my boyfriend and me planned to have a kid ... on wendsay we found out i was pregnat since then i havent seen himm .. hes acting differnt and still claims everything is ok... his leaving on sat to go see his other baby in connicut and im in florida. and he dosnt even want to come say bye or anything he says hes tooo busyy...why whould he be doing this to me after i thought everything was goign to get better since i founf out the good new.s.... Does he feel bad cuase he nkows hes goign to cheat onme ... why would he change now... im so emotianl and i now i have to calm down cause its not goign to be good for the baby but i dunt know what to do ..-please help!
2006-07-21 09:41:15 · 20 answers · asked by ChuLAD3P0nC3 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You should pull yourself together and tell him how it is. Tell him if he doesn't want to be with you than you don't need any man you can do this by yourself, and tell him how you feel about everything going on. Than let him explain himself,and why he has been being the way he has. Always give second chances, and rember to forgive and forgett, and/or forgive and never forgett.Good luck seetie and stay stong for your baby
2006-07-21 10:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by mommy2faithat19#3 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one here on Yahoo Answers has good news for you. This is why you don't have children before marriage. You don't have a child to try to make things better with a man who you are not married to. They run from the responsibility and drop you. No one is too busy to say goodbye. That is his way of leaving you. He already had a child with someone else and he left her, that's his pattern.There may be other children you don't know about. Some men just like to get women pregnant, we had a guy like that were I used to work. He had lots of children by various women and stuck them with the cost and responsibility of raising them. He thought that made him a macho stud. Other men say they want to have a baby with you when they mean they want to have sex without a condom and want you to go along with it. He is not going to be a good parent to your child, either. Maybe you should think about either an abortion or adoption as he is not going to be there for you any more than he was there for the other woman in Connecticut. Raising a child all by yourself relegates you to poverty and no social life. If you do have an abortion, tell him you had a miscarriage. I don't know how old you are, but you sound very young to me and you need to talk to some older family members to get perspective like your mother or an aunt.
2006-07-21 16:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by kadel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first take deep breath your emotions can actually harm the baby, when your emotions are in an up roar it sends harmful hormones through your body and your little ones body. If he seems diff rent he may be a little scared you can still get scared when you have more then one baby, if things are going bad, the best thing you could do is leave him,before it gets worse and more harmful for your baby. The longer you wait the harder it will be. I wish I had done that a long time ago, but it took 3 years before I had enough.
2006-07-21 16:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tara S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONe thing never get pregnent to "make things better". Guys often get scared when they hear the word baby. He probablly realized that he already has one & isn't ready to have another. He either needs to help you through this or he needs to let you raise it on your own with help of family & friends. He shouldn't be there for you one minute & not the next, that isnt a good guy. Tell him how you feel & if things don't change then im sorry to say it but you should leave him. Hope this helps!
2006-07-21 16:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by sftballgrl48328 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are a$$holes and if you are lucky he may regret his behavior later but for now you are suffering and he doesn't care. It will be hard but keep close to the people around you who show that they love you and will help you and stay away from negativity in your life. Your most important concern right now is keeping yourself and the baby healthy. Tell him to grow up and that if he can't support you when you need him most that he can just stay away all together. Now is not the time for games and when you have the baby he can either choose to be a part of its life or just send money.
Good luck.
2006-07-21 16:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Amy >'.'< 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry he's acting like that. I don't know the answer to this, except to say that some men don't react well to pregnancy and other types of very serious commitment that they can't clearly escape. From the sound of things, I think he should treat you much much better. The fact that you worry about him cheating is a very bad sign. Bottom line is -- you deserve better -- do what you have to with your boyfriend to make sure that you get better treatment! Be tough, set your standards high -- you owe it to your baby and yourself.
2006-07-21 16:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by Katrine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down first and foremost. obviously he's not a man or he wouldn't just stop talking to you after you found out you were pregnant. why isn't he with the other girl that he has a child with? you should've thought about that before trying to have a baby with him. don't bother stressing over him. you need to take care of yourself b/c you have a life inside of you that needs you to be healthy. stress is never good on an unborn child,so try to do things that will take your mind off of him. Start planning on ways to support yourself once the baby is born so you don't have to depend on anyone to help you.another thing that wouldn't hurt is hitting that spell check button next time;-)
2006-07-22 14:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by I snap kick xscenex kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Emotional,
First of all your crying part because of your boyfriend and part because your pregnant and your hormones are all over the place right now.
But to be honest I do think your boyfriend will leave you if not now but eventually judging by his past behavior of getting women pregnant and leaving them to go to another state!
This is why a you should keep your virginity until your Married but most people disapprove of this.
And for the lady that said she's fine with two children she's lying.... or she leaves her children at daycare all day while she sleeps around!
2006-07-21 17:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that definitley isn't good...weird if he wanted a baby...perhaps he thought he did, and realized he didn't. Or hopefully he just feels weird about it, and doesn't know what to do...Yikes I'd try to talk to him about it. Tell him he's responsible, and you both came to a mutual agreement. And if things don't work out don't worry...I'm a single mom and you learn alot by taking care of the baby by yourself. It'll be okay...If you find your still crying all the time...which I totally understand, then go to the doctor and get medication, seek a loved one's support, or go to a church for prayer...God will help you out...Anyways good luck and god bless!
2006-07-21 16:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by sweete_017 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a baby in another state that he is not with the mommy to WHY would you think he would want another child? I am not trying to be mean but I really think he doesn't want a baby Just leave hiim alone tell him you are busy..your priority now is THAT BABY not him let him be take care of yourself...he is not to busy he chose not to come see you...
2006-07-21 16:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋