am i crazy or should i follow my dreams?

Question

i have desided a while back to join the army i am a mother of 3 i love my kids and want them to have a good life since my divorce my options seem slim to none i feel this way i can prove for them while bettering myself but now we have another great threat of war i want this bad but at the same time im scared of whats to come

well let me add a few more details before everyone bashes me as a mom its actually national guard i will be gone 4 mths at first yes theres still chance of deployment but not as high my children would stay with my mother who loves them dearly and after i was finished with the process it would open so many doors for them so my heart is in the right place i am thinking of my children when asking this question i could die tomorrow on my way to a min wage job and there left with nothing to help them but with this i feel i could not only further my education but there security in life if i was not here i do love my kids with all my heart and only care for there well being i would die to see them live anyday of the week thank you

Answer 1

OK, we all can dream, but then we have to come back down to earth & take care of our responsibilities.
You said you want your kids to have a good life. Do you think being away from them when they're growing up is going to give them that? You can better yourself by taking courses in a field that will help you provide for your family. I bet you can get financial aid if you apply. Or you can try to get on-the-job training & get paid while you learn.
Think twice about what this will really do to your kids.

Answer 2

Well first off the army would get your feet in the door. Something else to all of you saying she shouldn't or you need to think about your kids, she is thinking about her kids she wants to provide a better life for them. Even if there is a chance that she could be killed at least her kids will be taken care of for the rest of their lives. # 2.) Who gave you guys the right to judge her for trying to provide a better life for her kids. If your heart is set on joining then buy all means do what you think is right in your heart, yes you will have to sign over your rights until you get out of basic training, and school. But when you get done with that you will have your kids and a better life and no worries about who will take care of them if you go off to war. You have your family to help you and support you I wish you the best and good luck on making you mind up.

Answer 3

You should always follow your dreams, but just remember that even though you could die on your way to a minimum wage job, the chances of you getting deployed and dying are MUCH MUCH higher. I could get in a vehicle accident tomorrow, but if I drink and drive my chances are higher. What we (as parents) have to do is weigh the pros and the cons. I personally think it would be extremely selfish to leave your children for 4 months if you don't have to.

Obviously this is your choice, not mine - you know more about your situation than I do. Just remember if you go and leave for 4 months that they are going to resent you for it. They might resent you for the rest of their lives, or they might grow up (and mature) and understand why you did it. I remember my mom left me with my grandma for a month when I was like 4 and I resented her for it for a LONG LONG LONG time..

Good luck. Do a lot of praying on it before you decide anything!

Answer 4

You are crazy to go to the war and living your 3 kids. Have you watch the movie "Private Ryan"?
If you die you wont be there for your kids.
I think you just feel lonely, talk to your friends, I'm a single mother to. The army is not the solution when you have 3 kids.
Think again.

Answer 5

to be a parent is far more important than any war, army or dream in this world.
I know it is hard. I am a single mother of 3 kids, but no war, no army, no dream (nothing) would ever separate me from them, as it is up to me.
Think over and take the right decision!
Just look around, or ask for help, I am sure there are other solutions to care for them. They need you.

Answer 6

You have to make a choice, join the army for yourself, or stay with your children, for their sake. It seem like a no brainer to me but when you decide to take on the responsibility of children, shouldn't you do just that? Take responsibility? or let someone else raise them while you are away for a year or 2 or hell, maybe never come back.
There are other options in life to look at in order to raise your children, like going back to school.

Answer 7

I admire you for your courage. No one can tell you what you should do. Follow your heart. The military offers many great opportunities. Do you have someone you trust to watch after your children while you are away? Do you have a will? Just in case you do have to go to war. You need to make sure your children are taken care of.

Answer 8

I was an army brat for 23 years, I got to go the Spain, France, Germany, Texas, Africa, Morocco, Italy, New York, North & South Carolina. I enjoyed every minute, I got to go place that people dream about. Go for it!!!

Answer 9

You have a right to be concerned. Even if you are a non-combatant, and you are stationed in a war zone, there is a good chance you may be maimed, or killed. Who will take care of them then?

Answer 10

Don't, join cause you just may not come back, or, ever see your childern again if you go. It's just to Dangerous now. Try something else that might have been a dream of your's.