I'm not with the father. Nor do I care to ever be. But I would like to date eventually. Do guys care?
2006-07-21 08:58:57 · 41 answers · asked by Hutch777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well it depends on what your looking for. how old are you? Some guys do mind and some dont. Me personally being 29 and not a father I used to not date girls with kids cause it kinda puts a damper on going out and doing things but now Im older and I do look at it a lil different so it just depends on the maturity of the guy and what he wants out of life. Good luck on finding someone:)
2006-07-21 09:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by larrybeveridge 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother had 2 babies in diapers when she met my father.
He not only fell in love with her but also with her children
they married and then I came along
my brother & sister never new any other father since they were so young when their birth father split
All three of us were equally loved by both of our parents and lived happily ever after
NOT A FAIRY TALE ! TRUE STORY !
Your daughter is a blessing to you ! And an asset ! If a guy doesn't want to date you because you have a child, he's probably not a very good choise for you any way.
also his reaction to your daughter can be a pretty good 'Litmus Test" as to his personality. & allways follow your gut insticts & your heart & above all use your head
Good Luck
by the way my brother & sister are 1 year apart in age & I'm 26 months younger than my sister so love came Quickly to our family and I'm over 50 so this is not advice from a 'youngster'
2006-07-21 16:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by Vicky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I had 4 kids when I left my first husband and then dated. What I did was time manage. I did not have the luxery to drop and leave on the spur of the moment, but I could plan ahead of time. Usually guys were willing to plan a date. So I would wait for kids to be going to bed and hire a sitter. I would not let guys meet kids and usually went out. ONLY after they passed as suiteable guys did I let them come to my house and later meet kids. As for the father...he was not around and did not need to know. Some guys cared, but usually only when things were getting more serious. I found some only wanted the freedom to date and no commitment and since I did not let them meet kids right away they were OK with it too. Personally I wouldn't mix kids and dating in the same scean....separate them. Later when your ready and they seem ready to meet...let them meet. Just remember its not fair to mess with the childrens emotions and let them get attached and then see the new guy go. You should not have any problems dating because you have a kid.
2006-07-21 09:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by m0mmatcat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys do and some guys don't. The ones who do care, don't really matter. Your daughter is #1 and if a guy doesn't want to go out with you because of her, then you are both better off without him. I have not ever had problems dating although I was a single mother. I was just careful who I let around my child. Anyone who didn't want to go with me because of my son was definitely not worth my time.
2006-07-21 09:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by adm2576 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. There are more men out there that are willing to take on the responsibilty of taking care of someone else's child. I have two and not with the father and I found a wonderful man who loves them both as they were his own.
2006-07-21 09:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by littlemama025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, not a problem getting dates, the problem is that kid comes first. So I'm thinking it's going to be about 18 and a half years before you can truly get serious with someone! Good Luck!
2006-07-21 09:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by fromdheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. in fact, the sheer fac that you've had a kid, regardless of whether it's with you or not will effect the man's decision to date you. it's another suitcase in your collection of emotional baggage. (no offense intended, but this is how men will see it.) they will steer clear to avoid you. your chances of finding someone are virtually zero for the first six to ten years. after that, the child is less needy, and then men will begin to consider you a possible dating candidate once again.
2006-07-21 09:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys do but there are a lot of guys out there who doesn't care. If they care and they do not want to include your daughter they do not want you. Let this type of person alone.
2006-07-21 09:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Genenerally they don't, although younger guys may moreso than 30 and over...
But ya know what? It's okay of some mind, because that's their right...just as some wouldn't want to get seriously involved with a woman who didn't want to have kids...it's all okay...
There are plenty who won't have a problem that you are a single mother...don't worry...
2006-07-21 09:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were a single guy and loved being with you and you had a daughter, thats all the more fun. Especially for a guy that loves kids. Go for it. Good luck.
2006-07-21 09:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋