How do I make my husband want to interact more with our son, in the evenings. I am a stay at home mom and my husband works about 6 days a week. I know in the evenings he is tired, but our son just really wants Daddy in the room while he plays. But my husband would rather lay on the couch and just play PS2 with him. Suggestions needed for how to get him to want to play with our son at least a little while every day.
2006-07-21 09:11:49 · 7 answers · asked by themogleclan@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
why dont you have a family night it doesnt have to be every night just 1 special night a week. get in some food etc. watch a dvd. altogether as a family. childrens dvds. you didnt say how old your son was. if not then why not take a walk to the park. let them kick a footy around for a while get this father son relation back on track. unplug the psp. pretend the hand control broke today why you was hoovering etc..get him motivated in any way you can find..hes a father so he should be acting as 1 to. good luck.
2006-07-21 09:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you cannot motivate anyone. Motivation comes from inside themselves.
If I assume your husband values you and your thoughts. You can try to discuss your feelings with him and see if he will see your point and do some of the things you desire.
If the TV or if the PS2 is a distraction, you could ask if he would consider spending the first 30 minutes of free time without TV or PS2. Suggest age appropriate board games, throwing a ball, riding bicycles together or playing together with favorite toys. Be sure that the very first thing that is done with the free time is an activity you desire as his energy will be spent quickly, as you well know.
Talk to your husband when he is awake and has 10-20 minutes to devote to the subject. Start by saying you think your son appreciates his attention while playing the PS2 and that you want to encourage that attention using other activities. Discuss your desire for a well-rounded child through varied activities involving physical activity and other kinds of personal interaction. Then ask him if he would be willing to devote the 'first hour' to an alternate activity and then later on, when he is more pooped, the PS2 would be fine.
Maybe 2 or 3 days a week you have a non 'PS2' evening. If he values your opinion, he will try it and may see some benefit in it. If he sees some benefit, he will motivate himself to try to attain that benefit on his own and then he will be doing your suggestion, but may think it is his own idea!
2006-07-21 09:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ken C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the mommy needs some time to herself. Your son must be your only and first child. Your husband should want to spend time with him. Kids are great and bonding is very important for fathers and children too. The best thing that I could suggest is for you to learn what interest your husband may have that may help develop a bond with his son before it's to late. On your husbands day off go toy shopping and let him pick a few toys (not computer or video games) that he will use with his son. If you feel family counseling is needed get it right away. Don't avoid the issue. May be your husbands father wasn't the bonding type either. If your father in-law was a good dad get him involved too.
2006-07-21 09:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, depending on the age of your son, you can get him signed up for soccer or baseball. As a dad, I love going out to see my boys play ball. It means a lot to my boys to simply see me relaxing on the sideline and enjoying them do their thing.
I have to admit that I do play XBox with my boys. But only the games rated "E" for everyone.
Sometimes, I'll just snuggle with my younger guy and watch SpongeBob SquarePants. Just simple things like this are easy to do, and they usually lead to a greater involvement over time.
But, be careful not to push too hard, kids can tell if dad is spending time with them because mom has demanded it.
Good luck!
2006-07-21 09:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by pezdispenserwisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the ps2 hide it and give them projects to do together...like making something from wood...or working on something together like fixing something around the house that's broke
2006-07-21 09:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u will have sex with him more often and do the things u never or hardly ever do ,, duh,, ,, thats the way my wife gets me to spend time with our kids,,
2006-07-21 09:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
redbull in his coffee
2006-07-21 09:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋