This is going to be long to warn you but the best answer know what they get. My boyfriend and I have been arguing for the last 3 days. He thinks Im lying and talking to some other guy. I told him no because im not.He still doesnt believe me so then he askes me to promise him. Yeah i can do that but I want him to trust me and believe what im telling him. I told him why should i have to promise him. I want him to believe me. So i dont promise and now he thinks that i want promise him because i will feel bad about me cheating. He's insane! SO last night night i told him that i didnt want to talk to him intill he can trust me. I want to make him miss me, I want to make him feel bad, and realize how wrong he was and how miserable he is without me. Now that might sound childish but he deserves it. Ive been nothing but a good woman to him and he just makes me feel like i messed something up. So what would you ladies do too make him feel like that. Email me tyfrnlkin@yahoo.com Holla!
2006-07-21 08:59:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's no room for childish behavior in relationships. No matter how good it feels!
If it'll make him feel better if you promise, just do it.
However, that'll just get you over this hurdle. If he has trust issues with you, ask yourself why? CAN he trust you? Or is he insecure? If he's insecure, there's not a damned thing you can do about it. That kind of jealousy has little to do with what is actually going on. You'll either have to be patient and suggest he get some counseling or just dump him.
2006-07-21 09:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anybody that is this obsessed with his girlfriend cheating on him is either cheating, or was cheated on. Honestly, Sugar, sounds like your main squeeze needs some therapy, or you need to kick him to the curb. Holding on to the past, or for that matter, trying to have your cake and eat it to are two things that will certainly end the relationship. If it's an issue from his past, perhaps this might take years to overcome. At any rate, he certainly isn't ready to date again if this is a wound from a former flame. On the other hand, trying to teach a bad dog good tricks is a feat in itself. Not that cutting ties to someone you've formed a bond with is easy, but in the long run, you'll thank yourself if you get rid of him now, and save yourself future heartbreak and drama.
Lastly, don't think that giving him the silent treatment, or making him stay out in the cold for a few days will do the trick either. If he's sure you're cheating on him, then this will just solidify his crazed idea that you are cheating on him, and that you have a spare hottie on the side. And if he's just a cheating dog, the time away will not be spent thinking on how he could make the relationship better...he'll no doubt be out shopping for another honey to mistreat...just like you.
Solutions? How close are you? Could you two actually talk and get to the bottom of this? Would he be honest with you if you asked some questions? Or would he blow up and spit the same old stuff? If you both can talk about this and work to a better relationship, then go for it. But if not? That's a big cue for you to move on.
Good luck!
2006-07-21 09:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by kadara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You telling him you don't want to talk to him is making it worst because he is not looking at it as you want him to know you are a good woman...he's over think that you do have someone else.(man don't think the way we do) there is nothing wrong with you promising him that you are not cheating. if you love him let him know he is the only one.
2006-07-21 09:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by LASHANNA P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a talk with him and ask him why he doesn't trust you. Also ask him if maybe he might have guilty conscience, because most of the time someone cheats they blame the other (happened to me).
2006-07-21 09:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing, I would probably do the same thing too, but hopefully he is not all of as sudden acting that way because he is doing something and thinks you could be too.
2006-07-21 09:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing i would do is ask him what HE has been up to.I have found that usually a person who can't trust,can't BE trusted.So you see,it might not be about you after all
2006-07-21 09:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by sandy v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋