I'm 44 yrs. old and my Mom still trys to run my life. She's making me insane. She thinks I should spend every free moment at her becond call. If I don't....boy do I have hell to pay! Any suggestions?
2006-07-21 09:28:36 · 16 answers · asked by mydragons_heart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think we are living the same life... My mother knows my sister wont do anything so she always calls me.... I have slowly started to "cut the cord" again. I dont call everyday like I used too, I try not to drop in everytime I leave the house. And dont be afraid to tell her.. No mom, I cant do that right now.. but tomorrow I can help.... And I think if we show them we are independent women.. instead of, still their babies... they will start to slack off some.. best of luck to you
2006-07-21 09:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by kutskova29 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am 44 too,and my mom passed away in 1985, but she was the same way all I can say is tell her how you feel,and love her while she is here. You will miss her when she is gone.
DO what you gotta do if she doesn't like it tell her you will not come around for awhile.
Stay away for awhile I did that and she missed me and said she was sorry for trying to run my life. Things got better before she passed away.
Now if she lives with you Just tell her you have to have your life too but you love her.
Good Luck! I sure would like to know how this turns out for you. your a big girl you can handle it.
2006-07-21 09:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by Chhaya05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer depends on what kind of hold she has on you. Do you stand to be disinherited from a substantial amount which you really need or are you dependant on her for support? I can think of no other reason to put up with it. If the answer to the questions above is no, then I would move far, far away and not give her my address or phone number because that type of person does not change. I have no regard for control freaks because I've been there and done that and got no repect no matter what I did.
2006-07-21 09:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by Wascal Wabbit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom sounds pretty dependent on you. Don't let her badger you into spending all your time with her. Get her signed up for some classes or involved with clubs so she can make some new friends. Explain to her that you have your own life and responsibilities. Let her know that you'll help her find something to get out and meet new people, but you can't spend all your time with her. You have to take a stand and not waiver.
Good Luck!
2006-07-21 09:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by TMH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you have a controlling mom. Just tell her to but out. Her feelings may get hurt but it will be better in the long run. She will not dis-own you. She needs you in her life.
2006-07-21 09:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by christsluv4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really bugs you enough to actually try to do something, tell her if she doesn't MYOB, you will move out of state and call her weekly, and if she starts her nagging on the phone, you'll hang up till the following week. or listen to what shes saying, and obey to keep the peace. Simple choice, just have to have enuf backbone to make a decision and stick to it, you didn't need any of us, just some GUTS!!!!!
2006-07-21 09:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by tmajik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always have her declared mentally incompetent if she's old and have her put away! Sic some horny old man on her. Tell him she's hot to trot. Imagine dear old mom in a bustiere with a whip and high heeled leather boots. Damn now I am going to throw up.
2006-07-21 17:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by merlinsdragonfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to break away from her tell her that u are a grown up now and that u need to take care of your own life tell her u can not worry about her all the time at that u need to worry about you there is no reason for you to drop plans to do what your mom needs and that is actually a form of emeshment that your mom has over you my mom tried doing the same to me for a long time but i finally stood my ground and told her that i need to start living my own life now. I mean you need to worry about you and not what she thinks. She really needs to start doing for herself i mean people do not have kids so that their kids can raise them.
2006-07-21 09:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still live with your mom? If not, you should tell her that you do not have to listen to her anymore. You're suppose to respect your parents but not live for them or with them. Just sit down and tell her that she is driving you nuts with trying to control you. And it is a control issue for her.
2006-07-21 09:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just be trying to help you with some things or just want to be with you some more. If it gets on your nerves sometimes, calmy remind her that your an adult now and that you can make your own decisions, etc.
2006-07-21 09:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by nichellecomicbookgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋