How many women have VALUES and plan to marry before having children?

Answer 1

Women who have children and are not married have values, they just don't have *your* values.

Answer 2

Well, if you are suggesting that women who have children before getting married then you are sadly mistaken. As people, we have certain values or standars that we tend to hold oursleves and others to. Sometimes other's don't meet our standars, sometimes they do. The interesting thing is that sometimes we don't meet our own standards or values that we have for oursleves. Some people may refer to this as making a mistake. We all do it. Just because someone has children before she is married does not mean that another who got lucky enough not to be prgnant after premarital intercourse is any better. The only safe sex is no sex. Maybe you should rephrase your question and tie the values to the act of sex itself and not the result of children. Of course if you did I would hold the same view; a mistake is a mistake. I, myself am not married and have had no children but I would never ever make the assumption that someone who has had children before marriage has little or no moral values. Try to think of all the times you've let even yourslef down. Would you really want someone to make continuous assumptions about you because of it? Or hold those decisions against you? I hope you learn some more compassion and tolerance in this area in your life. To answer your question, alot of women have values. In fact, generally speaking, all women have values. Their values are their own and not yours. And just because they have those values does not mean that they don't ever fall short. I'm sure you are a good person. I can tell that moral standards are something of importance to you and I applaud you for it. That is why I'm sure you will come around and understand the importance of not judging others and I'm sure you will come to value that as well.

Answer 3

I have always planned that. Was taught that situation is the best for all. And yes it is. But, life happens and I ended up getting pregnant. NOT what I wanted. I wish to God that I would have been smarter about things. I do have values..I didn't follow them because the "moment" was more important. Yet, today I have a higher respect for values and the women who follow thur. Unlike me. You have a point to your question.

Answer 4

My children were not born in marriage but their father and I have been together for 12 years this August. I am in no hurry to get married nor was I to have children. I was medically UNABLE to take birth control So I have 2 children and my tubes are tied. Just because you want to wait to chave children doesn't make your values better than mine just different. and just because I am not married...We have been together alot longer than some people are married so that has no bearing on children does it?

Answer 5

I had values. I have been married for 5 years. I was 28 when I got married and I was still a virgin. We were married 2 years when we had our son. And our 2nd child is due in Dec.

Answer 6

I have very strong values. Im married and carrying our first child & we are so excited!
I do know that it does not always happen that way in todays world. Somtimes life just happens and as long as the individuals step up to the plate and gives that child a good home and lots of love, how could anyone complain.

Answer 7

ME. i am married and have 2 children..

marrage is more than a piece of paper its a change in life and an commitment ppl that just date attened to cheat cuase thay are not tied down to one person. and yes a person that is married and has kids have more values than a singel person with kids.. u know what thay call an unmarried person with kids....... a WHORE. there are many reasons to get married to show ur love for one and nother and that u want to spend the rest of ur life with that person... i am 21 yrs old and have been married almost 2 years now and we have 2 wonderful baby boys

Answer 8

I had my 1st kid before I got married to his father, and we're still together, and have 2 beautiful kids together. What business do you have asking such a question? Not all people are without values just because they have children before they marry.

Answer 9

Alot of God fearing good women are choosing to be single parents today.That tells me they have very strong values toward life.Just because a woman has a child out of wedlock does not in any way sugest she has no values.In fact it proves just the opposite that she is a strong valued person who chooses life.

Answer 10

I am pregnant and not married, but I am not a whore! I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and we do intend to marry, but we will not be rushed for the wrong reasons! Poeple who do this are often miserable and do not value themselves in the long run!

Answer 11

this is kinda a mean questions, just because someone isn't married when they have a child doesn't mean they have any Values. My boyfriend and I are not married but we have a stronger relationship then 90% of our married friends. all marriage is is a piece of paper, why does a piece of paper make you have Values? I vowed my life to my boyfriend and we are happy and Committed to each other, but do we have to have a little piece of paper to prove it?