HELP!!! my 7yrold...?

Question

my 7yrold has been pobbing in his pants and also can't wipe himself good enough. How can I get him to go on the potty. He's excuse is he don't push so he didn't pobb, Or he doesn't know why. Know my 4yrold started doing this yesterday. I can't take this and it's grose. I'/ve tred punshing him but he still does it. The bad thing is when he does this he WONT chage himself he will sit in it all day or untill I smell it. HELP PLEASE.....

Answer 1

This could be a very common problem that some children have, my son did, they have trouble completely emptying their lower intestines. It is a medical problem punishment won't help I can tell you from experience they can't help it they don't really feel it and sometimes when they do go they aren't aware that they aren't done and get that tire tread in their underwear. And sometimes they just go in their pants. Our doctor prescribed a miracle for our son called Miralax. It is a non habit forming type of laxative that is mixed with a beverage morning and night. We used chocolate milk in the morning and a small milkshake at night so it was more like a treat than medicine. Please see a doctor before this gets any worse it is really hard on the child's self image. My son used this med for a few months and his body retrained itself to know when and how much to go and it has been a wonder for the whole family. Good Luck e-mail me if you want any more details.

Answer 2

This problem is called encopresis, and your pediatrician might not want to talk about it (no one does, it's embarrassing.) You should still take him in, though, to rule out any other thing this may be.

My son went through the same thing.

I wound up ordering the Clean Kid Manual, which gave me step by step instructions on how to handle this.

Ironically, your son knows this is bad, and he doesn't want to have accidents, so what he's doing is he's holding this in, and eventually the body has to eliminate, and thus he has accidents.

The Clean Kid Manual points out that oral laxatives are tricky, since the digestive tract is so long that it's hard to tell when they will work.

Pick the same time every day, after school, or at night, or whenever is easiest for you. Serve your kid a snack and a drink, and make him relax for 15 minutes. Either sitting down or lying down. Then, after 15 minutes, have him go sit on the potty for 3 mintues (you will need a kitchen timer, or an egg timer)

The child should repeat the sits four times. 15 minutes of rest, then three minutes of trying to go.

He should produce about a half a cup of poo a day.

The clean kid manual also advises (and I have tried it, and this really does work)

the use of a "bottoms up" approach. After two tries on the potty with no poo, give him a glycerin suppository, and with a lubricated pinky finger, insert it as far as your middle pinky joint. If there is still no poo after four tries, then give him an enema, and then he sits until he poos, which will be within 2-3 minutes.

This is going to be a drag, but the point of all of this is that your son is actually retaining poo, which is enlargening his colon so that he doesn't notice when he needs to go, which makes him avoid pooing.

The clean kid manual was written by an MD, and you can order it online (it was the best 55 bucks I have EVER spent, because the system works, and it made me understand why my kid was doing this)

Your kid is not changing and stuff because he's embarrassed about this, and he doesn't want youto find out. Don't punish him for this, this is something that is actually quite common in boys.

Good luck, remember that you arent' alone and you can work with your kids to stop this from happening.

Answer 3

wow! I'm not sure I understand your question, but I will try to help. If your 7 year old is pooping his pants, the minute you notice it, take him to the bathroom. Hopefully he will have a firm stool. If so, make him take down his pants and underwear, and kind of "fling" (for lack of a better word) the poop in the toilet and let him know that's where poop goes. Then show him how to wipe, and I suggest using baby wipes because it's going to be all over his ****, and a baby wipe won't be as abrasive. Then change his clothes. It's preferable to give him a bath after this but you may not always have time for this. Explain to him that accidents happen, and you understand that, but you want him to try really hard to use the toilet for what it is intended. Don't punish him. Some kids may not know they are going, I'm serious, I have a friend who's son would sh!t his pants and never know, so if that is the case, seek medical advice, if not, he may just be too busy playing to want to take the time to go to the bathroom. It isn't as gross to a 7year old to sit in his own feces. Last straw? Make him sleep with the underwear next to his face, like on a pillow. Don't want you to go to jail or anything behind it, so maybe not. LOL If it gets serious, he MAY need a psychiatric evaluation, but that's an extreme case.

Answer 4

You may need to talk to the pediatrician about possible causes for this. If he is really having a bowel movement. If he actually just not wiping well enough so that feces ends up in his under clothes then there are things you can do to help him. Get kid wipes instead of toilet paper , watch him wipe for a while to ensure he is using the propper technique and give him any pointers and put a hand held mirror in the bathroom so he can "check his work". I had this problem with my little guy when he was 6 and these things stopped the problem in about 2 weeks. Sometimes they just aren't coordinated enough at first and they don't really understand the process fully. Good luck.

Answer 5

First and foremost, take your children to a doctor and rule out a medical reason. I'm sure you wouldn't want to punish them for something they can't help, right? My best guess, as a fellow parent, not a doctor, is that they may have emcompresis. It runs in families and the children cannot help it. Check out: http://www.naspghan.org/assets/diseaseInfo/pdf/Encopresis-E.pdf
for some facts. As for your four year old who won't change his soiled pants, that's normal for children with this disability. The sad part is, often they don't even realize they have soiled themselves until they smell it too! Educate yourself and get your children to the doctor TODAY. If it is encompresis, it's a lifelong disability that they can control with diet, a set amount of exercise based on when they ate and what they ate, as well as set times to sit on the toilet. I wouldn't punish them for this any more than I'd punish them for having a particular eye color. They can't help it and they can't change it. Making the situation worse, is that stress exacerbates encompresis, so every time you point it out or chastise them, you are actually causing it to happen again. I wish you the best of luck. It's not a fun road to travel, but you obviously love your children or you wouldn't be looking for an answer. I hope your doctor is able to help them.

Answer 6

You need to slow down, calm down and give yourself a break.
Is your son developmentally delayed? How long has this been going on? This should not be an issue for a 7 year old. Is his bowel loose, runny or watery? How is his diet?
Issues around toileting are usually about control. Children who feel that they have no control will control the things that you can't do anything about. Punishing him will just make things worse.

Bowel problems can also point to sexual abuse.
You need professional help. You need to see a psychologist to help you sort this out. Then, you can work with the psychologist to help your sons

Answer 7

Take him to a good Pediatrician to make sure he's not constipated. Sometimes, the pain of constipation makes a child not want to sit down and push. Worst case scenario, your child might be a Fecalphiliac.

Answer 8

Two possible solutions. One: When he poops his pants make him clean his pants out in the toilet. Two: If he doesn't wipe well try some baby wipes on the back of the toilet for when he poops but if it still happens have him clean out his pants. I did this with my daughter and the pooping in the pants stopped.

Answer 9

I would seek professional help with this one. Consider seeing your family doctor or pediatrician. By seven your son shouldn't have these issues.

Answer 10

well maybe ask them if hey got to go and make sure that they understand what they need to do. i have a 4 and 7 8 yr old and none of them do that. they even wipe them selfs. my 2 yr old does it on her pulls up but then she latewrs puts it in the toilet. try pull ups for big kids. but make sure you really talk to yor 7 yr old.