what should I do!?No rude answers plz!!! Help!?

Question

Well I`m visiting my family right now and I`m getting annoyed! I`m 12 yrs old and my aunt still treats me like a little kid.She always has to do everything for me.I try to do things on my own but she just does about everything! She always tries to baby me.But show her I`m a independant responsible person?I`m tired of her always getting stuff that I want,when I could get it on my own.Plus she acts if I were a first grader.I`m going into jr.high 7th grade and she just doesn`t see that I`m older well she does but she just doesn`t see I`m responsible.Like if my uncle makes fun of me or jokes around my aunt ALWAYS stands up for me when i could stand up for myself.Help?!

Answer 1

hey wats up im BABIgurl and im 13yrs old and i go through the same thing and i think you should tell her that your not tryin to be mean but you're 12 and its time for you to learn to do things on your own! and maybe she'll come around!bye!!! your friend BABIgurl!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I am a mother of a very independent 12 year old daughter. Sometimes grown ups want to feel needed and protective. And the fact that you are just visiting your aunt right now may be the reason she doesn't know your abilities to be self sufficient. She may remember you as a needy child. She may just need you to show her some responsibility. Like when your uncle cracks a joke about you and she jumps in, respond with, " I got this" and take up for your self. Keep it very clean and respond maturely. Don't over react. Another way you may show responsibility is to volunteer certain things around the house. Surprise them with a lunch made by you. Don't do supper unless you are really ready. TOO MUCH WORK!!!! Hopefully this idea will help enjoy your stay a little better.

Answer 3

How do you feel now compared to when you were 7 years old? Do you feel much smarter and more responsible? Yes, of course you do.

That was only 5 years ago.

And how do you think you will feel about 12 year olds when you are 17? I'll tell you, because I've been there: You will feel the same way about 12 year olds when you are 17 as you do about 7 year olds now .

And I guarantee when you are 25 you will think 17 year olds are immature. That's just natural.

So don't resent your aunt, she lives in a world far removed from when she was 12. I know that it's frustrating, because you are like a little adult, with the ability to make many decisions independently, and do things that adults do.

But part of being grown up is having the maturity to understand other people, and make accommodation for them. In this case, you can prove your maturity by not letting your aunt frustrate you, and just enjoy the attention she shows you. Believe me, before you know it, everyone will be treating you more like an adult, which you think will be better, but along with that treatment will come the higher expectations and responsibilities as well.

My parents used to tell me, "enjoy being a kid while it lasts, because it will be over before you know it." At the time, I just wanted to grow up all at once. I'm sure that you are the same.

Think of older people as though they are 'time-travelers', because they have been where you are, and now they're in the future (their future).

I think that the biggest thing is to remember how you feel now when you are older, so that when you get to where your aunt is now, you will be more understanding of 12 year olds and hopefully your niece will not be writing something like this about you.

In the mean time, I wish I could tell you what to do to change her and other's attitude towards you, but the only thing I can think of is to try to emulate the behavior of responsible, mature adults as much as possible, and people will slowly treat you as such.

SUCCESS!

Answer 4

sweetie, you are still a child, and your aunt is only being well intentioned. Don't feel bad, I have a 14 year old cousin who's mother speaks for her all the time,and my motjer still talks for me at times or tries to do stuff for me and I'm 27. It's just something that happens. If you're really this stressed about it, i hate to say this, but instead of asking the public forum how to deal w/ it go talk to your aunt respectfully. Tell her how you feel and see if there can be a compromise. maybe she can do some things but not everything, the two of you have to figure that out on your own.

Answer 5

Honey, you're getting yourself worked up for nothing. I was the baby, I was very small, and have always looked much younger than I am. People always seemed to forget that I was NOT a baby and that I WAS xxx years old. Does your aunt have any children? If not, she just might not be sure how to handle you because she never had any of her own. It bothers you as much as it does because at your age your new independence and level of maturity is so very important to you. I've been there, and it's frustrating because it feels like people don't respect you. Try looking at it in a different light. When you're older, people won't always be around to stand up for you when you wish they would. In my situation, there IS no help anymore and there's no one to tell me what I should do. Now they say, I'm an adult and I have to decide for myself. That gets pretty tough. You get older, situations and problems get more complex.... Just try to relax.

Answer 6

First and foremost, you are a child. 12 years old is a child. Don't be so hostile toward her. Maybe this is her way of demonstrating affections for you. Go home if it bothers you. Or take the mature way, little missy that know it all- and tell her that the way she treats you bothers you. You sound like a rude spoiled brat. Appreciate what she does for you, as there will be a day that comes when you wont have anyone to baby you or stand up for you. suck it up kid! If you don't want a rude answer then don't post a rude question. It's reciprocity.

Answer 7

YOUR AUNT LOVES YOU VERY MUCH AND IS ONLY SHOWING IT,
it can be uncomfortable, and even embarrasing at your age because you are sensitive, and aware of so much,,
one idea is so you wont hurt her feelings, but, you will tell lher what you want her to know,

go pick her a rose, or flowers, or do something that would surprise her and show her at the same time you are "growing up" AND in a new phase, then send her by mail a lovely card, a just because card, and tell her how much she means to you,, and thru the years she has constantly been loving etc, and then gently tell her that you want her to view you a little different, and that you do not want to be babied so much, and just say it kindly, and then telll her it is yur turn to do things for her, (and even baby her) I BET SHE WILLNOT only understand but feel great and loved as she deserves to feel

good luck, be kind and grateful , for some of us have no family, and would love to be importand as you are.

Answer 8

Sometimes when you visit relatives you haven't seen in a while, it is hard for them to realize how much you really have grown up and thisis the reason that she is treating you younger than you are. Although you sound very mature for 12, you are still techniqually a child. I understand how you feel because when I was 15 my Aunt and Uncle were still sending me Barbie's and Stuffed animals as gifts... enjoy being catered to because when you get older it rarely happens like that.

Answer 9

Sounds like your Aunt loves you VERY much! My Aunt is now 92 and I am 57 , she still talks to me like I am a youngster. I am taking care of my Aunt now, and she still grows Dearer every day. When I was a youngster, you didn't tell adults how you felt because that was considered disrespecting your elders. Kid's rights have come a long way!
Tell her that you would like to talk to her in private, and in a very Loving, responsible way, talk to her about the way you feel. No fits or getting angry, no storming out of the room. Just a few minutes between the two of you.
I would bet that she doesn't realize she is overprotecting you!

Answer 10

well let her know that u are able to do it on your own. Tell her that you are growing up and that she needs to recognize your independence i mean it is nice that she tries to treat you so nice but i know how hard it can be when u hit the teenage years and everyone still sees you as the baby that needs help so start voicing your opinion and show her that u can be independent and maybe she will see that and try not to baby you so much otherwise sit down with her and have a heart to heart talk and let her know how you are feeling and that u dont always need her there to stand up for you because you need to develop your own independence and the only way to do that is by doing it on your own but so that she dont feel so down let her know that u will come to her when u need the help but otherwise that u wanna try to do it on your own.

Answer 11

everybody at any age feels like they can do everything on their own. no matter if your 5 or 50. the thing is to learn how to accept help when you need it, and gracefully and considerately deny it when you dont. 1st of all, if you dont see your aunt that often she might not realize how much you have grown, because she isnt around all the time. express to your parents your delimma, and see if they can talk to your aunt and reassure her that you are capable of doing such things. i dont recommend straight out telling her because all that will do is cause tension for a very long time between the two of you. if your parents wont do anything, then just put up with it for the short time she is around, and sooner or later she will have to deal with the fact you are able.