I'm 24 and married to the man of my dreams. We've been married for a year and a half and recently found out that we would be having twins! I really had mixed feelings about this, i'm so excited to be a mom for the first time, and it couldn't make me happier to do it twice. but i've heard some horrible stories about twins, behavoir issues and things. anyone have any advice. How do i nurture their independence but keep them together at the same time?
2006-07-21 09:26:14 · 8 answers · asked by R-Girl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'll try to keep it short. The first few months, you will get no sleep. The first few years, you will get more sleep but less time for yourself. The pre teen years it gets better as the twins are more independent, however because they are close in age and proximity, fights are unavoidable. My twins are now 15 (girls) and they are very close, although they still fight sometimes. Nurture them, give them individual space when needed and they should be well adjusted and happy. Most of all, get some help and get some rest!
2006-07-21 09:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by beattyb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations!!! Only dress them alike (if you feel you have to) before they start school. Once they are in school dont tell people about the "twins", say there individual name. If possible, let each have there own room and let them decorate to there style. Its true that they will fight but there just little things that last a day at the most. Girls will argue the most but will be closest. Boys fight the most and arnt close but at the same time they are. For faternal twins, they will not be very close unfortuantly. They wont argue very much either. Dont tolerate bad behavior and once again congrats! Hope i helped.
2006-07-21 21:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by summer luvver :D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Congradulations. I know how you feel, really i do. I have twins who just in may 2006 turn TWO. A boy and a girl.
Just be positive and everything will fall into place. My kids are competitive one moment then the other they are hugging. You'll have lots of fun.
2006-07-21 17:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by N8tiveChick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations and Congratulations!!
find a group like Mothers of Twins(or Multiples) in your area and ask for books to read and a mentor mom
2006-07-21 18:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 when I had my twins and had the exact same reaction. They are five now, and you just learn from eachother. Each kid will have their own personality and you'll just know. Just take the help when family or friends offers it because it is exhausting. and enjoy your babies, because they wont be babies very long.
2006-07-21 18:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well miss regsim a 21 yr old who knows wat being a twin is all about depending on if its boys or girls or even one of each...im a twin with my other half my brother its not as hard as it sounds but its crazy n adventures try to let them do things together ir there boys thats wat im use to me n my bro got a great bond thats one thing u want twins to have witout dat its not really easy on you n them keep them active yeah theres fiting n all but thats natural ull enjoy it but then its hard work always try to discipline them as easy as u think to ur knowledge is easy thats how theyll learn miss so go with the flow u have any ?s feel free t write back n congats on the soon to b dynamic duo of the house hold hehe
2006-07-21 16:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations !! how exciting !! i adore babies ,, especially twins !! my uncle has 5 month year-old twin boys and they are so adorable ... they haven't been any trouble -of course- till now ,, as she said you would be a double mom ,, your husband could help you with them you know... wish you all luck !!
2006-07-21 16:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have twins the only difference is that you are twice the Mom you would have been otherwise.
2006-07-21 16:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by murph_ltt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋