Ok i love my girlfriend more than anything. We have been dating for almost 8 months now. iam in the military so iam not home alot of the time, not deployed for 18 months but still i gone trainging alot. I just cant shake the feeling that she might cheat on me. I know she wont. she tells me she wont and that she loves me and doesnt want anyone else but me and i beleave her becuase i can see it in her eyes and the way she looks at me. still i cant convince my self that nothing is going to happen. she is in florida right now and i called her twice last night and she didnt answer. my mind went crazy thinking she was having sex with someone and crap like that. she called a few mintues later and said her phone was in the car. anyway is there some way to shake that feeling? that this one might be diffrent from the others? am i making any sense? i love her, i know she wont cheat, still iam so afraid and i cant stop thinking whats she doing, and with who when we are apart. It hurts her....
2006-07-21 09:10:03 · 10 answers · asked by texastechguy03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get some counseling (andmaybe some medication) for your paranoia condition
2006-07-21 09:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no way to completely get it out of your head especially if you've been cheated on before. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months and sometimes I get the feeling he might do it because sometimes he doesn't answer his phone, but the thing is he likes to spend time thinking a lot so he doesn't answer his phone all the time. I understand this and I sometimes still think that he might be doing something with someone else.
It's just a insecure thing and there's not much to make you secure if you've been done wrong in past relationships.
Just try to see if you could give her some space and if you are at peace with that then you will eventually get over the feeling.
Oh and by the way my boyfriend lives 3 states away.
2006-07-21 09:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"im a 17yo and i have an incredible girlfriend (16yo), were much in love,(ive been in 2 really long relationships so i know the difference between puppy and =D love and they were both with older girls)," FYI - At your age, you don't know jack. You don't pay all your bills and you have no clue what it is like to support yourself or anyone else. Sex has possible consequences, and a kid is something (from reading your post) you won't be able to handled. Oh, and if the last thing you want is "lose her", you shut up, join the YMCA and go work out your sexual anxiety lifting or running...
2016-03-27 02:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stressing way to much, at this rate you are bound to drive her away. Lighten up you said yourself you know she is not cheating you are making your self sick for nothing. The only advise I can give on controlling your feelings is to see a doctor maybe he can give you something. Plus constantly tell your self she is not cheating and when she doesn't answer just don't assume what she is doing it could be anything. If she dose cheat on you there is nothing you can do about if your smart you will lighten up before you drive her to cheat.
2006-07-21 09:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, Grab your junk and squeeze everytime you have those thoughts. If it feels great she's cheating if it hurts, punch yourself in the junk because you're a jerk for thinking she's cheating.
2006-07-21 09:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by zetser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is one of those questions that is so cute but kinda of creepy at the same time. CALM DOWN!!! breathe! people who are all consumed with the idea that their partner is cheating on them becuase they themselves are doing the cheating. Are you behaving yourself out there?
2006-07-21 10:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you love her but don't trust her enough and that can't be because trust is the most important foundation of every relationship. You can't do something to increase your trust in someone else, you'll have to love her enough in order to trust her more.
2006-07-21 09:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i sort of no how u feel and i dont think there is a way to get that feeling out of u it is always in my mind but all i have to say is that just trust and believe in her i hope this helps
2006-07-21 09:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by sassy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes your instincts are correct...you probably feel this way for a reason...Is she a little ho?? .....maybe she couldn't answer the phone for a reason...you think maybe she was pulling her panties up before she called you??? 18 months?? Dude, your screwed!!
2006-07-21 09:18:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be scared too but you have 2 trust her.......if you cant trust her then you shouldnt be together......just kno that she isnt......if she truly loved you bak as much as you luv her then she wont....... hope i helped.......scary bear
2006-07-21 09:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by scary bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋