength.
Like in the animal kingdom, the males are hunters and the females want the alpha male.
2006-07-21 09:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Hmmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good guys are engrained with a "hero complex" that makes them want to rescue a damsel in distress. Jerks just see vulnerability and easy prey. Women don't go for desperate guys b/c we are usually attracted to strength in a man, so an initial sign of weakness is enough to put us off. Women are typically care-givers, but we like for our men to be able to take care of us, not vice versa.
2006-07-21 10:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have the need to feel masculine and in control so when a girl is swooning over him, he can't help but feel like he's all that. Women like desperate men for the same reason sometimes. They like to know that instead of them being attached to the guy, it's finally the other way around. She's got him wrapped around her finger and what girl wouldn't like that? Girls tend to get a little more annoyed about a guy being attached to her hip and always worried about her. It makes him seem too feminine and girls like a guy who can stand up for himself. Women want a guy who's caring, but won't let her step all over him.
2006-07-21 09:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by youdontknowme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess they could be kind of like me. I love my bf so much and I know some of the signs I show him are lots of hugging and snuggling and all sorts of other kissing. He knows he is loved and if it makes me seem desperate, I don't care. I hate being a lone all the time.
2016-03-27 02:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
John is indoctrinised to look after Mary. Open the door, get her a drink, make sure she is comfortable. So am I.
If a female appears to be vulnerable, I am obliged by my upbringing to offer whatever support she needs. Just a word, the taxi fare home, perhaps a meal. It is my duty as a man. No sexual favours expected, a smile would be nice and perhaps "thankyou". If not then it doesn't matter, job done.
2006-07-21 10:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by XT rider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men would f#@k the crack of dawn if they could get a hold of it. Women usually don't have this problem. And desperate guys are usually clingy and weak willed, hence the not being attractive at all.
2006-07-21 09:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋